Years ago, I was invited as a guest on a show called "The Men's Room" to discuss some of the most important aspects on attracting an amazing woman who would make for a great girlfriend and a long-term relationship.
I happened to come across it again, and thought that a lot of guys may enjoy it as a refresher on some of the FOUNDATIONS for creating attraction, trust, and building a powerful connection with a woman.
Here it is:
And if you are reading this now and would like to simply get this part of your life handled once and for all, I suggest you make life EASY for yourself by getting my most powerful and newest book on the subject of attracting an amazing woman.
It covers everything you need to know to go from ZERO to HAVING the woman of your dreams, to KEEPING the woman of your dreams.
It's at:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/book.html
Then, it's time to take things to the NEXT level - BOOTCAMP.
In bootcamp, I will personally instruct you on the strategies for SKYROCKETING your success on every aspect of attracting women- from how to be most effective at the approach, to getting a woman warmed up and giggly and receptive, to feeling intense attraction, to how to keep a conversation going, to how to build a powerful and deep connection with a woman, to how to overcome any "inner game" obstacles, to how to properly screen women to save yourself time, and much, much more.
And because you will be benefiting from my 13 years experience helping men in this area, you are going to find that the whole process is actually exciting, enjoyable, and a whole lot of fun!
Your personality, your goals, your style of learning, are all of UTMOST importance to me, and I build each bootcamp individually around YOUR specific requirements and preferences so that you feel COMFORTABLE while you are learning. The more you ENJOY the process, the more you are going to be SOAKING IN.
Bootcamp is a bit like driving school. So at first, I will be helping you and doing a lot of the "driving" as you observe and soak it in. In other words, I will be doing the pick-ups with you by my side. Then, gradually, I shift more and more of the "driving" over to you as you master the various skills involved in tons of "approach and attract women" situations, whether they are women in a coffee shop, supermarket, or anywhere else.
And, just like a driving instructor, I will step in when necessary to keep you on course.
Bootcamp really TRANSFORMS you. The feeling you get when you know you can attract the women you want, at will, is empowering beyond belief. This is truly one of the greatest investment you can make in your life, as the woman you end up with affects you on EVERY SINGLE LEVEL- emotionally, sexually, financially, and physically.
BOOTCAMP is at:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html
For a personal consultation, go here:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/consultations.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Thursday, April 28, 2016
Sunday, April 24, 2016
What Jerks Do RIGHT With Women
Have you ever wondered why so many
women who are stunning are with guys
that don’t seem “nice” to women?
It’s not because these women sit up at
night praying to meet a jerk.
And it’s not because these women enjoy
being mistreated.
It’s because, ironically enough, so called
“jerks” are actually GIVING WOMEN a lot
more than most guys.
In fact, what these so called “jerk” guys
are giving is so powerful, and so rare, that
NOTHING else most other guys give can
EVER compare.
So what is this powerful thing these “jerks”
are giving these women?
It is a feeling of ABUNDANCE.
And the crazy thing is, there is NO WAY
to GIVE this feeling to a woman unless
it’s OOZING out of your OWN pores to the
point that you can’t HELP but give it away!
You have INFINITE AMOUNTS of it and so
you don’t even THINK of it as “giving” and
you don’t CARE about “getting back” this
feeling from her because you are already
BURSTING with it!
What do I mean by “abundance?”
What I mean is this:
YOUR SENSE OF EMPOWERMENT AND FUN
IS INDEPENDENT OF WOMEN’S APPROVAL
This means you don’t NEED her or any
woman to VALIDATE you in order for
you to feel COMPLETE and POWERFUL.
And yet, what do MOST guys feel,
ESPECIALLY when they approach a
woman that the really like?
All of a sudden, the guys are depending
for dear life that the woman should LIKE
them.
It’s not because of these guys “care” so
much about her, it’s because THEY WANT
TO BE WANTED BY HER.
And on TOP of this, suddenly there is
this feeling of being DRAINED of their
SENSE OF BEING EMPOWERED AND
DESIRABLE.
Most guys suddenly then feel even LESS
confident, LESS empowered, and they
WANT AND NEED her validation in order
to feel good and satisfied, or even to
just feel the way they felt BEFORE
they came in contact with her!
It’s the complete OPPOSITE of abundance.
It’s a feeling of LACKING.
To a woman, she ends up feeling DRAINED
by these “vibes of weakness”, as if SHE
must GIVE herself in order for these guys
to feel worth.
So all the free dinners offered to her, and
all the favors, and all the compliments,
all this does not come CLOSE to GIVING
when the OVERALL vibes being given
off are:
“I’M NOT WORTHY OF YOU, IN FACT
I NEED YOU TO LIKE ME IN ORDER
SO THAT I MAY FEEL WORTHY MYSELF!”
This then makes all the “nice” behavior
just seem like a TRICK to disguise what
is a BAD offer:
“Take me, because even though I’m not
of value, I give you nice behavior to
make you forget that I’m not of value”.
The reality is that it’s not that you can’t
be nice to a woman; that’s not the problem.
It’s that this "NICE" BEHAVIOR usually comes
from the WRONG PLACE internally.
Meanwhile, the “jerk” has done his homework
in life, or he’s just learned the lesson in life,
to work on HIMSELF internally to create the
most POWERFUL sense of SELF,
BEFORE LOOKING TO ANYONE ELSE
TO GIVE THIS FEELING TO HIM.
There is no “leak” in his steel safe
of self-esteem. There is no way
any woman can DRAIN this reservoir
of empowerment and emotional
independence.
Also, she is not required in order
for him to keep the reservoir
of his power at "full tank".
And that’s why he has no need to
‘kiss up’. In fact, he actually has
no DESIRE to kiss up.
He just has a desire to PLAY.
This is why the REAL "playboys" are
not “pick up artists”, because real
playboys ENJOY the PROCESS;
it’s FUN and playful for them.
They wouldn’t WANT to have to
pretend to be “hard to get”, or
pretend to be “aloof” or cold,
or negate a woman’s self-esteem,
any more than they would want
to have to kiss up to women.
ALL that stuff is not natural and
not fun.
When you’re feeling playful, you
don’t feel like being aloof or cold,
or trying to trick a woman.
Guys who REALLY understand this
are extremely rare.
And of course, you can imagine
just how POWERFUL it is for
a woman when a guy like THIS
decides to actually be WARM
with her:
Only THEN is it CLEAR to a woman
that it's coming from a place of infinite
abundance, and not from a place of
needing to control her or take from her.
THAT'S why she melts for such a man.
Meanwhile, pick up artist types
AND the kiss up types are all
over the place these days.
And they are boring the heck
out of women.
Remember, a woman “in demand” has
zero need for free dinners or favors,
and even if she DID, these wouldn’t
result in ATTRACTION.
And she's not "scared into submission"
by the "hard to get" games of pick up
artists. She's WAY too confident for
that.
What DOES ignite attraction is this
deep-rooted sense of ABUNDANCE.
The feeling of inner abundance has a very
PRIMAL effect on women.
On the deepest level, it says “I am
THE MAN who will SURVIVE AND
THRIVE and will help you REPRODUCE
THE SAME KIND OF WINNERS.”
In the same way that we as men are
affected by her first on a primal
ATTRACTION level, so too she is
affected by what appeals to HER
primal emotions.
This sense of abundance is the
KEY to appealing to all her primal
emotions.
Let me give you an example:
If you are ALREADY feeling COMPLETE
and empowered and feeling UPBEAT
and feeling that in fact you have TOO
MUCH of these great emotions in you,
well then you feel that you need to
EXPRESS IT AND GET IT OUT!
That means when you see a woman
that strikes your fancy, the first impulse
is not “How do I WIN her?” but rather
“LET’S HAVE ADULT FUN!”
By adult fun, I mean the entire joy
of flirting, building a connection, and
getting intimate with a woman.
ALL OF THIS IS VIEWED AS PART OF
THE PROCESS AND FUN.
This is because you actually ENJOY
the process of the INTERACTION
itself, and you are not approaching
her to get VALIDATED.
Rather, you are approaching her to
SHARE the vibes you already have
within you that are SCREAMING
to get out anyway.
These vibes are a combination of
feeling playful and feeling attraction
to her, and feeling empowered,
masculine, and dominant.
Now, a lot of guys try to FAKE these
vibes by acting “hard to get” and playing
pick up artist games on women.
However, this ends up coming across
as insecure, bitter, and jaded.
It chases the best kind of women away,
the kind that are not only attractive
but also have heart and soul as well.
I remember when I originally used to
see certain guys being so CAVALIER
and CASUAL with women, joking around
with women, even in high school:
I remember how this one guy who looked
like Pee-Wee Herman and spoke in the
same voice as well.
His pitch was Pee Wee Herman, but not
his TONALITY- his pitch was high but
his tone revealed empowerment.
He was smiling as he told this girl who
was one of the most attractive of
all the girls in the school: Hey, how come
you don’t have the grouchy face today
like usual?
I remember thinking that she was going
to chew him up and spit him out, but
instead, she MELTED and became warm
and was all over him.
Then I found out later that he ALREADY
had a pretty damn attractive girlfriend!
This was one of my first lessons that
only became clear to me years LATER.
His comments weren’t coming from being
BITTER, they were coming from ABUNDANCE.
He was GENUINELY being playful and didn’t
NEED her to be “into him”, he just was
being a MAN.
He felt the natural attraction for her
beauty, he wasn’t trying to get her
to be his girlfriend, he was NATURALLY
exuding his masculinity more than a lot
of the JOCKS in school ever could!
On the surface, he may have looked like
the LAST thing who’d have more choice
with girls than the school jocks.
However, once any woman INTERACTED with
him, they got sucked into the vortex of
his infinite and deeply ingrained sense
of ABUNDANCE.
THIS is one of the MAIN KEYS to unlocking
all the OTHER awesome behaviors that attract
the most incredible women.
It's because when you know that you can
do NO WRONG, it’s EASY to be funny, to
be playful, to be DARING, to be sexual,
to be dominant.
There is NO DOWN SIDE, so there
is NO EMOTIONAL RISK, since you are
ALREADY having TOO MUCH good stuff
going on internally – you are doing
this interaction for the JOY of it.
It's NOT for NEEDING her “reciprocation”.
In bootcamps, one of the amazing things
is that guys come in expecting it to be all
PAIN, but end up having a GREAT TIME.
Of course this leads to even BETTER
results with the girls they meet in
bootcamp.
Allow me to go one step FURTHER and
make it even CLEARER how important
it is to be this way:
Recent studies have actually PROVEN that
women, and not JUST the attractive ones,
are VERY confident.
Imagine how much MORE confident the
really ATTRACTIVE ones are!
It is true that some women have issues
in certain areas of their lives, such as their
perceptions of their own bodies.
And even though in the corporate world,
men outnumber women when it comes to top
positions, it is a TERRIBLE MISTAKE TO
THINK THIS MEANS THAT WOMEN
ARE SOMEHOW LESS CONFIDENT.
(By the way, research has now proven that the
reasons for this gap, in the western world, have
to do with women's CHOICES of careers and lifestyles,
and has nothing to do with discrimination against women,
and in fact, in some areas, companies are actually
making it even EASIER for women than men to be hired,
in order for those companies to come across as more
"politically correct".)
Men tend to think that because of those statistics
women have LESS confidence than men!
This further contributes to making men behave
all "NAMBY PAMBY" AND WEAK AROUND WOMEN.
Meanwhile, today’s generation of women
are VERY confident, including SEXUALLY
very confident.
They just sometimes put on a SHOW that
they aren’t, in public, to prevent being
labeled as being “cheap”.
Now, imagine the DISASTER of coming
across as UNSURE, as WEAK, or as NEEDY,
with a woman who is even MORE confident
than your average woman because she
already GETS so much attention!
You MUST change your view of women,
AND you must CHANGE your internal
sense of what you NEED in order to
feel EMPOWERED.
You must DESTROY the parts of you
that think you need a woman’s APPROVAL
in order to be EMPOWERED, UPBEAT,
AND COMPLETE.
I know, it’s ironic, because when you
become THAT, you suddenly have all
the CHOICE in the world with women.
But it makes sense, because only THEN
do you become a true GIVER in the most
powerful sense of the word- GIVING THE
EMOTION OF ABUNDANCE.
When you interact with a woman from
THIS place internally, she knows you don’t
NEED her, and that you are only interacting
with her because you ENJOY it.
She knows you won’t be CONTROLLING
or JEALOUS because you can only feel
those negative emotions when you NEED
her too much.
The irony is, that she will usually then
suddenly become jealous around YOU,
and start to feel insecure if other women
are giving YOU attention.
I think you can probably see how getting
these areas of your personality unleashed
and fully developed to the MAX is ABSOLUTELY
CRITICAL for getting the kinds of choices with
women that most men will NEVER have.
And now, you have the chance to
be BURSTING forth with this power,
at a level never before POSSIBLE
until now, by downloading my
MOST POWERFUL BOOK EVER ON THE
TOPIC OF HOW TO ATTRACT THE
MOST AMAZING WOMEN ON EARTH.
Download it now by going here IMMEDIATELY:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/book.html
To learn through BOOTCAMP, where I show you
how to do make women MELT FOR YOU all in person
on women in all kinds of places from coffee
shops to bookstores to supermarkets and everywhere
else, go HERE now:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html
For a personal consultation with me, go here:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/consultations.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
women who are stunning are with guys
that don’t seem “nice” to women?
It’s not because these women sit up at
night praying to meet a jerk.
And it’s not because these women enjoy
being mistreated.
It’s because, ironically enough, so called
“jerks” are actually GIVING WOMEN a lot
more than most guys.
In fact, what these so called “jerk” guys
are giving is so powerful, and so rare, that
NOTHING else most other guys give can
EVER compare.
So what is this powerful thing these “jerks”
are giving these women?
It is a feeling of ABUNDANCE.
And the crazy thing is, there is NO WAY
to GIVE this feeling to a woman unless
it’s OOZING out of your OWN pores to the
point that you can’t HELP but give it away!
You have INFINITE AMOUNTS of it and so
you don’t even THINK of it as “giving” and
you don’t CARE about “getting back” this
feeling from her because you are already
BURSTING with it!
What do I mean by “abundance?”
What I mean is this:
YOUR SENSE OF EMPOWERMENT AND FUN
IS INDEPENDENT OF WOMEN’S APPROVAL
This means you don’t NEED her or any
woman to VALIDATE you in order for
you to feel COMPLETE and POWERFUL.
And yet, what do MOST guys feel,
ESPECIALLY when they approach a
woman that the really like?
All of a sudden, the guys are depending
for dear life that the woman should LIKE
them.
It’s not because of these guys “care” so
much about her, it’s because THEY WANT
TO BE WANTED BY HER.
And on TOP of this, suddenly there is
this feeling of being DRAINED of their
SENSE OF BEING EMPOWERED AND
DESIRABLE.
Most guys suddenly then feel even LESS
confident, LESS empowered, and they
WANT AND NEED her validation in order
to feel good and satisfied, or even to
just feel the way they felt BEFORE
they came in contact with her!
It’s the complete OPPOSITE of abundance.
It’s a feeling of LACKING.
To a woman, she ends up feeling DRAINED
by these “vibes of weakness”, as if SHE
must GIVE herself in order for these guys
to feel worth.
So all the free dinners offered to her, and
all the favors, and all the compliments,
all this does not come CLOSE to GIVING
when the OVERALL vibes being given
off are:
“I’M NOT WORTHY OF YOU, IN FACT
I NEED YOU TO LIKE ME IN ORDER
SO THAT I MAY FEEL WORTHY MYSELF!”
This then makes all the “nice” behavior
just seem like a TRICK to disguise what
is a BAD offer:
“Take me, because even though I’m not
of value, I give you nice behavior to
make you forget that I’m not of value”.
The reality is that it’s not that you can’t
be nice to a woman; that’s not the problem.
It’s that this "NICE" BEHAVIOR usually comes
from the WRONG PLACE internally.
Meanwhile, the “jerk” has done his homework
in life, or he’s just learned the lesson in life,
to work on HIMSELF internally to create the
most POWERFUL sense of SELF,
BEFORE LOOKING TO ANYONE ELSE
TO GIVE THIS FEELING TO HIM.
There is no “leak” in his steel safe
of self-esteem. There is no way
any woman can DRAIN this reservoir
of empowerment and emotional
independence.
Also, she is not required in order
for him to keep the reservoir
of his power at "full tank".
And that’s why he has no need to
‘kiss up’. In fact, he actually has
no DESIRE to kiss up.
He just has a desire to PLAY.
This is why the REAL "playboys" are
not “pick up artists”, because real
playboys ENJOY the PROCESS;
it’s FUN and playful for them.
They wouldn’t WANT to have to
pretend to be “hard to get”, or
pretend to be “aloof” or cold,
or negate a woman’s self-esteem,
any more than they would want
to have to kiss up to women.
ALL that stuff is not natural and
not fun.
When you’re feeling playful, you
don’t feel like being aloof or cold,
or trying to trick a woman.
Guys who REALLY understand this
are extremely rare.
And of course, you can imagine
just how POWERFUL it is for
a woman when a guy like THIS
decides to actually be WARM
with her:
Only THEN is it CLEAR to a woman
that it's coming from a place of infinite
abundance, and not from a place of
needing to control her or take from her.
THAT'S why she melts for such a man.
Meanwhile, pick up artist types
AND the kiss up types are all
over the place these days.
And they are boring the heck
out of women.
Remember, a woman “in demand” has
zero need for free dinners or favors,
and even if she DID, these wouldn’t
result in ATTRACTION.
And she's not "scared into submission"
by the "hard to get" games of pick up
artists. She's WAY too confident for
that.
What DOES ignite attraction is this
deep-rooted sense of ABUNDANCE.
The feeling of inner abundance has a very
PRIMAL effect on women.
On the deepest level, it says “I am
THE MAN who will SURVIVE AND
THRIVE and will help you REPRODUCE
THE SAME KIND OF WINNERS.”
In the same way that we as men are
affected by her first on a primal
ATTRACTION level, so too she is
affected by what appeals to HER
primal emotions.
This sense of abundance is the
KEY to appealing to all her primal
emotions.
Let me give you an example:
If you are ALREADY feeling COMPLETE
and empowered and feeling UPBEAT
and feeling that in fact you have TOO
MUCH of these great emotions in you,
well then you feel that you need to
EXPRESS IT AND GET IT OUT!
That means when you see a woman
that strikes your fancy, the first impulse
is not “How do I WIN her?” but rather
“LET’S HAVE ADULT FUN!”
By adult fun, I mean the entire joy
of flirting, building a connection, and
getting intimate with a woman.
ALL OF THIS IS VIEWED AS PART OF
THE PROCESS AND FUN.
This is because you actually ENJOY
the process of the INTERACTION
itself, and you are not approaching
her to get VALIDATED.
Rather, you are approaching her to
SHARE the vibes you already have
within you that are SCREAMING
to get out anyway.
These vibes are a combination of
feeling playful and feeling attraction
to her, and feeling empowered,
masculine, and dominant.
Now, a lot of guys try to FAKE these
vibes by acting “hard to get” and playing
pick up artist games on women.
However, this ends up coming across
as insecure, bitter, and jaded.
It chases the best kind of women away,
the kind that are not only attractive
but also have heart and soul as well.
I remember when I originally used to
see certain guys being so CAVALIER
and CASUAL with women, joking around
with women, even in high school:
I remember how this one guy who looked
like Pee-Wee Herman and spoke in the
same voice as well.
His pitch was Pee Wee Herman, but not
his TONALITY- his pitch was high but
his tone revealed empowerment.
He was smiling as he told this girl who
was one of the most attractive of
all the girls in the school: Hey, how come
you don’t have the grouchy face today
like usual?
I remember thinking that she was going
to chew him up and spit him out, but
instead, she MELTED and became warm
and was all over him.
Then I found out later that he ALREADY
had a pretty damn attractive girlfriend!
This was one of my first lessons that
only became clear to me years LATER.
His comments weren’t coming from being
BITTER, they were coming from ABUNDANCE.
He was GENUINELY being playful and didn’t
NEED her to be “into him”, he just was
being a MAN.
He felt the natural attraction for her
beauty, he wasn’t trying to get her
to be his girlfriend, he was NATURALLY
exuding his masculinity more than a lot
of the JOCKS in school ever could!
On the surface, he may have looked like
the LAST thing who’d have more choice
with girls than the school jocks.
However, once any woman INTERACTED with
him, they got sucked into the vortex of
his infinite and deeply ingrained sense
of ABUNDANCE.
THIS is one of the MAIN KEYS to unlocking
all the OTHER awesome behaviors that attract
the most incredible women.
It's because when you know that you can
do NO WRONG, it’s EASY to be funny, to
be playful, to be DARING, to be sexual,
to be dominant.
There is NO DOWN SIDE, so there
is NO EMOTIONAL RISK, since you are
ALREADY having TOO MUCH good stuff
going on internally – you are doing
this interaction for the JOY of it.
It's NOT for NEEDING her “reciprocation”.
In bootcamps, one of the amazing things
is that guys come in expecting it to be all
PAIN, but end up having a GREAT TIME.
Of course this leads to even BETTER
results with the girls they meet in
bootcamp.
Allow me to go one step FURTHER and
make it even CLEARER how important
it is to be this way:
Recent studies have actually PROVEN that
women, and not JUST the attractive ones,
are VERY confident.
Imagine how much MORE confident the
really ATTRACTIVE ones are!
It is true that some women have issues
in certain areas of their lives, such as their
perceptions of their own bodies.
And even though in the corporate world,
men outnumber women when it comes to top
positions, it is a TERRIBLE MISTAKE TO
THINK THIS MEANS THAT WOMEN
ARE SOMEHOW LESS CONFIDENT.
(By the way, research has now proven that the
reasons for this gap, in the western world, have
to do with women's CHOICES of careers and lifestyles,
and has nothing to do with discrimination against women,
and in fact, in some areas, companies are actually
making it even EASIER for women than men to be hired,
in order for those companies to come across as more
"politically correct".)
Men tend to think that because of those statistics
women have LESS confidence than men!
This further contributes to making men behave
all "NAMBY PAMBY" AND WEAK AROUND WOMEN.
Meanwhile, today’s generation of women
are VERY confident, including SEXUALLY
very confident.
They just sometimes put on a SHOW that
they aren’t, in public, to prevent being
labeled as being “cheap”.
Now, imagine the DISASTER of coming
across as UNSURE, as WEAK, or as NEEDY,
with a woman who is even MORE confident
than your average woman because she
already GETS so much attention!
You MUST change your view of women,
AND you must CHANGE your internal
sense of what you NEED in order to
feel EMPOWERED.
You must DESTROY the parts of you
that think you need a woman’s APPROVAL
in order to be EMPOWERED, UPBEAT,
AND COMPLETE.
I know, it’s ironic, because when you
become THAT, you suddenly have all
the CHOICE in the world with women.
But it makes sense, because only THEN
do you become a true GIVER in the most
powerful sense of the word- GIVING THE
EMOTION OF ABUNDANCE.
When you interact with a woman from
THIS place internally, she knows you don’t
NEED her, and that you are only interacting
with her because you ENJOY it.
She knows you won’t be CONTROLLING
or JEALOUS because you can only feel
those negative emotions when you NEED
her too much.
The irony is, that she will usually then
suddenly become jealous around YOU,
and start to feel insecure if other women
are giving YOU attention.
I think you can probably see how getting
these areas of your personality unleashed
and fully developed to the MAX is ABSOLUTELY
CRITICAL for getting the kinds of choices with
women that most men will NEVER have.
And now, you have the chance to
be BURSTING forth with this power,
at a level never before POSSIBLE
until now, by downloading my
MOST POWERFUL BOOK EVER ON THE
TOPIC OF HOW TO ATTRACT THE
MOST AMAZING WOMEN ON EARTH.
Download it now by going here IMMEDIATELY:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/book.html
To learn through BOOTCAMP, where I show you
how to do make women MELT FOR YOU all in person
on women in all kinds of places from coffee
shops to bookstores to supermarkets and everywhere
else, go HERE now:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html
For a personal consultation with me, go here:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/consultations.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Saturday, April 23, 2016
Getting A Great Girlfriend: Maturity & Emotional Security
If you want MASSIVE success in attracting
the women of your CHOICE, then I have
awesome news for you today with a new
video that is pure GOLD.
PLUS, I have a special cool announcement at
the end of this article for all the guys who got
my new book, The Dating Wizard Returns, and
for anyone who gets the book in the next 48 hours.
First of all, here is the video, which
contains ABSOLUTELY VITAL GOLD on attracting
fantastic women who are beautiful inside
and out:
As you can see, MATURITY is something that
is massive when it comes to getting a truly
amazing woman who would make for a fantastic
relationship and a fantastic girlfriend.
And I assure you, maturity doesn't mean you
can't have FUN, and it doesn't mean you can't
enjoy things like Star Wars or comic books
or anything else.
It means being able to see the BIG PICTURE,
the long-term picture, the OVERALL balance
when it comes to your decision making and
your perspectives and your behaviors.
And it is the realization that getting a great
woman for a great relationship is NOT a game,
something that Neil Strauss mentioned at the
very end of his book on pick-up, but something
that the vast majority of the pick-up artist
community IGNORED, because it didn't vibe
with the prevailing immature attitudes that
still exist today.
Neil himself wrote that the one woman he actually
WANTED as a girlfriend actually got REPULSED by
all the pick-up tactics he tried on her.
By the way, I was teaching the mature way to
attract women back then too, and the majority
of the pick-up community simply was not
emotionally ready to learn the truth from me.
The men who did come to me were men who
were READY. Often, these men were the kind
of men who demonstrated massive senses of
responsibility, whether they were military
fighter pilots, airline pilots, doctors,
heads of banks, and men from every other
walk of life who could appreciate the
big picture and who simply wanted to
learn the FULL TRUTH on attracting women
from me, as I had devoted my entire life
to this field.
Immaturity REPULSES quality women.
But enjoying sci-fi and comic books does not
make one immature.
Just to illustrate the point, not only do I
love things like Star Wars and graphic novels
and great sci-fi television shows, but I also
tend to always be the kind of guy who is looking
for the funny side of things, unless the situation
is simply not appropriate for it.
I used to think that this stuff could hold
a guy back from success with women, because
of the stereotypes associated with these
things when it came to men and attracting
women, but in reality it has nothing to do
with it at all.
The only problem is if a guy uses these things
to avoid interacting with women and only lives
in that universe.
Many years ago, I was doing a group bootcamp,
and one of the guys said something that I
couldn't believe at first - he said that I
must have always been a natural at this,
because when he viewed my interactions with
women, I came across to him as a "natural
frat boy" - frat being short for fraternity,
kind of like the jock character who was a
natural with women in the film American Pie.
And it struck me so hard, because nothing could
be further from the truth. I literally at one
point in my life was so depressed and obsessed
when it came to women, that for seven years
I was obsessed with one woman who wouldn't
even give me the time of day.
And, no offence to her, she was attractive,
but no more so than a billion other women.
And science fiction was my only escape.
The LAST thing on EARTH that I could be
called was a "natural frat boy".
But to HIM, seeing the results, the only
explanation in his mind had to be that I must
have always been a natural with women.
However, once I learned how to unleash my
inner game, and once I learned the TRUTH
about women, (something that I continue to
progress for the benefit of mankind till
this day) I realized that all that other
stuff doesn't matter - the ONLY thing
that matters to women is what emotions
you IGNITE in them - which is absolutely
under your control and is all about your
'inner game' (which includes maturity), as
well as your mastery of female psychology.
Over the course of the bootcamp, he soon
himself saw the TRUTH as he started attracting
the women of his choice. Oh, and by the way,
he too thought that he was a natural nerd,
and then over the course of bootcamp proved
that he could attract women as easily as
a 'natural frat boy'.
Maturity, inner game as a whole, mastering
female psychology - THESE are the big PILLARS for
your success with the TRUE 'quality women'
that are beautiful inside and out and that
would make for fantastic girlfriends.
And if you are reading this now and want to
get this part of your life MASTERED so that
you can attract the women you are really
interested in, I suggest THREE things:
1. If you haven't yet downloaded my absolutely
VITAL new book on attracting women, then do
that IMMEDIATELY at:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/book.html
I ain't kidding about how important this new book
is for your optimum success with women.
It is a MUST.
Plus - and this is a special announcement -
if you get the book in the next 48 HOURS,
and of course if you already have the book, you
will get a special bonus - a downloadable audio
program where I answer questions from you
and other guys around the world on any aspect
of attracting women.
If you would like to participate, simply send me
your questions by email, with the subject line
stating: FOR SPECIAL BONUS AUDIO.
Send it to michael@thedatingwizardreturns.com
The bonus program will be released in the
next few weeks as I gather all the questions
from men around the world.
2. The next step is a CONSULTATION with me,
over the phone or Skype or even email.
During the consultation, you let me know
your situation, your challenge, your sticking
point, your question, or any OTHER aspect of
success with women that you want to get
SOLVED, MASTERED, or ANSWERED.
And then I go right ahead and give you the
FULL SOLUTIONS in crystal-clear detail.
Consultations are at:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/consultations.html
3. The final step is BOOTCAMP.
In bootcamp, we put it all together, as I show
you how everything works in PERSON on woman
afer woman after woman after woman, and
you then go into action, as I coach you
at every step along the way.
You will learn how to effectively approach and
attract women as I not only show you through
demonstration, but also as I provide you with
the most powerful feedback on each approach
you make, and as I work on your INNER GAME
as well throughout the entire bootcamp,
so that you can truly MASTER the ability
to attract women anywhere at will.
There is nobody on this Earth giving the quality
of bootcamps that I have been giving for 13 years,
with the level of maturity, dedication and passion,
and of course RESULTS, that I give - and the bootcamp
keeps evolving all the time, getting even more
refined every year.
And, just like when it comes to attracting women,
it is all about subtle TINY nuances including
something known as MICRO-EXPRESSIONS that are
a product of your inner game, so too the difference
between my bootcamp any other one is the MILLIONS
of subtle nuances in my coaching - from the way
I train you in your inner game to the way I
teach you how to make the most effective approach.
One could say that any space film with spaceships
and lasers is Star Wars, but that is simply not
the truth, as it boils down to millions of subtle
nuances that make it what it is. So too when it
comes to training how to attract women, proper
training involves countless subtle nuances
that add up to making a MASSIVE difference -
and ultimately making THE difference in getting the
ability to attract women.
This is why many of the men who come to my bootcamps
actually come BACK again and again, THRILLED each time,
because each time they come back they actually break
through to even HIGHER levels of mastery in the ability
to attract women.
Bootcamp is at:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
the women of your CHOICE, then I have
awesome news for you today with a new
video that is pure GOLD.
PLUS, I have a special cool announcement at
the end of this article for all the guys who got
my new book, The Dating Wizard Returns, and
for anyone who gets the book in the next 48 hours.
First of all, here is the video, which
contains ABSOLUTELY VITAL GOLD on attracting
fantastic women who are beautiful inside
and out:
As you can see, MATURITY is something that
is massive when it comes to getting a truly
amazing woman who would make for a fantastic
relationship and a fantastic girlfriend.
And I assure you, maturity doesn't mean you
can't have FUN, and it doesn't mean you can't
enjoy things like Star Wars or comic books
or anything else.
It means being able to see the BIG PICTURE,
the long-term picture, the OVERALL balance
when it comes to your decision making and
your perspectives and your behaviors.
And it is the realization that getting a great
woman for a great relationship is NOT a game,
something that Neil Strauss mentioned at the
very end of his book on pick-up, but something
that the vast majority of the pick-up artist
community IGNORED, because it didn't vibe
with the prevailing immature attitudes that
still exist today.
Neil himself wrote that the one woman he actually
WANTED as a girlfriend actually got REPULSED by
all the pick-up tactics he tried on her.
By the way, I was teaching the mature way to
attract women back then too, and the majority
of the pick-up community simply was not
emotionally ready to learn the truth from me.
The men who did come to me were men who
were READY. Often, these men were the kind
of men who demonstrated massive senses of
responsibility, whether they were military
fighter pilots, airline pilots, doctors,
heads of banks, and men from every other
walk of life who could appreciate the
big picture and who simply wanted to
learn the FULL TRUTH on attracting women
from me, as I had devoted my entire life
to this field.
Immaturity REPULSES quality women.
But enjoying sci-fi and comic books does not
make one immature.
Just to illustrate the point, not only do I
love things like Star Wars and graphic novels
and great sci-fi television shows, but I also
tend to always be the kind of guy who is looking
for the funny side of things, unless the situation
is simply not appropriate for it.
I used to think that this stuff could hold
a guy back from success with women, because
of the stereotypes associated with these
things when it came to men and attracting
women, but in reality it has nothing to do
with it at all.
The only problem is if a guy uses these things
to avoid interacting with women and only lives
in that universe.
Many years ago, I was doing a group bootcamp,
and one of the guys said something that I
couldn't believe at first - he said that I
must have always been a natural at this,
because when he viewed my interactions with
women, I came across to him as a "natural
frat boy" - frat being short for fraternity,
kind of like the jock character who was a
natural with women in the film American Pie.
And it struck me so hard, because nothing could
be further from the truth. I literally at one
point in my life was so depressed and obsessed
when it came to women, that for seven years
I was obsessed with one woman who wouldn't
even give me the time of day.
And, no offence to her, she was attractive,
but no more so than a billion other women.
And science fiction was my only escape.
The LAST thing on EARTH that I could be
called was a "natural frat boy".
But to HIM, seeing the results, the only
explanation in his mind had to be that I must
have always been a natural with women.
However, once I learned how to unleash my
inner game, and once I learned the TRUTH
about women, (something that I continue to
progress for the benefit of mankind till
this day) I realized that all that other
stuff doesn't matter - the ONLY thing
that matters to women is what emotions
you IGNITE in them - which is absolutely
under your control and is all about your
'inner game' (which includes maturity), as
well as your mastery of female psychology.
Over the course of the bootcamp, he soon
himself saw the TRUTH as he started attracting
the women of his choice. Oh, and by the way,
he too thought that he was a natural nerd,
and then over the course of bootcamp proved
that he could attract women as easily as
a 'natural frat boy'.
Maturity, inner game as a whole, mastering
female psychology - THESE are the big PILLARS for
your success with the TRUE 'quality women'
that are beautiful inside and out and that
would make for fantastic girlfriends.
And if you are reading this now and want to
get this part of your life MASTERED so that
you can attract the women you are really
interested in, I suggest THREE things:
1. If you haven't yet downloaded my absolutely
VITAL new book on attracting women, then do
that IMMEDIATELY at:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/book.html
I ain't kidding about how important this new book
is for your optimum success with women.
It is a MUST.
Plus - and this is a special announcement -
if you get the book in the next 48 HOURS,
and of course if you already have the book, you
will get a special bonus - a downloadable audio
program where I answer questions from you
and other guys around the world on any aspect
of attracting women.
If you would like to participate, simply send me
your questions by email, with the subject line
stating: FOR SPECIAL BONUS AUDIO.
Send it to michael@thedatingwizardreturns.com
The bonus program will be released in the
next few weeks as I gather all the questions
from men around the world.
2. The next step is a CONSULTATION with me,
over the phone or Skype or even email.
During the consultation, you let me know
your situation, your challenge, your sticking
point, your question, or any OTHER aspect of
success with women that you want to get
SOLVED, MASTERED, or ANSWERED.
And then I go right ahead and give you the
FULL SOLUTIONS in crystal-clear detail.
Consultations are at:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/consultations.html
3. The final step is BOOTCAMP.
In bootcamp, we put it all together, as I show
you how everything works in PERSON on woman
afer woman after woman after woman, and
you then go into action, as I coach you
at every step along the way.
You will learn how to effectively approach and
attract women as I not only show you through
demonstration, but also as I provide you with
the most powerful feedback on each approach
you make, and as I work on your INNER GAME
as well throughout the entire bootcamp,
so that you can truly MASTER the ability
to attract women anywhere at will.
There is nobody on this Earth giving the quality
of bootcamps that I have been giving for 13 years,
with the level of maturity, dedication and passion,
and of course RESULTS, that I give - and the bootcamp
keeps evolving all the time, getting even more
refined every year.
And, just like when it comes to attracting women,
it is all about subtle TINY nuances including
something known as MICRO-EXPRESSIONS that are
a product of your inner game, so too the difference
between my bootcamp any other one is the MILLIONS
of subtle nuances in my coaching - from the way
I train you in your inner game to the way I
teach you how to make the most effective approach.
One could say that any space film with spaceships
and lasers is Star Wars, but that is simply not
the truth, as it boils down to millions of subtle
nuances that make it what it is. So too when it
comes to training how to attract women, proper
training involves countless subtle nuances
that add up to making a MASSIVE difference -
and ultimately making THE difference in getting the
ability to attract women.
This is why many of the men who come to my bootcamps
actually come BACK again and again, THRILLED each time,
because each time they come back they actually break
through to even HIGHER levels of mastery in the ability
to attract women.
Bootcamp is at:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Tuesday, April 19, 2016
How Much Do Men's LOOKS Count To Women? GOLD On Approaching And Attracting Women
ONE: HOW TO BECOME EMOTIONALLY EMPOWERED.
(And Why This Is SO Important)
When it comes to attracting women, especially women
who are total strangers, and ESPECIALLY when just
approaching them out of the blue, your STATE OF
MIND is of UTMOST importance.
That means being secure, feeling empowered, feeling
sensual, and feeling playful.
The REASON your state of mind is so important is
not just because being in a good state allows you to
then easily come up with the right kinds of things to
spontaneously SAY in the moment (instead of
using cheesy pick-up lines), but ALSO it is important
because a woman who does not know you will
NOT be judging you on the DETAILS of what
you SAY.
Instead, she will be judging you ENTIRELY on
your PRESENTATION. The WAY you sound,
the TONE of your voice, the EXPRESSION on
your face, the WAY you dressed, the CALM
you exude, etc.
Not only is it simply HUMAN for ALL HUMAN
beings to INSTINCTIVELY first judge others more on
PRESENTATION than on CONTENT, but women
are ESPECIALLY good at ALSO detecting your
MOOD.
Women, IN GENERAL, (there are always exceptions)
are MUCH better than men at detecting the emotional
STATE of someone else. Women tend to be better at
being in touch with emotions and the emotions of the
people around them.
This just means they are generally better at detecting
and in general being real darn good at knowing
EXACTLY what you are feeling in any given moment,
even if you are a STRANGER.
In fact, the very reality of the situation being that
in a pick-up type of situation, you ARE a stranger,
forces a woman to almost TOTALLY rely on her
skills at detecting your emotional state since she
really doesn’t know your history at all.
So what all this means is that a woman can sense
if you feel LACK of confidence and she can ALSO
sense if you feel TONS of confidence.
If YOU feel social, then she PICKS UP these
vibes from you and she ALSO starts to feel
more playful, more social, and more OPEN
to chatting with you, because states of mind
are CATCHY.
And she can TELL what state of mind you are IN.
If you are in a NEGATIVE STATE, if you feel
TENSE, if you feel ANXIOUS, she will start to
feel the SAME WAY.
So this makes it clear that indeed you MUST
be in the right emotional state.
And the best way to get INTO that state is to
first decide on your GOAL in terms of what you
want to DO and FEEL.
The NEXT step after that is to take CONSISTENT
BABY STEPS TOWARD that goal.
So if you decide you want to feel more CONFIDENT
and PLAYFUL, that DECISION is in itself IMPORTANT.
It is important because your brain is EXTREMELY
adaptable. It just needs to know which DIRECTION
to go, it needs to know what the DESTINATION is.
I am not making this up. This is all documented in
Norman Doidge’s The Brain that Changes Itself.
Doidge documents MIND-BLOWING evidence
of how the brain actually CHANGES PHYSICALLY
while it learns things. Using this new understanding
of the brain has enabled some blind people to recognize
letters, throw a basketball into a garbage can, and see
candle flames for the first time in their lives.
And to paraphrase Martin L. Rossman, M.D.: "If the brain
can change so that blind people can SEE, then certainly
the brain can change so that emotions like anxiety
can be turned into calm."
By the way, if you’re not approaching women
due to "approach anxiety", I SERIOUSLY suggest
you IMMEDIATELY download my 1-hour audio
program called “Obliterating Approach Anxiety” at:
Click Here To Download "Obliterating Approach Anxiety"
TWO: The NEXT step is VISUALIZATION.
It is important for you to VISUALIZE exactly
what it is you WANT to feel.
Picture ALL THE DETAILS of what you want
to be feeling, and of all the other sensory data
that might be associated with that feeling.
So, for example, if you want to feel calm and empowered
when approaching women, picture a SPECIFIC time in
your life when you WERE feeling that combination of
calm and empowered. Bring back all the details of the
event, the way you felt from the way your heart was beating
to the feeling on your skin, to any important sounds such as
music, a breeze, or any other detail.
For example, if it was during a birthday party as a kid,
perhaps you remember the look of the cake, and you
remember your OWN expression when looking at
the cake, maybe you remember the smell of the
sugar or the icing or the chocolate, the taste of the
cake, the sound of the music, singing, kids shouting,
the weather at that moment.
CLOSE your eyes when you do this so you can
focus on the memory and the feeling.
The brain IS UNBELIEVABLY responsive to this
kind of experience. If you were to have a readout
of all the things happening in your brain when you
do this visualization, you would find that your brain
was in many ways reacting as if all this were REALLY
happening.
And the MORE you PRACTICE, the MORE your brain
CHANGES and the BETTER you get.
THREE: ADOPT THE PHYSIOLOGY OF THE STATE YOU WANT TO EXPERIENCE
You must also actually TAKE ON the actual POSTURE and body language that comes WITH the emotional state you want to experience. If you want to feel empowered, then take up SPACE with your body. Raise your hands in a VICTORY gesture, as if you just won the race and just broke through the tape at the finish line!
Notice how the OPPOSITE is true, as well. If you scrunch your body up tight and tighten your shoulders and take on the feared facial expression, you will actually start to FEEL fear and less value.
Your BRAIN RESPONDS to these things in a very REAL way. It's almost as if your brain does not know the difference between the IMAGINATION and reality.
If you focus on experiencing the calm of the perfect vacation in your MIND, then for all intents and purposes your BRAIN responds in a healthy way as if you actually are in that perfect calm place for real.
Think of all the associated body language and PHYSIOLOGY of a certain emotional state that you want to be in, and then adopt those aspects of physiology as much as possible. You will start to FEEL those emotions in just a matter of MINUTES.
Emotions FOLLOW the actual physical actions just as much as physical actions follow emotions. Just like you might jump up and down after you feel VICTORY, so too you will feel VICTORY after jumping and down in the same "victory" style manner.
Of course, in my BOOTCAMP, I train you to get the
ULTIMATE practice, which is why men improve
so fast.
And now, I would like to move on to another
IMPORTANT point based on SCIENTIFIC
RESEARCH.
FOUR: THE REAL TRUTH ABOUT LOOKS
At one time, the idea that a man’s looks are not
as powerful of an attractor to women as women’s
looks are for men, I had a hard time believing this.
I had been to high school. I would SEE how some of
the model-looking dudes DID seem to so easily swoop
up the girls who were attractive. But at the same time, I would
also see how there were also attractive girls who dated guys
of EVERY TYPE.
So let me bring this whole discussion about looks to a
conclusion, through an article that got my attention by
Douglas T. Kenrick, Ph.D.
A scientific study made in 2010 reveals the TRUTH about
women and men when it comes to looks:
When MEN look at pictures of attractive women, the men
REMEMBER details of the pictures LONG AFTER
seeing them.
they may indeed appreciate these men’s looks but women
tend to NOT remember the details of the photos after
seeing them!
That means that although obviously women are not
BLIND, a man with above-average looks simply does
not IMPACT women with the same emotional force
that an attractive woman has on MEN.
So this is yet another reason to STOP thinking that
some woman is “out of your league” just because
you think she is so gorgeous and you think that you are
average in the looks department.
There could be all sorts of evolutionary reasons for
why a man’s looks are not the paramount force in
determining a woman’s attraction to a man, including
the possibility that a woman can’t afford to make
the decision on who will be the father of her child
based on just one factor alone, but rather she must
know what ELSE this man has that may be positive
traits he can give her child.
The bottom line is that if a guy has great looks, that
is good for him, but it is NOT even CLOSE to being
the MAIN part of what it takes to attract women.
This leads me to point number three, which is:
FIVE: WHAT COUNTS IS STRENGTH OF CHARACTER
(And an example of what this means.)
Women are attracted to men who are RESILIENT, who are
COURAGEOUS, who are DARING, who have SOCIAL
SKILLS, and who are EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT.
Being intelligent in general helps too.
This is why it does not matter much what a woman thinks
of you BEFORE you interact with her.
What matters is what she feels AFTER you interact with her.
This is also why if you can just GET that first date,
you are almost CERTAIN to get her, if you do things
RIGHT.
So, let us just say for example, that a woman you meet
for just a couple of minutes gives you her number.
The chat was so brief that you didn’t really get a
chance to interact with her. Then, when you call
her, you notice she seems lukewarm to the whole
idea of meeting up with you.
This is common for intermediate guys who are
Getting good at getting numbers, but the numbers
aren’t turning into dates, girlfriends, getting physical,
etc.
Most guys end up doing various versions of
making REQUESTS of the woman, all of
which make it seem like she is doing a
favor if she meets up.
Instead of that, you should take a totally DIFFERENT
path, the path you would take if you were totally
CONFIDENT:
So, for example, if you KNEW that you were
the best thing on Earth for a woman, that you
would give her more pleasure than any other
man on Earth, instead of asking her to give you
a chance, you might say something like this:
“Listen, I already know I am probably going to
knock your socks off, but the thing is that I personally
hate the idea of forcing anyone to do anything.
I don’t want you to spend one drop of time with
me unless it is the absolute BEST experience of
your life, as I personally believe the only relationships
that work are the ones where both people feel LUCKY
to be with each other.
So you have to feel damn LUCKY to be with me,
or it is a waste of MY time, to be honest.
Now, at the same time, I need to feel pretty damn
LUCKY myself, so that’s where this thing called
meeting up comes in. I feel your vibe, you feel
mine, and we take it from there, know what I mean?”
Take THAT kind of approach and you are going to
do a MILLION times better, because it is massively
clear that this is not a request for a favor, but merely
a chance for EVERYONE to not lose OUT on an
OPPORTUNITY.
Again, remember that women are not like men,
the decision to sleep with a guy is based on your
PERSONALITY.
Notice I didn’t say it is based just on you being
a NICE person.
It is based on STRENGTH of personality.
And if you are reading this right now and would
like to ensure YOUR success with the women of
YOUR choice, I seriously suggest you IMMEDIATELY
download my most POWERFUL book ever on
how to attract an amazing woman.
It's at:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/book.html
To learn how to attract women in PERSON, live,
sign up for my BOOTCAMP program, at:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html
To answer any questions you have, take a CONSULTATION
with me at:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/consultations.html
I WISH when I was starting out, that someone had made
such a TREASURE of resources available TOGETHER at
such a fantastic price.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
(And Why This Is SO Important)
When it comes to attracting women, especially women
who are total strangers, and ESPECIALLY when just
approaching them out of the blue, your STATE OF
MIND is of UTMOST importance.
That means being secure, feeling empowered, feeling
sensual, and feeling playful.
The REASON your state of mind is so important is
not just because being in a good state allows you to
then easily come up with the right kinds of things to
spontaneously SAY in the moment (instead of
using cheesy pick-up lines), but ALSO it is important
because a woman who does not know you will
NOT be judging you on the DETAILS of what
you SAY.
Instead, she will be judging you ENTIRELY on
your PRESENTATION. The WAY you sound,
the TONE of your voice, the EXPRESSION on
your face, the WAY you dressed, the CALM
you exude, etc.
Not only is it simply HUMAN for ALL HUMAN
beings to INSTINCTIVELY first judge others more on
PRESENTATION than on CONTENT, but women
are ESPECIALLY good at ALSO detecting your
MOOD.
Women, IN GENERAL, (there are always exceptions)
are MUCH better than men at detecting the emotional
STATE of someone else. Women tend to be better at
being in touch with emotions and the emotions of the
people around them.
EXACTLY what you are feeling in any given moment,
even if you are a STRANGER.
In fact, the very reality of the situation being that
in a pick-up type of situation, you ARE a stranger,
forces a woman to almost TOTALLY rely on her
skills at detecting your emotional state since she
really doesn’t know your history at all.
So what all this means is that a woman can sense
if you feel LACK of confidence and she can ALSO
sense if you feel TONS of confidence.
vibes from you and she ALSO starts to feel
more playful, more social, and more OPEN
to chatting with you, because states of mind
are CATCHY.
And she can TELL what state of mind you are IN.
If you are in a NEGATIVE STATE, if you feel
TENSE, if you feel ANXIOUS, she will start to
feel the SAME WAY.
So this makes it clear that indeed you MUST
be in the right emotional state.
And the best way to get INTO that state is to
first decide on your GOAL in terms of what you
want to DO and FEEL.
The NEXT step after that is to take CONSISTENT
BABY STEPS TOWARD that goal.
So if you decide you want to feel more CONFIDENT
and PLAYFUL, that DECISION is in itself IMPORTANT.
It is important because your brain is EXTREMELY
adaptable. It just needs to know which DIRECTION
to go, it needs to know what the DESTINATION is.
I am not making this up. This is all documented in
Norman Doidge’s The Brain that Changes Itself.
Doidge documents MIND-BLOWING evidence
of how the brain actually CHANGES PHYSICALLY
while it learns things. Using this new understanding
of the brain has enabled some blind people to recognize
letters, throw a basketball into a garbage can, and see
candle flames for the first time in their lives.
And to paraphrase Martin L. Rossman, M.D.: "If the brain
can change so that blind people can SEE, then certainly
the brain can change so that emotions like anxiety
can be turned into calm."
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TWO: The NEXT step is VISUALIZATION.
It is important for you to VISUALIZE exactly
what it is you WANT to feel.
Picture ALL THE DETAILS of what you want
to be feeling, and of all the other sensory data
that might be associated with that feeling.
So, for example, if you want to feel calm and empowered
when approaching women, picture a SPECIFIC time in
your life when you WERE feeling that combination of
calm and empowered. Bring back all the details of the
event, the way you felt from the way your heart was beating
to the feeling on your skin, to any important sounds such as
music, a breeze, or any other detail.
For example, if it was during a birthday party as a kid,
perhaps you remember the look of the cake, and you
remember your OWN expression when looking at
the cake, maybe you remember the smell of the
sugar or the icing or the chocolate, the taste of the
cake, the sound of the music, singing, kids shouting,
the weather at that moment.
CLOSE your eyes when you do this so you can
focus on the memory and the feeling.
The brain IS UNBELIEVABLY responsive to this
kind of experience. If you were to have a readout
of all the things happening in your brain when you
do this visualization, you would find that your brain
was in many ways reacting as if all this were REALLY
happening.
And the MORE you PRACTICE, the MORE your brain
CHANGES and the BETTER you get.
THREE: ADOPT THE PHYSIOLOGY OF THE STATE YOU WANT TO EXPERIENCE
You must also actually TAKE ON the actual POSTURE and body language that comes WITH the emotional state you want to experience. If you want to feel empowered, then take up SPACE with your body. Raise your hands in a VICTORY gesture, as if you just won the race and just broke through the tape at the finish line!
Notice how the OPPOSITE is true, as well. If you scrunch your body up tight and tighten your shoulders and take on the feared facial expression, you will actually start to FEEL fear and less value.
Your BRAIN RESPONDS to these things in a very REAL way. It's almost as if your brain does not know the difference between the IMAGINATION and reality.
If you focus on experiencing the calm of the perfect vacation in your MIND, then for all intents and purposes your BRAIN responds in a healthy way as if you actually are in that perfect calm place for real.
Think of all the associated body language and PHYSIOLOGY of a certain emotional state that you want to be in, and then adopt those aspects of physiology as much as possible. You will start to FEEL those emotions in just a matter of MINUTES.
Emotions FOLLOW the actual physical actions just as much as physical actions follow emotions. Just like you might jump up and down after you feel VICTORY, so too you will feel VICTORY after jumping and down in the same "victory" style manner.
Of course, in my BOOTCAMP, I train you to get the
ULTIMATE practice, which is why men improve
so fast.
And now, I would like to move on to another
IMPORTANT point based on SCIENTIFIC
RESEARCH.
FOUR: THE REAL TRUTH ABOUT LOOKS
At one time, the idea that a man’s looks are not
as powerful of an attractor to women as women’s
looks are for men, I had a hard time believing this.
I had been to high school. I would SEE how some of
the model-looking dudes DID seem to so easily swoop
up the girls who were attractive. But at the same time, I would
also see how there were also attractive girls who dated guys
of EVERY TYPE.
So let me bring this whole discussion about looks to a
conclusion, through an article that got my attention by
Douglas T. Kenrick, Ph.D.
A scientific study made in 2010 reveals the TRUTH about
women and men when it comes to looks:
When MEN look at pictures of attractive women, the men
REMEMBER details of the pictures LONG AFTER
seeing them.
tend to NOT remember the details of the photos after
seeing them!
That means that although obviously women are not
BLIND, a man with above-average looks simply does
not IMPACT women with the same emotional force
that an attractive woman has on MEN.
So this is yet another reason to STOP thinking that
some woman is “out of your league” just because
you think she is so gorgeous and you think that you are
average in the looks department.
There could be all sorts of evolutionary reasons for
why a man’s looks are not the paramount force in
determining a woman’s attraction to a man, including
the possibility that a woman can’t afford to make
the decision on who will be the father of her child
based on just one factor alone, but rather she must
know what ELSE this man has that may be positive
traits he can give her child.
The bottom line is that if a guy has great looks, that
is good for him, but it is NOT even CLOSE to being
the MAIN part of what it takes to attract women.
This leads me to point number three, which is:
FIVE: WHAT COUNTS IS STRENGTH OF CHARACTER
(And an example of what this means.)
Women are attracted to men who are RESILIENT, who are
COURAGEOUS, who are DARING, who have SOCIAL
SKILLS, and who are EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT.
Being intelligent in general helps too.
This is why it does not matter much what a woman thinks
of you BEFORE you interact with her.
What matters is what she feels AFTER you interact with her.
This is also why if you can just GET that first date,
you are almost CERTAIN to get her, if you do things
RIGHT.
So, let us just say for example, that a woman you meet
for just a couple of minutes gives you her number.
The chat was so brief that you didn’t really get a
chance to interact with her. Then, when you call
her, you notice she seems lukewarm to the whole
idea of meeting up with you.
This is common for intermediate guys who are
Getting good at getting numbers, but the numbers
aren’t turning into dates, girlfriends, getting physical,
etc.
Most guys end up doing various versions of
making REQUESTS of the woman, all of
which make it seem like she is doing a
favor if she meets up.
Instead of that, you should take a totally DIFFERENT
path, the path you would take if you were totally
CONFIDENT:
So, for example, if you KNEW that you were
the best thing on Earth for a woman, that you
would give her more pleasure than any other
man on Earth, instead of asking her to give you
a chance, you might say something like this:
“Listen, I already know I am probably going to
knock your socks off, but the thing is that I personally
hate the idea of forcing anyone to do anything.
I don’t want you to spend one drop of time with
me unless it is the absolute BEST experience of
your life, as I personally believe the only relationships
that work are the ones where both people feel LUCKY
to be with each other.
So you have to feel damn LUCKY to be with me,
or it is a waste of MY time, to be honest.
Now, at the same time, I need to feel pretty damn
LUCKY myself, so that’s where this thing called
meeting up comes in. I feel your vibe, you feel
mine, and we take it from there, know what I mean?”
Take THAT kind of approach and you are going to
do a MILLION times better, because it is massively
clear that this is not a request for a favor, but merely
a chance for EVERYONE to not lose OUT on an
OPPORTUNITY.
Again, remember that women are not like men,
the decision to sleep with a guy is based on your
PERSONALITY.
Notice I didn’t say it is based just on you being
a NICE person.
It is based on STRENGTH of personality.
And if you are reading this right now and would
like to ensure YOUR success with the women of
YOUR choice, I seriously suggest you IMMEDIATELY
download my most POWERFUL book ever on
how to attract an amazing woman.
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sign up for my BOOTCAMP program, at:
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such a fantastic price.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Sunday, April 17, 2016
The Star Wars Connection To Attracting Women
Today for you, I have a MASSIVELY important
new video revealing not only VITAL secrets
on attracting women, but it does so in a way
that you are going to find extremely enjoyable
as well.
If you love Star Wars, this is going to be
a field day for you, and if not, it will still
be a massively important revelation regarding
how to attract women:
The BOOK is at:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/book.html
BOOTCAMP is at:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html
CONSULTATIONS are at:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/consultations.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
new video revealing not only VITAL secrets
on attracting women, but it does so in a way
that you are going to find extremely enjoyable
as well.
If you love Star Wars, this is going to be
a field day for you, and if not, it will still
be a massively important revelation regarding
how to attract women:
The BOOK is at:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/book.html
BOOTCAMP is at:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html
CONSULTATIONS are at:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/consultations.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Friday, April 15, 2016
THE POWER OF SELF-VALIDATION IN ATTRACTING WOMEN
This article will help blow apart one hell of a lot of myths, and bring greater clarity to so many issues regarding dating, relationships, attraction, and much more. By far, the most powerful force that controls people’s lives and behaviours is their need for feeling worthy, for feeling validated.
Ultimately, if you have SELF-acceptance at the highest level, you will radiate so much attraction, you will begin to attract women with very little conscious effort. This happens for a very solid reason, as I will explain below. This is not just new-age hocus pocus.
THE MYTH
The biggest myth people believe is that in order to accept themselves, something has to happen. And usually, it is more than just one thing. In fact, so many things, in their opinion, have to happen, that they make it impossible for themselves to ever reach a point where they will allow self-acceptance.
Now, this feeling is often the motivating force for many people. People will work really hard to make money, to impress women, to do whatever needs to be done to get what they believe will be validation, in order so that they themselves can feel SELF-VALIDATION.
The problem is though, and you may have heard this before, that if you don’t accept yourself first and foremost, you will find that it is almost impossible to feel validation no matter how much external validation you get.
THE TRUTH ABOUT MOST “PLAYERS”
This is the reason most “players” are hooked on “picking up women”. Sex is the smallest part of the motivation, and validation is the biggest. Constant re-validation. In this sense, picking up women becomes a source of validation similar to how making money or bodybuilding or anything else might provide some validation for others. Nothing is “wrong” except that it doesn’t work as a source of validation if it is the primary source.
Again, it’s a question of balance. No one is saying that these things don’t help, but when out of balance, it’s a sign that validation is becoming externally driven, which is dangerous.
In fact, most people, including the “hottest” women, are on such shaky ground when it comes to self-validation, that they are easy prey to those who know how to manipulate this need. I am not an advocate of playing games on women, because not only does it feel creepy, but in the end, those who need too much external validation are very bad choices for partners.
They will need endless validation tricks by you in order to stick around, whereas if they were high self-esteem to begin with, they would not need it.
This is why you can actually treat SOME women well, and they will not become spoiled, for they expect to be treated well, not because they are spoiled but because they are high self-esteem. Again, treating a woman well is not the same as kissing up to her or feeling the need to buy her presents all the time or crap like that.
Such women, just like such men, are rare.
PHASE II – THE MENTAL “INNER GAME” VIRUS
Okay, so now I want to get into phase II of this article.
THE IRONY OF ALL THIS IS, IF YOU HAVE SELF-ACCEPTANCE, YOU WILL NOT BECOME LAZY. IN FACT, YOU WILL BECOME EVEN MORE EFFICIENT AND PRODUCTIVE THAN THE OBSESSED VALIDATION-SEEKERS.
Think of your mind as a computer. Think of the need for external validation as a virus or spyware on your computer.
It slows down performance, makes you sluggish, causes mental programs to act strange, sometimes causing a mental crash.
Now, think of eliminating this crap from your mind as the equivalent of having all the junk screwing up your computer completely cleaned out.
What happens then is your mind is FREE to finally experience S-E-L-F V-A-L-I-D-A-T-I-O-N.
And, because states of mind are so damn catchy, what happens is that women in your presence start to pick up on this feeling and they experience it too.
And since MOST of attraction these days, for most people, is triggered by needs for VALIDATION, far more than by needs for sex, guess what comes across as the ultimate “babe” magnet?
I’ll give you a hint:
It’s called having S-E-L-F V-A-L-I-D-A-T-I-O-N.
Let’s go back to the computer virus analogy:
When you are cleaned up from the wrong way of thinking, suddenly you become INCREDIBLY RESOURCEFUL. Your mind truly is more powerful than you can possibly imagine.
Since I started out, I have always recommended that guys learn how to succeed with women by acting as if they were already on cloud nine where everything was perfect. And the funny thing is, if you truly act this way for long enough, you will feel that way too. Until you allow someone or something to break your frame. Usually it will be someone who has a very strong negative frame and can’t stand your positive aura for it means they are living the wrong way. And that would mean they have to change, which is hard.
Moreover, most guys have no real clue of just how powerful the aura is of someone who truly has self-acceptance. You have to experience it, genuinely attempt it, or observe it, to believe it.
You see, what we all want is that awesome feeling described as “totally worthy”. This is why some people who are insecure will gravitate towards others who are insecure. They don’t believe that they are worthy of more.
At the same time, those who are a little more secure but not totally secure will seek the validation of others who are similar to themselves, because for them, the validation of an insecure person does not mean as much as getting the validation of a secure person.
This validation/security/self-worth thing is almost like a currency. Different types of validation have different values.
THE IRONY
Now, here comes another big part of the puzzle:
If you are doing all this to get women, you will never get to the highest level.
Yes, a good woman will enhance your life. But she will not make you or break you unless you allow it.
This whole sex thing has been taken to the hilt in our current culture, where sex is used to sell even things like cola, toilet paper, cigarettes, and nail clippers, as if one brand will make you sexier than another brand. And the crazy thing is, that because of the power of association and marketing, some folks really do judge people on this.
So, at first to learn, you can imitate.
So how does a guy with total self-acceptance behave?
Well, for one thing, he doesn’t knowingly let his own life get out of balance. He doesn’t allow his beliefs to get compromised. He won’t compromise his dignity in order to get on a woman’s “good side”. He can focus on work, but he is not obsessed to the point that he is addicted, for it is not his sole source of validation.
He will not try to show off to a woman to get on her “good side”.
Showing off, unless you are talking to a woman who believes she has no value, and deserves to be treated like crap, is always a downer. You see, let’s say you really are telling the truth when you show off. Then it sounds like you are boasting which seems insecure, or just seems like you are plain mean.
If she finds out you were not even telling the truth, then you really come across as pathetic.
In fact, by being modest and yet acting confident, you are REALLY conveying that you are simply a cool guy who is not into making people feel crappy.
How else does a guy with total self-acceptance behave?
Well, if there is a woman he would like to speak with, he will speak with her to find out more, and not worry what her reaction is. He is not so caught up or serious regarding her reaction, because it really has nothing to do with him.
Think about why a guy might worry about his math test because he didn’t study, but will not worry so much about it if he knew he studied his hardest. Even if he fails the test, if he knows he did his part by studying, he won’t worry as much. He did his part. The rest is not up to him. We tend to worry when we feel responsible for everything. You are not responsible for a woman’s emotions, you are only responsible for doing your best, and for controlling your own emotions. This is in fact the best way to influence a woman’s emotions.
A guy who is self-accepting is not into “cheating”, or “seducing” married women, or women who are in relationships, because he has no need to “prove his value to himself”.
YOU ATTRACT IT BY BECOMING IT ON AN INTERNAL LEVEL
This brings me to a finer point:
In life, you ATTRACT something by BECOMING it. This is why bitter people hang out together, gossipers hang out together, cheaters hang out together, etc.
What most guys do, is they want an attractive woman, and then they try to reverse-figure out how to get her, instead of just being the coolest versions of themselves that they can be.
So these guys copy typical attractive women’s mannerisms, belief structures, value systems, lingo, etc. EVEN IF IT IS A DAMAGING BELIEF SYSTEM, etc.
These guys end up attracting these women, and having the exact same ISSUES as these women. They will complain that every woman is a cheater, because in fact, these women seek out men who cheat. Since the over-riding value system is all about external validation, which is a bottomless pit, the guys who emulate these values end up with the consequences of those values.
Now, there are SOME behaviours, such as a certain amount of confidence in this specific arena of dating, that attractive women often have, that are good to model. However, for many attractive women, this confidence is shattered the moment their worth is seriously challenged, for so few guys challenge the worth of an attractive woman. Even the “players” don’t really challenge it ultimately, they just ACT like they are challenging it.
Since most guys are looking for long term success with women, I recommend becoming what you really want.
I’m not here to tell you what to want. Just remember, you get something by BECOMING it.
If you want a woman who is INTERNALLY validated, who is relaxed, who is happy, who is at peace, who is fun, who has a sense of humour, who will not cheat, who takes care of herself as best as possible, who is confident, who doesn’t kiss up to people, who doesn’t need to get validation every second from every guy, who has a solid sense of where she wants her future to go, who has friends of good moral standing, who stands up for what she believes in, who does not have a quick temper, ad INFINITUM, then become that person yourself.
Trust me, a woman who has all those qualities can pick up pretty damn fast if a guy does NOT have those qualities.
HOW WOMEN DETECT YOUR EMOTIONAL STATE
It boils down to MICRO-EXPRESSIONS and other super-subtle nuances in your body language and tonality that cannot be consciously controlled by any other mechanism except actually GENUINELY feeling those emotions yourself, and genuinely living those values.
Women SUBCONSCIOUSLY detect all these thousands and millions of tiny nuances and subtleties in your body language, tonality, and facial expressions, even if they only flash across your face for a fraction of a second and are actually too quick to consciously remember.
And the SUBCONSCIOUS is what is making women FEEL their emotions one way or another about you.
I have never been a fan of “fooling women” into anything.
FOOLING WOMEN IS FOR GUYS WHO THINK THEY NEED TO FOOL WOMEN.
WHEN YOU ARE “THE MAN”, YOU DON’T NEED TO FOOL ANYONE BECAUSE YOU NATURALLY ATTRACT THE KIND OF WOMEN YOU WANT AND WHO WANT YOU.
I get a good laugh every time I hear about guys who promote “player” tactics, or try to pretend that getting drunk promiscuous women into acting all “physical” really quickly has ANYTHING AT ALL IN THIS UNIVERSE to do with actually attracting a quality woman on a deep level- and I mean attracting the kind of woman who is loyal, faithful, beautiful, and warm.
The truth is that “player women” are looking for “player guys”. There is no need for either of them to pretend. In fact, “TRYING” to be GENUINE comes across as WEIRD and NOT genuine. What these “gurus” are really trying to do is teach guys who are not players and don’t want to be players how to imitate player behavior.
If you really get happiness from a player lifestyle, then just find those women. And remember, make sure you are doing it for yourself, not for validation, or the only person who REALLY gets screwed will be yourself, in more ways than one.
And if you really want something MORE than that, then be that person and let your real personality shine.
Not the ass-kissing, scared, needing approval for who you are personality, but your REAL personality, the one you’d have if you KNEW that you could NOT FAIL.
How would you dress if you were EXPLODING with confidence?
How would you talk?
How would you act?
What kind of values would you have if you KNEW you could be successful in finding a QUALITY woman?
Now, I have some really important news for you on top of all this.
Not only are women truly attracted to this MASSIVE sense of self-validation in men, but if you also knew the FULL TRUTH regarding female sexual psychology, you would realize how EASY it is to attract women and create strong connections with women, and you would be INFINITELY MOTIVATED to go out and approach women.
It is for these reasons that, if you are serious about getting the woman of your dreams, you simply MUST get my new book NOW. We are living in a culture where men are BEATEN DOWN when it comes to their self-esteem and sense of self-validation, and this is happening on so many levels including UNCONSIOUS levels that there is NO WAY to for you to even REALIZE how far down the rabbit hole this battle against your self-esteem goes.
In my book, you will be AWAKENED, you will have your eyes OPENED, and of course you will also learn the most cutting edge, most powerful HOW-TO regarding inner game, attracting women, making women turned on, keeping the attraction strong long-term, and how to deal with EVERY aspect of approaching women, dating women, getting physical, and much, much more.
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In addition to this ESSENTIAL book, you can also get PERSONALIZED coaching from me tailored to meet your EXACT goals, challenges, situations, questions, and needs. For most men, the most powerful form of this coaching is where I help you MASTER the area of INNER GAME. INNER GAME is all about having the most powerful STATES of MIND.
The best performers in every field, from sports to finance to politics to the arts, all know that their EXTERNAL PERFORMANCE in the “real world” is directly linked to their INTERNAL STATES OF MIND deep inside them.
When you are not able to be in the BEST frames of mind, you simply cannot effectively attract women.
I believe that most men STARTED OUT right as kids, and then over the years what happened is WRONG associations regarding all kinds of things got made. Whether it was the wrong beliefs about themselves, their abilities, their worth, their abilities with women, their perspectives on women, their perspectives on the world, and many other perspectives.
Over time, sometimes DECADES, the negative beliefs and associations were made so often that they became super STRONG negative beliefs, to the point that they seemed impossible to challenge.
I have over THIRTEEN YEARS experience helping guys FIX UP all this INTERNAL WIRING, especially as it relates to attracting women. I’ve coached men who are the BEST in their own respective fields- men who know themselves that in order to master anything, it just makes SENSE to go to someone who knows their own field inside out.
And trust me, this is about so much more than just thinking positive. If thinking positive was all that was required, everyone would have a state of PERFECT INNER GAME by now. In fact, JUST thinking positive without any guidance, can sometimes lead to even bigger frustrations and problems.
I have helped men from ALL OVER THE GLOBE master their inner game, and you can even see their testimonials on my website, including video filmed testimonials.
Success with women is not about some magic MOVE or pick up line. It’s about what is going on INSIDE of you.
To book a consultation with me or to learn more about my live consultation service, which can be done in person or via Skype, phone, or email, go here:
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Attracting women has nothing to do with how much
you can get drunk women to make out with you.
It has nothing to do with being outlandish.
In fact, those things show IMMATURITY, and
quality women value emotional maturity in men
to an infinitely high degree. That’s the reason
many women prefer older men- it’s the
EMOTIONAL MATURITY.
And you can see how hard it is for quality women
to meet emotionally mature men by simply taking
a quick look at YouTube and the MASSIVE NUMBER
of men who are obsessed with watching drunk and
promiscuous women at clubs getting physical with
guys.
The HIGH NUMBERS are PROOF of just how
INFANTILE and immature so many men are today.
I’m not blaming men for this, as there are many reasons
for this, including a lack of proper role models.
The women out there that men want-women who are
loyal, warm, beautiful, feminine, with solid values-
they can SNIFF out immaturity in a HEARTBEAT.
When you take BOOTCAMP or any other program
with me, you are getting the most MATURE and
advanced training in the entire WORLD for attracting
women and keeping them attracted long-term.
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
Ultimately, if you have SELF-acceptance at the highest level, you will radiate so much attraction, you will begin to attract women with very little conscious effort. This happens for a very solid reason, as I will explain below. This is not just new-age hocus pocus.
THE MYTH
The biggest myth people believe is that in order to accept themselves, something has to happen. And usually, it is more than just one thing. In fact, so many things, in their opinion, have to happen, that they make it impossible for themselves to ever reach a point where they will allow self-acceptance.
Now, this feeling is often the motivating force for many people. People will work really hard to make money, to impress women, to do whatever needs to be done to get what they believe will be validation, in order so that they themselves can feel SELF-VALIDATION.
The problem is though, and you may have heard this before, that if you don’t accept yourself first and foremost, you will find that it is almost impossible to feel validation no matter how much external validation you get.
THE TRUTH ABOUT MOST “PLAYERS”
This is the reason most “players” are hooked on “picking up women”. Sex is the smallest part of the motivation, and validation is the biggest. Constant re-validation. In this sense, picking up women becomes a source of validation similar to how making money or bodybuilding or anything else might provide some validation for others. Nothing is “wrong” except that it doesn’t work as a source of validation if it is the primary source.
Again, it’s a question of balance. No one is saying that these things don’t help, but when out of balance, it’s a sign that validation is becoming externally driven, which is dangerous.
In fact, most people, including the “hottest” women, are on such shaky ground when it comes to self-validation, that they are easy prey to those who know how to manipulate this need. I am not an advocate of playing games on women, because not only does it feel creepy, but in the end, those who need too much external validation are very bad choices for partners.
They will need endless validation tricks by you in order to stick around, whereas if they were high self-esteem to begin with, they would not need it.
This is why you can actually treat SOME women well, and they will not become spoiled, for they expect to be treated well, not because they are spoiled but because they are high self-esteem. Again, treating a woman well is not the same as kissing up to her or feeling the need to buy her presents all the time or crap like that.
Such women, just like such men, are rare.
PHASE II – THE MENTAL “INNER GAME” VIRUS
Okay, so now I want to get into phase II of this article.
THE IRONY OF ALL THIS IS, IF YOU HAVE SELF-ACCEPTANCE, YOU WILL NOT BECOME LAZY. IN FACT, YOU WILL BECOME EVEN MORE EFFICIENT AND PRODUCTIVE THAN THE OBSESSED VALIDATION-SEEKERS.
Think of your mind as a computer. Think of the need for external validation as a virus or spyware on your computer.
It slows down performance, makes you sluggish, causes mental programs to act strange, sometimes causing a mental crash.
Now, think of eliminating this crap from your mind as the equivalent of having all the junk screwing up your computer completely cleaned out.
What happens then is your mind is FREE to finally experience S-E-L-F V-A-L-I-D-A-T-I-O-N.
And, because states of mind are so damn catchy, what happens is that women in your presence start to pick up on this feeling and they experience it too.
And since MOST of attraction these days, for most people, is triggered by needs for VALIDATION, far more than by needs for sex, guess what comes across as the ultimate “babe” magnet?
I’ll give you a hint:
It’s called having S-E-L-F V-A-L-I-D-A-T-I-O-N.
Let’s go back to the computer virus analogy:
When you are cleaned up from the wrong way of thinking, suddenly you become INCREDIBLY RESOURCEFUL. Your mind truly is more powerful than you can possibly imagine.
Since I started out, I have always recommended that guys learn how to succeed with women by acting as if they were already on cloud nine where everything was perfect. And the funny thing is, if you truly act this way for long enough, you will feel that way too. Until you allow someone or something to break your frame. Usually it will be someone who has a very strong negative frame and can’t stand your positive aura for it means they are living the wrong way. And that would mean they have to change, which is hard.
Moreover, most guys have no real clue of just how powerful the aura is of someone who truly has self-acceptance. You have to experience it, genuinely attempt it, or observe it, to believe it.
You see, what we all want is that awesome feeling described as “totally worthy”. This is why some people who are insecure will gravitate towards others who are insecure. They don’t believe that they are worthy of more.
At the same time, those who are a little more secure but not totally secure will seek the validation of others who are similar to themselves, because for them, the validation of an insecure person does not mean as much as getting the validation of a secure person.
This validation/security/self-worth thing is almost like a currency. Different types of validation have different values.
THE IRONY
Now, here comes another big part of the puzzle:
If you are doing all this to get women, you will never get to the highest level.
Yes, a good woman will enhance your life. But she will not make you or break you unless you allow it.
This whole sex thing has been taken to the hilt in our current culture, where sex is used to sell even things like cola, toilet paper, cigarettes, and nail clippers, as if one brand will make you sexier than another brand. And the crazy thing is, that because of the power of association and marketing, some folks really do judge people on this.
So, at first to learn, you can imitate.
So how does a guy with total self-acceptance behave?
Well, for one thing, he doesn’t knowingly let his own life get out of balance. He doesn’t allow his beliefs to get compromised. He won’t compromise his dignity in order to get on a woman’s “good side”. He can focus on work, but he is not obsessed to the point that he is addicted, for it is not his sole source of validation.
He will not try to show off to a woman to get on her “good side”.
Showing off, unless you are talking to a woman who believes she has no value, and deserves to be treated like crap, is always a downer. You see, let’s say you really are telling the truth when you show off. Then it sounds like you are boasting which seems insecure, or just seems like you are plain mean.
If she finds out you were not even telling the truth, then you really come across as pathetic.
In fact, by being modest and yet acting confident, you are REALLY conveying that you are simply a cool guy who is not into making people feel crappy.
How else does a guy with total self-acceptance behave?
Well, if there is a woman he would like to speak with, he will speak with her to find out more, and not worry what her reaction is. He is not so caught up or serious regarding her reaction, because it really has nothing to do with him.
Think about why a guy might worry about his math test because he didn’t study, but will not worry so much about it if he knew he studied his hardest. Even if he fails the test, if he knows he did his part by studying, he won’t worry as much. He did his part. The rest is not up to him. We tend to worry when we feel responsible for everything. You are not responsible for a woman’s emotions, you are only responsible for doing your best, and for controlling your own emotions. This is in fact the best way to influence a woman’s emotions.
A guy who is self-accepting is not into “cheating”, or “seducing” married women, or women who are in relationships, because he has no need to “prove his value to himself”.
YOU ATTRACT IT BY BECOMING IT ON AN INTERNAL LEVEL
This brings me to a finer point:
In life, you ATTRACT something by BECOMING it. This is why bitter people hang out together, gossipers hang out together, cheaters hang out together, etc.
What most guys do, is they want an attractive woman, and then they try to reverse-figure out how to get her, instead of just being the coolest versions of themselves that they can be.
So these guys copy typical attractive women’s mannerisms, belief structures, value systems, lingo, etc. EVEN IF IT IS A DAMAGING BELIEF SYSTEM, etc.
These guys end up attracting these women, and having the exact same ISSUES as these women. They will complain that every woman is a cheater, because in fact, these women seek out men who cheat. Since the over-riding value system is all about external validation, which is a bottomless pit, the guys who emulate these values end up with the consequences of those values.
Now, there are SOME behaviours, such as a certain amount of confidence in this specific arena of dating, that attractive women often have, that are good to model. However, for many attractive women, this confidence is shattered the moment their worth is seriously challenged, for so few guys challenge the worth of an attractive woman. Even the “players” don’t really challenge it ultimately, they just ACT like they are challenging it.
Since most guys are looking for long term success with women, I recommend becoming what you really want.
I’m not here to tell you what to want. Just remember, you get something by BECOMING it.
If you want a woman who is INTERNALLY validated, who is relaxed, who is happy, who is at peace, who is fun, who has a sense of humour, who will not cheat, who takes care of herself as best as possible, who is confident, who doesn’t kiss up to people, who doesn’t need to get validation every second from every guy, who has a solid sense of where she wants her future to go, who has friends of good moral standing, who stands up for what she believes in, who does not have a quick temper, ad INFINITUM, then become that person yourself.
Trust me, a woman who has all those qualities can pick up pretty damn fast if a guy does NOT have those qualities.
HOW WOMEN DETECT YOUR EMOTIONAL STATE
It boils down to MICRO-EXPRESSIONS and other super-subtle nuances in your body language and tonality that cannot be consciously controlled by any other mechanism except actually GENUINELY feeling those emotions yourself, and genuinely living those values.
Women SUBCONSCIOUSLY detect all these thousands and millions of tiny nuances and subtleties in your body language, tonality, and facial expressions, even if they only flash across your face for a fraction of a second and are actually too quick to consciously remember.
And the SUBCONSCIOUS is what is making women FEEL their emotions one way or another about you.
I have never been a fan of “fooling women” into anything.
FOOLING WOMEN IS FOR GUYS WHO THINK THEY NEED TO FOOL WOMEN.
WHEN YOU ARE “THE MAN”, YOU DON’T NEED TO FOOL ANYONE BECAUSE YOU NATURALLY ATTRACT THE KIND OF WOMEN YOU WANT AND WHO WANT YOU.
I get a good laugh every time I hear about guys who promote “player” tactics, or try to pretend that getting drunk promiscuous women into acting all “physical” really quickly has ANYTHING AT ALL IN THIS UNIVERSE to do with actually attracting a quality woman on a deep level- and I mean attracting the kind of woman who is loyal, faithful, beautiful, and warm.
The truth is that “player women” are looking for “player guys”. There is no need for either of them to pretend. In fact, “TRYING” to be GENUINE comes across as WEIRD and NOT genuine. What these “gurus” are really trying to do is teach guys who are not players and don’t want to be players how to imitate player behavior.
If you really get happiness from a player lifestyle, then just find those women. And remember, make sure you are doing it for yourself, not for validation, or the only person who REALLY gets screwed will be yourself, in more ways than one.
And if you really want something MORE than that, then be that person and let your real personality shine.
Not the ass-kissing, scared, needing approval for who you are personality, but your REAL personality, the one you’d have if you KNEW that you could NOT FAIL.
How would you dress if you were EXPLODING with confidence?
How would you talk?
How would you act?
What kind of values would you have if you KNEW you could be successful in finding a QUALITY woman?
Now, I have some really important news for you on top of all this.
Not only are women truly attracted to this MASSIVE sense of self-validation in men, but if you also knew the FULL TRUTH regarding female sexual psychology, you would realize how EASY it is to attract women and create strong connections with women, and you would be INFINITELY MOTIVATED to go out and approach women.
It is for these reasons that, if you are serious about getting the woman of your dreams, you simply MUST get my new book NOW. We are living in a culture where men are BEATEN DOWN when it comes to their self-esteem and sense of self-validation, and this is happening on so many levels including UNCONSIOUS levels that there is NO WAY to for you to even REALIZE how far down the rabbit hole this battle against your self-esteem goes.
In my book, you will be AWAKENED, you will have your eyes OPENED, and of course you will also learn the most cutting edge, most powerful HOW-TO regarding inner game, attracting women, making women turned on, keeping the attraction strong long-term, and how to deal with EVERY aspect of approaching women, dating women, getting physical, and much, much more.
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In addition to this ESSENTIAL book, you can also get PERSONALIZED coaching from me tailored to meet your EXACT goals, challenges, situations, questions, and needs. For most men, the most powerful form of this coaching is where I help you MASTER the area of INNER GAME. INNER GAME is all about having the most powerful STATES of MIND.
The best performers in every field, from sports to finance to politics to the arts, all know that their EXTERNAL PERFORMANCE in the “real world” is directly linked to their INTERNAL STATES OF MIND deep inside them.
When you are not able to be in the BEST frames of mind, you simply cannot effectively attract women.
I believe that most men STARTED OUT right as kids, and then over the years what happened is WRONG associations regarding all kinds of things got made. Whether it was the wrong beliefs about themselves, their abilities, their worth, their abilities with women, their perspectives on women, their perspectives on the world, and many other perspectives.
Over time, sometimes DECADES, the negative beliefs and associations were made so often that they became super STRONG negative beliefs, to the point that they seemed impossible to challenge.
I have over THIRTEEN YEARS experience helping guys FIX UP all this INTERNAL WIRING, especially as it relates to attracting women. I’ve coached men who are the BEST in their own respective fields- men who know themselves that in order to master anything, it just makes SENSE to go to someone who knows their own field inside out.
And trust me, this is about so much more than just thinking positive. If thinking positive was all that was required, everyone would have a state of PERFECT INNER GAME by now. In fact, JUST thinking positive without any guidance, can sometimes lead to even bigger frustrations and problems.
I have helped men from ALL OVER THE GLOBE master their inner game, and you can even see their testimonials on my website, including video filmed testimonials.
Success with women is not about some magic MOVE or pick up line. It’s about what is going on INSIDE of you.
To book a consultation with me or to learn more about my live consultation service, which can be done in person or via Skype, phone, or email, go here:
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Attracting women has nothing to do with how much
you can get drunk women to make out with you.
It has nothing to do with being outlandish.
In fact, those things show IMMATURITY, and
quality women value emotional maturity in men
to an infinitely high degree. That’s the reason
many women prefer older men- it’s the
EMOTIONAL MATURITY.
And you can see how hard it is for quality women
to meet emotionally mature men by simply taking
a quick look at YouTube and the MASSIVE NUMBER
of men who are obsessed with watching drunk and
promiscuous women at clubs getting physical with
guys.
The HIGH NUMBERS are PROOF of just how
INFANTILE and immature so many men are today.
I’m not blaming men for this, as there are many reasons
for this, including a lack of proper role models.
The women out there that men want-women who are
loyal, warm, beautiful, feminine, with solid values-
they can SNIFF out immaturity in a HEARTBEAT.
When you take BOOTCAMP or any other program
with me, you are getting the most MATURE and
advanced training in the entire WORLD for attracting
women and keeping them attracted long-term.
BOOTCAMP is at:
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
Wednesday, April 13, 2016
Maturity And Attracting Quality Women Who Are Beautiful Inside And Out
There is a reason that many women prefer
men who are older, and that is because
maturity is a powerful thing.
What they are really seeking is EMOTIONAL
maturity.
Today, however, maturity is something that
unfortunately many men simply don't have.
The reasons for this are manyfold, and
beyond the scope of this newsletter,
but my point is that they very obsession
with pick-up and getting physical as
fast as possible with drunk promiscuous
women in itself is an indication of that
immaturity.
A quality woman who is offering all the
great things a man can want in a woman,
both inside and out, in terms of being
attractive, loyal, warm, fun, supportive,
and a host of other great traits, wants
a man who is truly that- a man and not
a boy obsessed with pick-up instead of
the big picture in life.
And so attracting these quality women
is about something deeper than how fast
you can get a drunk woman to kiss you
or go to bed with you.
But it takes an emotionally mature man
to even realize this in the first place.
Perhaps this is why emotionally mature
men come to me. And perhaps this is why
I have been the go-to person for anyone
who is SERIOUS about getting a fantastic
girlfriend for a long-term relationship.
If you are serious about getting an amazing woman
in your life, I suggest you IMMEDIATELY download
my new book, called THE DATING WIZARD RETURNS.
It will BLOW. YOU. AWAY.
This book is ABSOLUTELY VITAL to your success
with women.
It's at:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/book.html
The NEXT step is to take my BOOTCAMP or
my CONSULTATION service.
BOOTCAMP is here:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html
CONSULTATIONS are here:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/consultations.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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