The Power Of GRIT Combined With SKILL & KNOWLEDGE In Attracting Women

I have two URGENT points for attracting
women for you today.

The first is that when you approach an
attractive woman, out of the blue, who
is a total stranger, it's important to
realize that even though most men don't
make these approaches, some men do,
and they tend to do it in a way that
really is NOT cool.

They do things like just make cat-calls,
or they expect the woman to just say
'YES!' to going out with them just on
the basis of the guy saying NOTHING except,
"Hi, do you want to go out some time?"

So this kind of thing has made a lot of women
a bit cautious or even on the surface sometimes,
and I do say SOMETIMES, a bit quick to want to
just avoid the whole interaction.

So there are TWO solutions to this,
and the best is the COMBINATION of
them BOTH:

The FIRST THING is to initially open the
conversation with something that she
just can't HELP but have a POSITIVE
emotional reaction toward.

This is why getting her giggly, laughing,
smiling, is so HELPFUL.

By the way, for my program on
CONFIDENT HUMOR, go here:

https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/humor-and-attracting-women.html 

One quick tip for humor by the way, is to
STOP censoring your WORDS & THOUGHTS and also to
start LOOKING for the FUNNY side of things
even just for your OWN entertainment.

Not mean-spirited humor, just FUNNY humor.

Another MAJOR tip for humor is that it must
be UNEXPECTED.

This is HUGE element of effective humor.

And to be UNEXPECTED, it helps if you
use a touch of CREATIVITY.

So, for example, let's say you see a woman
anywhere, especially in a line or browsing
in a store, or in some kind of social gathering,
you might say something like this:

"Hi, my name is Bazztoord.
Don't laugh, it's spelled differently."

So let's just examine this for a moment here:

Notice how this is many things at once:

1. It gets her smiling.
2. It's playful.
3. It shows you don't need approval.
4. It shows you are secure.
5. In a subtle way, it says you are a "bad boy".

And of course, DELIVERING this with that
TOTAL sense of NOT being DEPENDENT on the
OUTCOME- so that your tonality and body
language are CONSISTENT with the INTENTION
of the message.

Notice also how NONE of this is mean-spirited.
It's just playful, confident, flirty, and
says you don't need social approval to
feel great.

So this makes it WAY MORE LIKELY that she is
going to be RECEPTIVE to your approach, even
from the very GET-GO, from the very first
second, and when you SEE that in her eyes,
it can make you feel more confident.

So this is all great stuff, yet at the SAME TIME
I am SUPER CAREFUL to actually put the RIGHT
amount of emphasis on these EXTERNAL strategies, 
and not make men OVERLY-RELIANT on them either,
because MOST men want to avoid the even more
important aspects of attracting women, which 
go much DEEPER.

Allow me to explain:

Although seeing a woman LIGHT UP to your initial
humor DOES give you a good feeling, the PROBLEM
is if you JUST RELY on that, you might end up becoming
RELIANT on external MATERIAL, and you might start 
to think that it is not YOU who is attracting the woman, 
but rather that it is something EXTERNAL to you.

And THAT is not good for your confidence or your
SELF-CONCEPT in the LONG-TERM.

Also, it is CRUCIAL to realize that a big part of
humor and more importantly so much about
ATTRACTION is about your "inner game". 

And THE IRONY is that with the deep confidence
in yourself, suddenly you are able to take all that 
knowledge about humor and every other strategy
for attracting women that you have learned about 
from me, and now you can make it have TEN TIMES 
the IMPACT on attracting women that it had previously!   

Even the GREATEST comedians will tell you that
DELIVERY is MASSIVELY important, and that the
CHARACTER of the PERSON making the comedy
is A MASSIVE part of what MAKES humor work.

Whether is CK Louis, Seinfeld, Chris Rock,
we all know that we EXPECT a certain
and different CHARACTER type behind
each of these guys, and THAT CHARACTER
whether real or not, is what MAKES
a huge part of the entire humor!!!!

Similarly, your DEEP ROOTED confidence
makes your CHARACTER stand out, and
it MASSIVELY affects EVERYTHING you say
and do, making it TEN TIMES more powerful 
with women.

So this is why I try to include the
DEEP CONFIDENCE aspects in EVERYTHING 
that I teach, including the humor.

In fact, even the NAME of the above program 
on humor is called "CONFIDENT HUMOR".
 
Now, remember I said there are TWO ways to
overcome the initial concerns that a lot
of women have regarding men approaching them?

Well, the SECOND way is to simply BARREL THROUGH
ANY INITIAL OBSTACLES through using sheer GRIT.

So even if she DOESN'T have this MASSIVE
SMILE on her face when you approach her
and in reaction to whatever you said to
start the conversation, you can VERY OFTEN
just HANG IN THERE AND KEEP ON GOING
and she will simply be WON OVER by your
CONFIDENCE that is implied through your
TONALITY and BODY LANGUAGE.

And I LOVE training guys by STARTING them OUT
actually THIS way, and only THEN LATER giving
them the special EXTRA tools to make it even
EASIER.
 
This is because this way, you are forced to
SEE THE TRUTH- that women can really be attracted
to nothing but YOU. And you don't become dependent
on external tactics.

After starting out guys by working on sheer confidence,
I like to then integrate the BEST of BOTH worlds, 
where you practice FIRST with JUST BARRELING 
THROUGH, and then later mixing in the
relevant "external" tactics for each situation.
 
This way, you get BOTH the supreme confidence
with women and you also get to add more 
to your repertoire of tools to attract women 
in any situation.

Here's a fun way to think about it:

The character of "Batman" is himself a
very powerful dude. He has a great mind,
he is a great martial artist, he is
POWERFUL all on his own.

Then, he ALSO has external TOOLS, including
various devices on his belt, and of course
his Bat-Cave, Batmobile, etc.

But without the MAN himself and all the work
he has done on himself, the tools would be
POINTLESS.

Now, let's move to the even DEEPER stuff I
mentioned that I want to get to at the
beginning of this article.

DEEP INNER CONFIDENCE WITH WOMEN

The greatest IRONY about confidence and being a man,
both when it comes to success with women and also
with just about EVERYTHING ELSE IN LIFE, is that
truly confident men aren't so obsessed with
AVOIDING REJECTION.

This is because they KNOW their OWN worth, and THAT
is what drives them, and no matter WHAT other people
say or do does not change their FUNDAMENTAL self-concept,
and also what they WANT is so DESIRABLE to them that
it is WORTH the EFFORT.

Also, getting GOOD at any skill TAKES practice,
so if you refuse to get any rejection, you are
never going to do the work required to become
truly SKILLED. You'll just avoid it out of fear
of rejection.   

So the irony in this field is that if you will
not approach women due to fear of rejection,
the FIRST issue you REALLY need to break through
is your PERCEPTION of this IDEA of 'rejection'.

What does it really MEAN if a woman does NOT
give you her number, go out with you, etc.?

How does it change ANYTHING ABOUT YOU???

Real life is EXPLODING AT THE SEAMS with example
after example after example of the most INCREDIBLE
people being REJECTED over and over again, and
then breaking through to UNIMAGINABLE success.

So for example, allow me to print a review that
was published in the NEW YORK TIMES about the
ORIGINAL film called ROCKY, way back in 1976,
when it was JUST released and no one knew
just how MASSIVE of an impact this film
and its sequels and its star, Sylvester
Stallone, would have on the world-wide
BOX-OFFICE and culture for DECADES to
come. 
 
And this review was written by the most
INFLUENTIAL film-reviewer back in those
days, and in those days, unlike now when
there are a million reviews on the internet,
a reviewer like him had MASSIVE POWER 
over a film's success. 

His name was Vincent Canby.

Here is just a tiny GLIMPSE of the
HATRED he had for the movie:

He called Sylvester Stallone “the large
hole in the center of the film.”
 
Canby wrote that “Mr. Stallone’s Rocky is
less a performance than an impersonation.
It’s all superficial mannerisms and movements,
reminding me of Rodney Dangerfield doing a
nightclub monologue.”

And he stated "Throughout the movie we are
asked to believe that his Rocky is compassionate,
interesting, even heroic, though the character
we see is simply an unconvincing actor imitating
a lug.”

Well, it turns out that he was wrong.
The film ended up winning BEST PICTURE of the year,
and audiences LOVED it around the WORLD.

And life for Sly Stallone was way MORE full
of rejection BEFORE this point. Virtually
every casting director had turned him down
for any major roles in films before this point,
and he was rejected for his work as an actor,
a writer, and no one even DREAMED that he
would ever be allowed to direct anything.

The same thing has happened to just about
ALL major success stories. No one DREAMED
that Bill Gates was actually going to
REVOLUTIONIZE the WORLD with personal
computers.

In fact, IBM let him walk away
with technology he developed for them
that he believed was priceless- they 
thought it would be WORTHLESS
to anybody else, when it ultimately 
became worth BILLIONS AND BILLIONS
and BILLIONS.

Don't get caught up on what OTHERS think
of your value, and instead just EMBRACE
every single so called rejection or failure,
as THIS is the ONLY way to succeed.

This does NOT mean there isn't such a
thing as SKILL, in any area of life,
INCLUDING in ATTRACTING WOMEN.

It's about SKILL and it's ALSO ABOUT
learning from failure, and also about
EMBRACING a certain amount of rejection
even if there is not always much to learn
from it!
 
And Michael Jordan stated all of this
eloquently, and summed up his own
success this way:

'"I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career.
I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been
trusted to take the game winning shot and missed.
I've failed over and over and over again in
my life. And that is why I succeed."

Does this mean that Michael Jordan didn't have
and didn't use tons of SKILL? 

Of course it doesn't mean that. He had GRIT.
He WORKED on his SKILLS, and he EMBRACED failure as well.

These kinds of men simply don't CARE what
people who DON'T "get them" think, because they
KNOW that in LIFE, rejection and GRIT is PART of the
PROCESS, and that the only way to get SUCCESS
is to BARREL THROUGH the rejection, and they also
knew that THEY BELIEVED in their OWN stuff,
so it didn't MATTER if many or most OTHERS
did NOT appreciate THEM.

Also, this ability to BARREL THROUGH
what on the surface at first seems
like DIFFICULTY/HARD EFFORT, is really
actually an ATTRACTIVE quality called
having GRIT.

GRIT is what makes men SUCCESSFUL in ANY endeavor.

Your GENIUS and TALENT is actually NOT the
greatest indicator of your success, although
OBVIOUSLY having genius and talent is AWESOME,
but only if it comes with GRIT.

James Cameron, the guy who made The Terminator,
Titanic, Aliens, and AVATAR has said time
and again that he KNEW he wasn't the most
TALENTED, so he worked TEN TIMES HARDER.

This is GRIT once again.
And women actually get attracted to men
who DON'T fall to pieces just because
a woman isn't INITIALLY jumping up
and down immediately with excitement
for them. 
 
This is all part of BARRELING THROUGH
in the interaction with a woman you
just met.

It's one of the reasons I tell men to
STAY IN THE INTERACTION FOR AS LONG AS
POSSIBLE- it not only builds up your
resistance to the pressure and the
anxiety, but it also shows the woman
you are the kind of man who means
BUSINESS in life; who goes full tilt
after what he wants and who doesn't
give up.
 
Notice how in the rest of life,
GRIT is ESSENTIAL FOR SUCCESS.

And when it comes to attracting WOMEN,
IT'S THE SAME THING.

YOUR SELF-CONCEPT MUST NOT DEPEND ON THE OUTCOME
of the interaction with the woman.

You can't QUIT the pick-up just because it
would feel EASIER to eject and leave.

You must FEEL SO MUCH SELF-WORTH that what she
SAYS OR DOES really does NOT change ANYTHING.

And the IRONY of IRONIES here is that the
more you actually BELIEVE AND FEEL THIS,
the more you SUBCONSCIOUSLY END UP
SHOWING ALL THE RIGHT ATTRACTIVE TONALITIES
AND BODY LANGUAGE EXPRESSIONS, AND THE MORE
YOU ALSO TEND TO SAY FUNNIER STUFF,
MORE WITTY STUFF, ETC.

So if you are reading this right now, I have
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how to STOP the endless INTERNAL 'CHATTER' and
EMOTIONS that PREVENT you from taking ACTION.

It's at:

https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/approach-anxiety.html

Till next time,

MIchael Marks