Perspective Taking & 'State Vs. Calibration' For Attracting Women

There is this huge misunderstanding among men who study attraction techniques or "PUA" tactics for attracting women, and it boils down to this question:

"What's more important for attracting women-being in the right STATE OF MIND, or being able to CALIBRATE properly?"

State of mind refers to being in that state where you are confident, optimistic, sexual, dominant, flirty, playful, relaxed-all that good stuff!

Calibration refers to being able to use all the various techniques of attraction and connection properly-in the right amounts, at the right time.  So for example, calibration would include playfully teasing a woman when you first approach her, but not right in middle of you and her making love!

I give this obvious example to make my point clear, however calibration refers to far more nuanced and subtle things as well. It means knowing when a woman is actually testing you, and when she is just truly being playful and funny.  It means knowing exactly when to stop playfully teasing and progress the interaction forward. It means knowing when you've screwed up and apologizing. It means knowing when to kiss, and when to pull back to create more sexual tension. It means all this and so much, much, MUCH more.

But the answer to what is more important all depends on the INDIVIDUAL.



Some men are NATURALLY great at calibrating; they have amazing social skills with ALL human beings, but when it comes to approaching women out of the blue, or even women in general who they want to attract, there is fear, anxiety, insecurity that FREEZES them up.

And because of THAT, they can't access their mental processors for CALIBRATING.  Their brains are too busy being FROZEN because they have gone into FIGHT/FLIGHT/FREEZE as a result of the AMYGDALA in the brain being triggered by stress.  The amygdala SHUTS down all the thinking and turns on the biology to prepare you for DANGER.  As if a tiger is about to jump at you.  And your brain doesn't think then-it just causes your body to react physically and your mind emotionally-and not in a productive way.

So for a guy like that, it's ALL about STATE OF MIND.  If he can get into the right state of mind again, then he can naturally access his CALIBRATION SKILLS if he already has them.

For HIM, it is also true that calibration skills are SUPER IMPORTANT, but since he already has them, he doesn't have to worry-HE has to work on his STATE OF MIND.

But for other men, they may be totally OBLIVIOUS to fear or anxiety or giving a damn about what anyone thinks at all, to a point that this is actually a FAULT. They may be in a GREAT state of mind, but they lack the ability to truly engage in maximum PERSPECTIVE TAKING, and CALIBRATION requires MASTERING the skill of PERSPECTIVE TAKING!

Perspective taking means you can truly feel and sense what it is like to be ANOTHER person. So if you want to calibrate properly, you must be able to SENSE what it feels like for HER to be on the RECEIVING end of whatever you are saying and doing with her. This is a SKILL.

In fact, calibration is IMPOSSIBLE without highly developed PERSPECTIVE TAKING skills.

And what is so funny is that 99% of the guys who talk about being ALPHA completely UNDERESTIMATE the absolutely MASSIVE ROLE of perspective taking.

They think that being ALPHA means NOT caring what SHE is thinking and feeling, when in reality this stuff is EVERYTHING! They mistake the idea of "not seeking approval" with truly not CARING or FEELING what she is feeling or thinking. 

How can you know if you are teasing too much and it's time to go into deeper rapport, if you can't actually FEEL and UNDERSTAND the interaction from HER perspective? After all, you aren't calibrating for yourself, you are calibrating to get HER!

It's also ironic how this stuff is SO important, and yet you can see how LITTLE most of the so called "experts" really know about perspective taking, and even worse, how little they actually INTUITIVELY AND EMOTIONALLY feel perspective taking, because they FILM WOMEN WITHOUT THEIR PERMISSION and put them up on the internet!!!!  Even the greatest ignoramus in the world could see that this is something that women would feel BAD about, but there is so horrifyingly LITTLE perspective taking ability or feeling in these guys that they go right ahead and do it anyway.

There is so much out there about being ALPHA that actually is NOT true. The TRUE alpha GETS the woman, and since perspective taking and the ability to truly FEEL what she is feeling, and the ability to feel and understand her perspective is INTEGRAL to your success in getting the woman, PERSPECTIVE TAKING is therefore an absolutely FUNDAMENTAL part of being a successful ALPHA-MALE.

And it's also important to understand how perspective taking and calibration go hand-in-hand. For example, if you are in a CONFIDENT state of mind, then you will not negatively DISTORT the things a woman says and does. This means you will be better at perspective taking accurately, and allow you to CALIBRATE your response perfectly. 

In my video, I give the example of a mind-blowing woman who was at my place, and she mentioned how my TV is from the 1960s. If I was in a bad state of mind, a weak state of mind, an insecure state of mind, I would have felt threatened, insulted, or challenged, and I would have thought I had to "strike back" to get her down to size and off her pedestal. That would have RUINED the entire vibe and DESTROYED the attraction.

But the fact is, being in a great state of mind helped me understand she was being PLAYFUL. Not only could I tell from her tonality, but also because she HERSELF was calibrating her humor very INTELLIGENTLY.

The reason I say this is because one of the great ways to CALIBRATE a playful tease is to make sure that the thing you are saying cannot be interpreted seriously by anyone with common sense. So the fact is, there is NO REALISTIC WAY that she ACTUALLY thought the TV was from the 60s and that it was 57 years old! 

That is PROOF she didn't REALLY mean it.  (Notice that SHE was calibrating properly.)

And of course, even if she did mean it, it really doesn't matter much one way or another, as far as what the INTELLIGENT response should be, right?

So I did what I FELT like doing, based on my state of mind AND my understanding of the situation-I thought it was FUNNY, so I LAUGHED.  It was the perfect response, and it allowed us both to laugh and move AHEAD, as neither one of us had TV in mind.

And we never ended up watching TV that night ;)

As you can see, I know what I'm talking about, and it's also why I love CUSTOMIZING my training for each man, because each man is DIFFERENT. I can tell exactly what YOU need, which is different from what the NEXT guy needs. Whether it is SKYROCKETING your state of mind with women, or whether it is perfecting your CALIBRATION SKILLS with women, or whether it is any of DOZENS of other skills, such as creating spontaneous humor, or whether it is a combination of these things, I will get you the success you want with women by CUSTOMIZING your training so that it's perfect for YOU. 

I will assess your strengths and weakness and then create the PLAN for you, and then CARRY OUT THAT PLAN WITH YOU so that you QUICKLY see the success you want with women right before your eyes. My live coaching, including my bootcamps, are EXCLUSIVE. That means you get 100% of my time during bootcamp. The attention is not split between you and other students.  This allows you to get the skills you need to attract women FASTER than anything else on EARTH.

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These programs give you the KNOWLEDGE I have gained over 15 YEARS in the field of helping men attract amazing women, and these programs also allow you to make MORE out of your live coaching with me because you are not coming in to my live coaching then as a total beginner.     

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Use Your Voice To Attract Women

I have some great news for you: Just using the power of your VOICE ALONE, can attract women to you INSTANTLY. 

This is because your VOICE serves as a MIRROR to your INTERNAL state of mind, and reveals to a woman every single NUANCE and DETAIL of your state of mind.  At the same time, when you CONTROL your voice to ENSURE it is sounding right, you then actually CONTROL your internal state as well.

This is because the MIND AND BODY are interconnected to the most mind-blowing degree.  So, make sure your VOICE is projecting power, warmth, and masculinity, and she will FEEL these things OOZING from your every PORE and be all over you FAST.

Here's the video:



As you can see, I know what I'm talking about. I'm the REAL thing, no b.s., no gimmicks, no phony come on lines, no hypnosis, just REAL RAW NATURAL ATTRACTION of the most AMAZING women. 

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Michael Marks

The Connection Between Your Mind And Body

Anyone who knows ANYTHING about attracting
women knows that INNER GAME is of absolutely
MASSIVE importance to your success.

Women can DETECT your state, your confidence,
your comfort with being sexual, in an INSTANT. 

They size you up quickly on this, and they
do it unconsciously. They make up their minds,
instinctively, on whether they WANT to get
sexual with you or not, in the BLINK of any eye.

And throughout the years, I’ve known the
MIND and the BODY are connected in ways
that go far deeper than most people realize.

When you are in PEAK CONDITION physically,
your state of MIND goes THROUGH THE ROOF.

Your body actually releases CHEMICALS into
your bloodstream NATURALLY.

These chemicals give you a NATURAL HIGH that
make you feel GREAT.

They make you feel EMPOWERED to do ANYTHING.

 






 

And there is no negative SIDE effect!

Scientific studies have actually PROVEN that
the effect of proper exercise is the SAME
effect as taking DRUGS that put you in a
GREAT state of mind, but without the negative
consequences!

And the same studies have also shown that
going WITHOUT proper exercise is the same
as taking a DEPRESSANT and making you feel
like doing nothing but sleeping and moping
around.

And it gets even BETTER, because of something
else proper resistance training produces in
your body:

THE RELEASE OF TESTOSTERONE-THE CHEMICAL THAT
MAKES MEN MASCULINE!

Working out hard with WEIGHTS actually causes
your body to release TESTOSTERONE, which is
the very ESSENCE of what makes men MASCULINE
in the first place!

It’s what makes you feel turned on around a
woman, it’s what makes you aggressive, it’s
what builds muscle, and it’s what makes a
man’s voice manly.

There is NOTHING more arousing to a woman,
nothing that makes her want to be FEMININE
for a man, more than the POLARITY of her
femininity contrasted with a man’s MASCULINITY.

 





 






Testosterone is a HUGE PART of what makes
you A MAN, and PROPER weight-lifting actually
cause your body to produce MORE of it, and
totally NATURALLY without ANY side effects!

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Sincerely,

Michael Marks

How The MIND Is The Most Powerful Key To Attracting Women

I have THREE massively important things to let you

know that have MONUMENTAL consequences

for your success with women.

The FIRST one is the power of BELIEF.

Most people NEVER realize the FULL SIGNIFICANCE

of this, and the EFFECT it has on women.

If you feel a SHRED of self-consciousness, a SHRED

of doubt, it SHOWS.

On the other hand, if you REALLY DON’T GIVE

A CARE, not in the NEGATIVE sense, (which

would mean that you really DID care, and were

feeling bitter) but that you really DIDN’T CARE

what people THOUGHT, what the woman

THOUGHT, well THAT SHOWS TOO.

The GOOD kind of “not caring” comes from feeling

EMOTIONALLY OVERFLOWING WITH EMPOWERMENT.

When you feel this way INTERNALLY, you truly

DON’T give a F what other people THINK, and

THIS MAKES YOU SUPERHUMAN WHEN IT

COMES TO ATTRACTION.

Because you really are now FREE to INDULGE

in WHATEVER YOU FEEL LIKE DOING OR SAYING.

SINCE THERE IS NO CONSEQUENCE TO YOU

INTERNALLY NO MATTER HOW PEOPLE APPROVE

OR DISAPPROVE.

This makes you FUN.

This makes you FLIRTY.

This makes you SEXUAL.

This makes you SHAKE THINGS UP.

If you are doing OTHER stuff to try to

attract women, like doing them favors,

buying them things, and in general trying

to play it SAFE, well then you need to

realize that THAT IN ITSELF IS A HUGE

PART OF THE PROBLEM.

And you need to understand where that

behavior stems from!!!!!!

It stems from NOT wanting to be DISAPPROVED of.

This is where BOOTCAMP with me is SO

MASSIVELY AWESOME, because I will

RIP APART THE  STUFF INSIDE OF YOU

THAT IS HOLDING YOU BACK FROM

MASSIVE SUCCESS WITH WOMEN.

You need to bring me your MOTIVATION.

And then I will do the REST.

I will UNLEASH the BEAST in you that makes

you UNSTOPPABLE with women.

Because you are there IN PERSON with me,

I can actually FORCE this process to happen,

so that you are ENSURED getting this DONE

once and for ALL so that this whole part of your

life is handled and you can enjoy your life

so much INFINITELY more as a result.

A woman CAN’T HELP but be attracted to a man

that DEMONSTRATES this level of ROCK-SOLID

“NOT GIVING AN F” in the way I described,

ESPECIALLY when it is combined with sexual

flirtation.

You have to be committed to this ALL THE WAY, though.

It’s a bit similar to CHOPPING a block of wood with

your hands in karate. You have to be thinking of

not just “somewhat” breaking through some of the

blocks, or even all the blocks, but rather WAY

PAST THE BLOCKS!

THAT’S how mentally committed you have to be.

PART II – THE MIND IS WHERE IT REALLY PLAYS OUT

The next thing I want to explain is that ULTIMATELY

the only place that really matters in order for you to

attract her is her MIND.

And what goes on in her MIND regarding how she

perceives you is NOT the same thing she actually

saw and heard and felt when she interacted with you.

It could be WORSE or it could be WAY BETTER.

What happens in her mind regarding her

PERCEPTION and FEELING about you continues to

EVOLVE long after your first interaction with her is

OVER and she is AWAY from you.

It is during this time her mind starts to FILL IN

all sorts of blanks, and if you set things up RIGHT

in the first place in your interaction with her,

she then starts to create a FANTASY for herself

with YOU being the object of it.

This is why a proper pick-up is about so much

more than just TALKING. 

It’s about helping HER fantasy come true, and

you can do this in a very honest way as well.

Think about it- you LIKE it when a woman is

ATTRACTIVE, right?

So why not make the pick up something that makes

HER feel not only attracted, but more and more

CRAZY about you as time passes by, when she

is AWAY from you???????????????????????

This is a HUGE topic, but for ONE thing, keep

the conversation as INTIMATE as possible,

and by intimate, I mean the TONE, not necessarily

that you are discussing sexual matters, but rather

that there is a demeanor to your tonality and

body language that is similar to the way a man

and a woman who are lovers might speak to

each other right before or after love-making.

It is in the TONALITY.

The EYES.

The EXPRESSIONS.

The more something LOOKS like a duck, SOUNDS

like a duck, and FEELS like a duck, the more the

MIND will BELIEVE it is a duck.

And so the more you adopt all the congruent

traits of THAT kind of situation and vibe,

the more she will FEEL that with you and

take that with her into her mind as she parts

from you and continues to think of you and

what will happen with her and you in the future.

And what is so great about this is that the

PICTURE she PAINTS in her mind is going

to be so good, because SHE made it!

And the more she LIKES it, the more she WANTS

it to happen, and the more she wants it to happen,

the more she is going to ROOT for you and she will

even go so far as to TRY TO HELP YOU simply so

SHE can enjoy what is HER fantasy!

PART III: A SECRET BREAKTHROUGH

This is something that I am not going to repeat very

likely in the newsletter, because it is a one-time only

event and it is going to cost more than most people

are able to pay.

I understand that. And before I go any further on this,

just let me say that the following program is a

LUXURY. 

My other programs will ALSO get you success, so

you don’t NEED to get the following program, it’s

just that this following program is something I

need to keep to a very LIMITED number of people.

I have discovered and formulated a way to use

ONLINE DATING and the power of the internet

combined with my insights into attraction to truly

BLOW AWAY anything else that exists out there

to attract women online.

The strategies involved in this approach to online

dating are truly NOT AVAILABLE ANYWHERE ELSE.

There is nothing even CLOSE to it out there

in terms of how EFFECTIVE this is at getting

women to be HEAD OVER HEELS in LUST

with you.

Now, there is a reason I’m not making this program

available to the public at large.

I’ve been burned before.

In the seduction community, I was the guy who

first instructed that things like NEGS will destroy

the TRUST in a relationship and will cause men

to actually LOSE the women they care about MOST.

This changed the entire FIELD.

Today, you barely EVER hear about the use of

that strategy, ESPECIALLY not when it comes to

getting a great woman for a great relationship.

Millions of men around the world BENEFITED

from that positive development, but not ONE

pick-up artist or member of the seduction community

even went so far as to ACKNOWLEDGE that this

was my work.

Second, the entire use of PICK UP LINES was

something that I taught were NOT only not necessary,

but that actually UNDERMINED a lot of mens’ success

because it made men attribute their success to external

things like lines rather than their own developed selves,

so the pick-up lines were actually HARMING men’s

INNER GAMES.

I was preaching this and teaching this to my own students

even during the HEIGHT of the pick-up lines and routines

craze, and many of the most prominent pick-up artists at

the time SWORE by using pick-up lines, going so far as

to ADMONISH any students who did NOT use pick-up lines,

telling the students to “STICK TO THE SCRIPT!”

Fast forward a few years, and eventually EVERYONE

ON THE PLANET came to accept what I was teaching

before anyone else.

Did even ONE pick-up artist or dating coach give me

ONE OUNCE of credit for this?

Nope.

And I wasn’t exactly a SECRET to them.

They knew me, because I would post on a Forum known

as FastSeduction then, the same place that Neil Strauss

was first posting under his pseudonyms “Chris Powles” and

“Style” when he was writing the book THE GAME.

In fact, Neil even wrote to me there that he CAN’T

pick up women WITHOUT using the routines and

pick-up lines!  When I wrote back the SOLUTION,

he never replied to me.

And when I spent YEARS writing about getting a great

girlfriend and how that required a DIFFERENT approach

than typical seduction advisors and pick up artists, no

one gave me an OUNCE of credit. 

David DeAngelo, a famous name in this field,

came out with a product that basically described

all of my strategies, called MANTRANSFORMATION

long AFTER I had written about my strategies,

and these strategies were in many ways the

complete OPPOSITE of the strategies that

many of the people he promoted used to teach.

There too, I got no credit for my true impact on the

community of men world-wide.

So, I would have to be a freaking IDIOT to

PUBLISH yet ANOTHER incredible, original,

and ground-breaking idea to the public at large,

only so that somebody else who already has a

massive distribution should COPY and then

rip me off once again.

I simply won’t do it.

I love what I do. But I work hard at it, and I

don’t like getting ripped off.

I spent my years not on marketing but on

TAKING THIS FIELD FURTHER FOR REAL.

I never built up "my list" of subscribers; instead

I poured all my energy into the actual LEARNING 

of HOW TO ATTRACT WOMEN itself. 

So, what I am going to do is give ONE seminar

on this MOST POWERFUL METHOD FOR

ATTRACTING WOMEN ONLINE EVER.

It will be ONE seminar, on ONE night, in

ONE city.

And then that’s IT.

There will be no recordings allowed.

People will be searched and possibly removed.

The city it will be held in is still to be announced,

but it will likely be in Toronto, New York, or

Miami, and it will be held THIS SUMMER

in July or August.

The cost of this program is $10,000.

Seats will be LIMITED.

If you would like to RESERVE a seat, go here NOW:

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A confirmation of your reservation will be sent to you immediately,

and full details of the event will be sent to you on July 5, 2014.

If you can’t make this, relax.

You can still attract women GUARANTEED using my other programs. 

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Till next time,

Michael Marks