Attraction: Playful Teasing, Validation And Trust

I want to share something very important with
you regarding attracting women, and that is the
connection between THREE important elements
of attraction.

The first one is this concept of PLAYFUL teasing.

So the whole point behind this is that you are
doing several things at once.  By playfully
teasing her, you are showing that you aren’t
worshiping her, so that you are making it
clear you are not beneath her and not
supplicating to her. 

Yet you are ALSO showing that you and her
can be PLAYFUL with each other and not have
to be FORMAL and not have to follow social
conventions---and by doing all that, you create
the atmosphere that is FLIRTATIOUS.

Now, let me be really clear here about this playful
teasing stuff: 

On ONE hand, this is SUPER important, ESPECIALLY
for men living in the western world where third wave
feminism has really brainwashed men into supplicating
to women, and supplication ALWAYS destroys attraction.

So this playful teasing is a way to IMMEDIATELY
make it clear that you are not supplicating.

But so many guys end up CALIBRATING their teases
INCORRECTLY in the following ways:

They go too far, and they come across as MEAN.
Or they simply aren’t funny, they just come across
as goofy or weird. Or the guy just keeps on doing
it again and again and again and doesn’t know
when to stop, and then comes across as mean
again, or lacking social skills.

So one of the MOST IMPORTANT things to remember
regarding playful teasing is to PAY CLOSE ATTENTION
to the specific woman you are interacting with.

The more she seems to ALREADY VALUE you, or
respect you, or be giving you her attention, the
LESS intense your tease should be, and in fact you
may even be able to ABANDON the whole tease
and JUST be playful with her, and accomplish
the same goal of creating a non-formal and
flirtatious vibe.

And this is where I need to bring up the third-wave
feminist stuff again.

Because I promise you, it is NO COINCIDENCE that
almost EVERY SINGLE TIME that my students (and
in my own personal experience in terms of the women
I have dated and been in relationships with) were able
to SKIP the heavy teasing or other related ideas, it was
with women who were from countries where third-wave
feminism never took off.

Whether it was women from countries in South America
or parts of Eastern Europe or certain other countries,
they were always countries where the man-hating versions
of feminism never took off.

And it makes perfect sense, because these women
haven’t been indoctrinated with toxic attitudes towards
men.

And the IRONY, just by the way, of course, is that
when a man experiences what it feels like to have
this kind of NATURAL woman, who is more positive
in her attitude toward men, it makes a man WANT
to treat her even BETTER, it makes him OF COURSE
want to respect her to the ULTIMATE MAX, because
most men LOVE women, when things are not distorted
by a crazy society.

The UNIVERSAL point here, though, is that the
TEASING part is something that is there to show
that you aren’t supplicating, but if you are chatting
with a woman who doesn’t even EXPECT or THINK
you WOULD be supplicating, then there is NO NEED
for it!

And in fact, it would be COUNTER-PRODUCTIVE.

It could easily come across as MEAN-SPIRITED.

Again, this is a CULTURAL thing.
Think about how Britney Spears releases a song, and
this is a woman with MILLIONS of teenage girl fans,
and her song says, “It’s Britney, bitch” in the lyrics.

Or all the songs by female pop stars about how
they are in charge and promiscuous etc, etc.

This is an EROSION of values, of femininity.

But not all cultures think this is COOL for women.
And more importantly, the women in many cultures
think this is DISGUSTING.

CULTURE is very, VERY important.
And we are living in a culture that goes AGAINST nature.
It tries to turn women into men, and men into women.

But within any dominant culture, there are subcultures.
So it is still possible to meet women who don’t subscribe
to the third-wave feminist thinking- and this includes not
only women who have recently moved here from
countries with better attitudes towards men, but
also it includes women who grew up in families
where the old-school values were somehow still
kept intact.

So, to translate this into a practical example, if you
are about to approach a woman you see somewhere,
and she is giving off a friendly vibe to you from the
GET-GO, like smiling at you, or any other kind of
friendly attitude from the start, you really should
HOLD OFF from the teasing part, and just keep
it playful and confident in other ways.

Let your TONALITY and body language show your
confidence and your flirty vibe.

Also, even when interacting with women who are
more typical of western women, as soon as they
show signs of ATTRACTION, e.g. they start
asking you what your name is, they start smiling
more, maybe even touching you playfully, etc.,
it is a good idea to move to the NEXT stage
of the interaction, which is building a connection
and finding commonalities that are meaningful.

This is where it’s a good time to ask her things
like what she enjoys doing, and seeing if you
can relate to any of those things, especially
if you can relate to it in a way that is intriguing,
funny, or inspiring-and mostly just a way
that is MEANINGFUL and true.

This brings us to the NEXT related idea, which is
VALIDATION.

One of the greatest feelings we get from any social
interaction is the feelings of being ACCEPTED,
being CONFIRMED, being VALIDATED by others.

Most human beings have a need for some kind
of SOCIAL validation, approval, etc.

It is part of how we form our self-concepts.

And so this TOO is affected by the kind of values
and attitudes towards MEN that a woman grows
up with.

If she grows up in a society where she is constantly
told that WOMEN DO EVERYTHING THAT MEN
DO BUT WOMEN DO IT BETTER, and she is told
that WOMEN ARE NOBLE but MEN ARE EVIL,
etc, etc, etc., well it’s going to take MORE to
convince her that ANYTHING a man says to
her is worth anything.

So, THAT is the REASON why the TEASING
is more important in our society.  It’s because
most men are so brainwashed to supplicate
to women, especially attractive women, that
it’s not AS VALIDATING to these women when
a man gives her a compliment right out of the
blue- unless his tonality ALREADY implies
MASSIVE confidence in himself.

The TEASING shows that he is NOT going
to worship her so fast, that he has NOT already
MELTED into A PUDDLE beneath her just because
she is a woman.

So THAT makes her feel “HMMMMM. THIS
GUY MUST BE DIFFERENT.  WHY IS HE
NOT MELTING LIKE EVERY OTHER GUY?
WHAT IS IT ABOUT HIM THAT MAKES HIM
SUPERIOR?”

Now, this doesn’t happen CONSCIOUSLY,
it happens subconsciously in her brain.

So NOW, she actually WANTS him to VALIDATE
her, because she senses that unlike other men,
she does not AUTOMATICALLY have his
validation, and this REALLY TURNS HER
WORLD UPSIDE DOWN.

And it is VERY IMPORTANT to her to get it
RIGHT SIDE UP again.  This need is very
real, it strikes her on a core level in terms
of her VERY SELF-CONCEPT that her
WHOLE LIFE she has been taught that she
is SUPERIOR.  And so now EVERYTHING
hangs in the balance, and all this SKYROCKETS
the value of this guy who is NOT validating her.

And so when you DO validate her, it should be
based on a compliment that you give her for things
such as her EFFORT to treat you WELL, or based
on things she says that reflect well on her CHARACTER.

Only THEN do you validate her or compliment her.

HOWEVER, if you are so slow to validate a woman
who ALREADY respects men in general, and you
come in with a HARD tease, it is just MEAN.

And then, instead of triggering her desire to be
validated, you instead sent her a message that
you are CRUEL.

Now, obviously there is a RANGE of women’s
attitudes towards men, and they are not all
on the extremes, and also there is a RANGE
of intensities of playful teases.

This is where CALIBRATION comes in, where
you have to read the situation, read the woman’s
expressions and body language and reactions,
and you have to adjust for the situation.

NONE of this means that you are supposed to
KISS UP to women from cultures or countries
that are free from third-wave feminism, either.

These women want their men to be MEN,
and that may sound simple, but when a
man grows up in a culture that tells him
he is worthless and evil and that it is his
job to impress a woman but not vice versa,
being a man is something many men have
been conditioned to be AFRAID to show.

So believe me, these women from non-third-wave
feminist countries and cultures can TAKE a joke;
they have great senses of humor, and they
don’t want you to supplicate. 

And this leads to the final topic for today,
which is TRUST.

Without TRUST, the whole foundation becomes
very shaky, and it can destroy the initial interaction,
and it will DEFINITELY destroy any chances of a
LONG-TERM success with the woman.

Without TRUST, there is the primal ALARM
saying: DANGER! DANGER! DANGER!

And when her mind senses DANGER, she will
just want one thing- to get AWAY.

So it is REALLY important that when you are
teasing, not only that you don’t go TOO far,
but also that you don’t forget to build up the
TRUST as well, later on in the interaction.

She needs to feel she can TRUST you with not
only her PHYSICAL self, but also with her EMOTIONS.

So this is why it is of MASSIVE, MASSIVE, MASSIVE
importance to be able to also show her that she is
in good hands with you, on every level.

This is why it is important to demonstrate and have
GENUINE empathy, and to take the time to
find out about her personality, to listen well,
to make a maximum effort to create a bubble
of safety for her where she feels it is safe to
continue building this connection with you,
and to continue escalating this interaction
with you.

Now, if you are reading this right now, you can
probably tell that this level of detail can ONLY
come from YEARS AND YEARS AND YEARS
of actual EXPERIENCE with all KINDS of women.

And not only for the purpose of attraction in general,
but ESPECIALLY for the kind of attraction that leads
to REAL girlfriends, and not one-night stands.

A promiscuous woman looking for a one-night stand
is not investing emotionally, so she doesn’t require
as much when you initially try to attract her.

But if you are looking for a woman to truly be
your girlfriend, she needs to know she is making
a WISE decision.

The FASTEST way to learn how to do all this is
by taking my BOOTCAMP program, where you
will get CUSTOMIZED coaching in a private,
EXCLUSIVE bootcamp with me, and you will
actually be approaching and attracting women
in all types of public places like shops and
cafes, as I coach you one-on-one.

BOOTCAMP is at:

https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html

You can also arrange personal SKYPE consultations
with me, where I can coach you on how to not only
master the process of attracting women, but also
help you with any matter related to dating or relationships.

CONSULTATIONS are at:

https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/consultations.html

And if you haven’t yet read my book called
THE DATING WIZARD RETURNS,
then definitely do that IMMEDIATELY, at:

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This book is as important to attracting women as
OXYGEN is to LIFE.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

A GOLDEN Strategy That Attracts Women In MULTIPLE Ways SIMULTANEOUSLY

Today you are going to get a SUPER powerful

and super EASY strategy for attracting women,

that actually attracts women in MANY WAYS

all at ONCE.

And by the way, I learned this strategy from

observing-you guessed it-WOMEN.

It is a great IRONY that these days, it is WOMEN

who are the ones that show OVERWHELMING

confidence with the opposite sex, and it is not

MEN who are doing this with WOMEN.

This is because women grow up in an environment

that constantly tells them how AMAZING they are

for men, while men grow up in an environment telling

them how TERRIBLE they are to women, and how

men must pay for women, prove themselves to women,

and die for women, while women owe men NOTHING.

So what I am going to show you today is something

to put a MASSIVE AMOUNT OF ATTRACTIVE POWER

back in your hands when you are interacting with women.

And not just any women, but especially the women

who are typical in western society today, and even

more so if they are attractive.

Before I get started, I just want to quickly print

one of the emails that came in today from the

readers regarding the latest newsletter:

LETTER:

Michael,

As always you are so far ahead of the game.

If you are not killing it business-wise above

and beyond the competition, it's because the

masses just don't get it sometimes.

They don't recognize quality.

I really hope you grow from strength to strength

in your business, you deserve it for having the

most spot-on, timely, factual deep-level thinking

about the dynamics between men and women today.

The stuff about simple, wholesome, no b.s.

women from some overseas countries not affected

by feminization is so true, and the old v crappy new

Ghostbusters comparison is funny as well because

it is also true.

Seriously, feel free to use this email as an example

of some positive feedback from one of your avid

readers if you like, ok?! ;)

Sincerely,

Flynn Bryant

Sydney, Australia

MY COMMENTS:

Thank you, Flynn, first of all for the kind words.

One of the main DRIVES I have is to be the

guy who actually helps men who want to get

a GREAT GIRLFRIEND that would make for

a truly successful LONG-TERM relationship.

And in the western world with third-wave feminism

running amok, that really DOES require skill and

insight.

There are three aspects to it:

ONE is the FINDING of a quality woman to begin with;

a woman who hasn’t been corrupted with promiscuity,

being spoiled, and with a lack of appreciation for men

who are loyal, hard-working, and thoughtful.

TWO, is men learning to GET BACK THEIR CONFIDENCE

with WOMEN, because this society tends to turn men

into wusses with women who will SUPPLICATE to

any woman just because she is attractive, or just because

she is a woman.

And for a woman, a man without confidence is

UNATTRACTIVE, while a man with confidence

is HIGHLY ATTRACTIVE.

THREE is the mastering of all the skills that AMPLIFY

attraction, such as how to create sexual tension, how

to create intimate bonds, how to bridge to the erotic

side of things, and many other related skills.

My materials and programs focus on all THREE aspects of

success in getting a great quality woman.

So, thanks again, and on that note, what TODAY’S

newsletter is going to show you is a SUPER POWERFUL

strategy that you can use in almost ANY interaction with

women to show that you have SUPREME CONFIDENCE

in yourself, especially in regards to your confidence with

women.

So, here’s how it works:

The first part involves something you already

KNOW hopefully, and is not the main focus

of this newsletter, but I need to mention it

because what I am teaching you today is

HIGHLY CONNECTED to this part.

So, one of the big “attraction creators” is playfully

TEASING a woman, which is a form of playfully

BREAKING rapport instead of what most guys

do, which is try to CREATE rapport by kissing

up in various ways, such as immediately giving

massive compliments to women.

For example, if a woman has a bright purse, you

might say to her, “Hey, how many batteries does

that thing take to stay so bright?”

If she is sitting on the floor in the bookstore aisle

with her Starbucks coffee and she is reading the

books rather than paying for them, you can tease

her with a comment like, “Sure, treat it as a library!

That way, someone else will have to pay for a

used book that you already read! NICE.”

Now, obviously, you have to calibrate properly,

and deliver this PLAYFULLY, not in a mean way.

But here is the thing that I want to mention TODAY:

Whether you playfully tease her or not, it is VERY,

VERY LIKELY that at some point in the conversation

with her, she will TEASE YOU back.

And the truth is, this is actually a very GOOD sign

that she is HIGHLY ATTRACTED to you.

It means that she UNDERSTANDS that you are

FLIRTING, and she is now FLIRTING back.

And let me just quickly state here that the whole

SUBCONSCIOUS reason why this stuff is so attractive

is because it shows CONFIDENCE in one’s inherent

DESIRABILITY.

If you think about it, attraction is TRIGGERED by

SIGNS of the other person’s GENETIC value.

Men in every culture and every society SHARE a

preference for women with the SAME waist-to-hip

ratios!  This is because women with those ratios

tend to be more capable of CHILDBIRTH.

And women tend to be attracted to signals from

men that show that these men are inherently

desirable based on either things like SKILLS,

leadership, status, social alliances, etc, etc.

Well, when you BEHAVE in a way that shows

CONFIDENCE in yourself, you are helping a

woman to SUBCONSCIOUSLY feel that you

MUST be desirable on a very DEEP level.

So, that is one of the reasons the PLAYFUL

TEASING is so powerful.

Now that I have given you the mini-dissertation

on all the BACKGROUND info, let me tell you

how to CONTINUE to show MASSIVE CONFIDENCE

when a woman TEASES you BACK.

What you should do is NEVER argue.

NEVER get defensive.

DON’T get upset.

INSTEAD, you should AGREE with her and

even TAKE what SHE said even FURTHER!

So, for example, let’s say you teased her regarding

her sitting on the floor in the bookstore with her

coffee and reading the books there instead of

buying them, and she laughs and then says

to YOU something like this:

“It’s so wrong, I know. But I am reading real books,

are you at the comic book section usually?”

So at this point, you have TWO directions you

can go in, and one is ATTRACTIVE, and one

is UNATTRACTIVE.

The UNATTRACTIVE one is where you start to

try to explain how you are so smart and how you

read complicated, highly challenging books, and

explain how smart you are and what you studied,

ETC.

All THAT would do, though, is show INSECURITY

and a lack of social intelligence in understanding

that she was flirting back with you.

The ATTRACTIVE response is where you AGREE

with every WORD she said and even take it

FURTHER TO THE EXTREME.

So, for example, you respond with:

“I am ONLY in the comic book section.  I love the

PICTURES, and pretty soon I might even get to

to the part with READING actual WORDS!!!!!”

This does SEVERAL things at once:

It shows you are CONFIDENT.

It shows a sense of HUMOR.

It shows EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.

It shows SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE.

And it shows you know how to FLIRT.

One of the IRONIES is that this level of

CONFIDENCE in one’s self is something

that more WOMEN are developing today

with the OPPOSITE sex than MEN are

developing with the opposite sex!

This is because WOMEN are bombarded,

in western culture, with messages of

EMPOWERMENT and “You’re worth it!”

and “You go, girl!” and “Girl power!!!!”

and “Women KICK BUTT!” while MEN

in our culture are being bombarded by

messages of having to APOLOGIZE

for even BEING men!

So the irony is that women, who are the

gender that is MORE attracted to things

like CONFIDENCE in the opposite sex,

are the ones that actually POSSESS

the confidence, while MEN are the ones

who tend to LACK this confidence with

the opposite sex.

And if a woman is attractive, most men don’t

even NEED her to be so confident, it’s enough

that she is attractive.

But WOMEN absolutely NEED TO SEE THIS

in men to feel attraction to men.

And again, the irony is that WOMEN are the ones

who have PERFECTED this art of expressing confidence

through words, teases, and confident RESPONSES to

teases.

In a recent film, that wasn’t a great film overall but

had a GREAT example of this ONE thing, the guy

in the movie is teasing the woman about her

COLLEGE, which is Arizona State University,

by hinting that it is PARTY university rather than

a serious place for STUDYING.

The guy goes, “Did you write your dissertation on

the collective works of RED BULL?”

(Which, by the way, would be a great playful

tease in real life!)

And the woman demonstrates SUPREME confidence

in her PLAYFUL response, when she says:

“Yeah, yeah I did. I got an A on it.”

This kind of response shows ZERO NEED to be

DEFENSIVE.

This is the LANGUAGE OF CONFIDENCE.

And if you enjoyed what you just read, remember

that this is just the TIP of the ICEBERG of what you

will learn from my PROGRAMS. 

The GREATEST people in ANY field ALWAYS have MENTORS;

they have coaches who bring out their BEST.

With COACHING directly from ME, you will UNLEASH

your power to ATTRACT WOMEN AT WILL.

How much would it be WORTH to you, if you could

go outside your door right now, see a woman you

LIKE, walk right up to her, have a brief CHAT,

and ATTRACT her to the POINT that she is

PUSHING YOU for WHEN you two are going

to meet up AGAIN?

How much is that WORTH to you?

The FASTEST way to learn is through BOOTCAMP.

That means you are right here in person with me

as I CUSTOMIZE your coaching so that it is PERSONALIZED

for YOU for the FASTEST results in attracting women.

BOOTCAMP is at:

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If for any reason you can’t IMMEDIATELY come to bootcamp,

then the NEXT best thing is personalized SKYPE cooaching

with me, at:

https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/consultations.html

And if you haven’t yet downloaded my program,

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Till next time,

Michael Marks