The Most Important Skill For Attracting Women-And How To MASTER It

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Alright, I want to make some MASSIVELY IMPORTANT points clear today regarding how to attract women.

The first is that ATTRACTING a woman is all about unleashing the positive PRIMAL emotions in yourself, which helps brings those SAME emotions out in her.

The more YOU are feeling sexual, confident, dominant, upbeat, and playful, as OPPOSED to feeling like a robot, or feeling worried about the outcome of the interaction, or feeling serious, the better your results will be.

Now the thing is, some guys will read that and take it out of CONTEXT.

They will go too far, or they won’t be intense enough.

It is important to OBSERVE the situation accurately, not only so you can GENERATE attraction, but also so that you can REALIZE an opportunity when you SEE it!



What is required for success is the proper CALIBRATION of those states of minds and actions, which means the proper amount and intensity of those things, depending on the situation and the woman, and depending on where you are at in the conversation.

So, for example, let’s say you are at a major mall and you see a woman carrying a bunch of shopping bags and she looks tired as she is plodding her feet along. You approach her and make a playful comment teasing her on how it seems she has done some real “work” today. Perhaps she smiles at you and chuckles and she says she’s done a lot of “damage” (i.e. to her finances from all the purchases).

Well, now that she is clearly OPENING UP TO YOU, you have to CALIBRATE properly. Do you decide to tease her FURTHER? And if so, how intense should the tease be, so that it doesn’t come across as mean-spirited?

A comment like, "You’re going to really regret it" is just MEAN and NOT FUNNY- unless you reallllly deliver it with the right tonality and expression.

A better comment from you in response to her mentioning how she has damaged her finances might be: "Hey, is the stuff you bought for you?"

This might be better, because let’s say she says that it is, you might then reply with, “Well that’s cool, you know that charity begins at home!”

And now she may smile AGAIN.

So now you have a woman that was a total stranger just moments ago, who has opened up to you, and revealed that she has possibly done something she lightly regrets, (and as such has now engaged in a subtle form of disclosure with you, which is an element you can use to build greater connection as you do the same as well to follow up), and you have gotten her to smile or laugh- all IN SECONDS from meeting her.

By saying something positive like that, you are keeping the conversation upbeat and rewarding her for talking to you, a total stranger.  She might smile in response to the “charity begins at home” comment, or she might laugh, but no matter what she says, chances are it will be a positive reaction because you CALIBRATED properly.

But now at THIS POINT, now that you have got her a little more INVESTED in the interaction by mere fact that she is actually speaking with you, you might want to add a bit of SPICE to the conversation  by introducing a touch of “positive/playful tension” i.e. not making it too easy for her to get you, otherwise she will likely feel the whole interaction went TOO FAST, and is thus somehow “not right”—this is because women are conditioned to expect there to be a certain amount of “the dance” (figuratively speaking) before she will actually escalate to the next stage with you.

It can happen pretty darn fast, but not TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO fast, or it actually LOSES the very feeling of chemistry, of fun, of romance.

This is why, the IRONY of learning to attract women, once you get some experience at it, is actually about learning to SLOW THINGS DOWN, and NOT speed things UP.

I know that probably sounds strange, right? After all, most guys want to know how to SUCCEED, not how to SLOW THINGS DOWN EVEN FURTHER, right?

But yet success requires just a LITTLE BIT OF SLOWING DOWN for what actually is going to be a FAR MORE EFFECTIVE AND EFFICIENT result. 

Think about it- what do most guys do?

They basically SKIP all the FUN, the vibing, the playful, the connection, and just want to get to “So, do you wanna go out sometime?” or they say something like, “Hey, you’re beautiful, what’s your number?” if they say anything at all.

This SKIPS the entire possibility for creating CHEMISTRY, for creating that VIBE where it’s all about building up the sexual tension, the playful ‘ping-pong’ of energy going back and forth between the two of you as you both engage in repartee, also known as “banter”.

Women UNDERSTAND THIS, WANT THIS, AND CRAVE THIS.

THIS is why a woman, if she LIKES you, will actually try even HARDER to slow it down, so that you actually DO have a chance, ironically.

She needs you to make it feel RIGHT to her- and it's really not hard to do, plus if you think about it, it's more fun for you as well, since it gives you a chance to feel out her personality  before going further.  Good things in life are never rushed.

All YOU have to do is UNDERSTAND this “mating dance before the mating dance” if you will.
Slow it DOWN, have some FUN, and yet also be AUTHENTIC.

Okay, but you probably are wondering how the heck can you do this when you are feeling NERVOUS about making the approach, right? How can you be PLAYFUL and all the other good stuff when you feel your heart is going to explode?

Well guess what? If your heart feels like it’s going to EXPLODE, that can actually be a GOOD thing as well, because it means you have PASSION, it means that you really LOVE women, it means that you have a lot of ENERGY in you that just needs to be TAPPED properly- and let me tell you something- PASSION is attractive to women.

Passion for love, for music, for art, for your hobbies, for learning, for sports, PASSION itself is attractive.

You can use that passion to MOTIVATE you.

Also, your passion for HER is something she may very well DETECT, and that is NOT a bad thing, it can be a very good thing.  

And guess what? It’s OKAY to not be PERFECT in your approach, especially as a beginner, as every single guy HAS to start off LESS THAN PERFECT!!!  Your first approaches might very well SOUND nervous, stammered, and you might not be able to keep the conversation going for more than a few seconds- THAT’S OKAY!

You will get BETTER with PRACTICE, you will get better at CALIBRATION.

And also, as I said before, if you are being AUTHENTIC at all times, and not telling her lies, and genuinely trying to connect, she will SENSE that, and it will HELP you.

In fact, this is something I realized that came out of something painful. Personally, I see no point to being with a woman unless there is an intense personal connection that is mutual, but I understand that not everyone is like this.

However, because connection really IS everything to me, it resulted in many relationships where I just felt the connection wasn’t strong enough, and so it wasn’t meaningful enough to me.

I used to think everyone else was crazy, but then I realized that actually I have this innate burning obsession for connection that goes far beyond what most people require or are even capable of- so although it made me feel super alone with almost every woman I ever met because the connection wasn’t strong enough, my burning obsession for intense connection DID result in me creating a connection that the WOMEN felt was super strong, and it wasn’t their fault that THEY couldn’t create the SAME feeling of connection- not most of them. 

But my point to you is that connection and authenticity are VERY powerful, so powerful in fact that you will find it is the most important part of the interaction in terms of what you are doing actively. The rest- i.e. you being in the positive state of mind, takes care of most of the other aspects of the attraction.   

If you have the connection part down, the rest is simply more about NOT RUINING a woman's natural attraction to you by doing something to WRECK the moment, than it is some major thing you have to actively do aside from the connection.  Again, this is because a woman picks up on your state of mind subconsciously from your body language, tonality, facial expressions, all which flow from your state of mind.

The more you genuinely care about these things the better you will do with women.

Of course, learning under my coaching from my books and programs, and learning even FASTER by learning from me in PERSON, will get you to a HIGHER LEVEL OF MASTERY MUCH SOONER, but you can start right NOW with whatever level you are currently at this moment.

One of the KEYS is to realize that the conversation has to KEEP GOING for a certain amount of time, before enough minutes have gone by that you actually pass the “stranger zone” and are now someone she feels she actually HAS a real INTEREST in, whether that is because you managed to attract her so powerfully, or even if you just made a really damn good impression in general through your wit, your connection skills, and your general sense of control over yourself where you give off an air of masculinity and positivity and you make her feel safe and secure.

But TIME IS IMPORTANT, the conversation does have to continue for at least a few minutes, and I have found statistically from experience myself and the experience of the clients I’ve coached, that this is usually about 7 minutes to about 20 minutes.

Past 20 minutes, and you are usually reaching a point of diminishing returns, meaning that it’s not BAD to continue it, but you are not really attracting her much MORE beyond what you already did, nor are you enhancing the connection further, it tends to PEAK at about 20 minutes when everything is done right.

So, that means typically that she has been smiling, laughing, perhaps also moments of looking really seriously into your eyes, and just moment of chilling out being COMFORTABLE IN YOUR PRESENCE, as well as moments where you two are connecting over something shared that is meaningful, whether it is a shared experience, a shared value, a shared element of childhood, etc.

Also, during the interaction, it is important that indeed there IS a time when you are actually doing nothing but just having a nice quiet moment together, where she just feels good being with you, she as a woman with a man, and you just feeling that awesome feeling of being with a woman you like-no words need to be spoken.

So, ALL these things are important elements of a successful interaction, and yet they have one COMMON THREAD- and that is that they all HAPPEN VERY EASILY from you WHEN YOU ARE IN THE RIGHT STATES OF MIND.

And this is why when you put too much pressure on yourself to GO ATTRACT WOMEN, you actually end up often coming across as awkward and not natural at all. And it’s harder to be playful, and to truly be indifferent to the outcome.

And during these situations,  it’s easy to end up OVERCOMPENSATING for feelings of anxiety or insecurity by going TOO far with the teasing so that it ends up coming across as hurtful and not playful, or you end up going TOO FAR with the connection stuff and it seems like you are desperately trying to grab at straws for something to share in common.

So here are some things to help you chill out and improve your success when you approach women:

1. Don’t make it the only focus of your activity.

This is why I suggest you include meeting women as part of your OTHER activities, like shopping, playing sports, going to the bookstore, getting a coffee, etc. 

Just make sure these other activities are RELAXED or POSITIVE, so that you are ALREADY in state when the moment of opportunity rises.

This way, your mind was already occupied with something else positive, and now that you are seeing a woman you find attractive, you are ALREADY in state, and you haven’t had time to freak yourself out. You are psychologically ready to take IMMEDIATE action.

2. Regarding finding a connection, let’s start with the basics- MAN AND WOMAN.

So if you have started the conversation with an observational comment about something, (keep it positive), or you have playfully teased her, or even if you just went right up and gave her a meaningful compliment that was authentic, the fact is there IS ALREADY one connection you both have.

She is a woman, you are a man.

That’s enough of a reason to already BUILD something together, because as long as you are exuding positive energy and good vibes and you are in a good state, there is the PULL of sexual attraction, and the shared desire to be with each other on a very primal level, even though of course as a modern society we don’t have to ACT upon these feelings at all- but the fact of the matter is they are THERE.

If they weren’t there, there wouldn’t be a society at all!

So in the back of your mind, know this, to help you relax.

And when your mind is FREE to feel RELAXED, your CRITICAL THINKING SKILLS are now UNLEASHED.

THIS IS A SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN FACT. It is BIOLOGY.

When you are feeling PANICKED, your brain shuts down all the NON-ESSENTIAL skills for survival, and puts your body and mind into “FIGHT OR FLIGHT” mode.

This is where you get your heart beating fast, adrenaline pumping, and you are ready to fight, flee, or freeze.

Unfortunately, that is very BAD state to be in when you actually need your MIND to be FULLY AWAKE so that you can PROCESS all the data that flows from her in a conversation.

You want your mind in the most RESOURCEFUL state, where it can LISTEN well, PERCEIVE well, be able to be playful, witty, observe patterns in things she is saying or simply understanding her words, her body language, her tonality so that you can give her meaningful feedback, etc.

So chill out by knowing that it you already have something going for you—the fact that she is a woman who has been HARDWIRED and that you are a man who has been HARDWIRED to feel a certain way about the opposite gender.

THAT is a connection, whether it is SAID or not.

Also, realize that most people could use an ENERGY LIFT in their day, and the GREATEST BOOST in our emotions tends to come from our INTERACTIONS with others, and here YOU ARE, actually putting some POSITIVE ENERGY into HER DAY, making it more fun, sexual, and interesting.

That means there is a very GOOD CHANCE she will be RECEPTIVE to you.

The most AMAZING thing to me is that we are living in a society where you really CAN meet almost INFINITE women, all you need is to have the KNOW-HOW, and it can actually be EASY.

Now, there is a whole OTHER side, which is about how to work on yourself and how to SCREEN the women you meet so that you both are able to enjoy having an AWESOME relationship together long term, but that is a whole other discussion, one that I also teach and that is super-important as well.

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I am the guy who basically CHANGED THE ENTIRE PLAYBOOK for the field of how to approach and attract women. From getting rid of pick-up lines, to generating attraction in a more natural way, to learning how to screen for the kind of women who will treat you right, to raising the entire standard on “inner game”, and much more. 

And it all started because I myself truly went through hell and back when it came to figuring out women. I understand just how much TORTURE it can be to feel HELPLESS in this area, to feel ALONE, to feel OVERWHELMED.

I truly GET IT.

And when you learn from me, you will learn not only how to attract women, but how to go about the entire endeavor in a way that is consistent with a holistic approach to life in general- you will learn to do it all in a way that is SUM-SUM. You win, the woman wins, and it LASTS.

Sincerely,

Michael Marks

Perspective Taking & 'State Vs. Calibration' For Attracting Women

There is this huge misunderstanding among men who study attraction techniques or "PUA" tactics for attracting women, and it boils down to this question:

"What's more important for attracting women-being in the right STATE OF MIND, or being able to CALIBRATE properly?"

State of mind refers to being in that state where you are confident, optimistic, sexual, dominant, flirty, playful, relaxed-all that good stuff!

Calibration refers to being able to use all the various techniques of attraction and connection properly-in the right amounts, at the right time.  So for example, calibration would include playfully teasing a woman when you first approach her, but not right in middle of you and her making love!

I give this obvious example to make my point clear, however calibration refers to far more nuanced and subtle things as well. It means knowing when a woman is actually testing you, and when she is just truly being playful and funny.  It means knowing exactly when to stop playfully teasing and progress the interaction forward. It means knowing when you've screwed up and apologizing. It means knowing when to kiss, and when to pull back to create more sexual tension. It means all this and so much, much, MUCH more.

But the answer to what is more important all depends on the INDIVIDUAL.



Some men are NATURALLY great at calibrating; they have amazing social skills with ALL human beings, but when it comes to approaching women out of the blue, or even women in general who they want to attract, there is fear, anxiety, insecurity that FREEZES them up.

And because of THAT, they can't access their mental processors for CALIBRATING.  Their brains are too busy being FROZEN because they have gone into FIGHT/FLIGHT/FREEZE as a result of the AMYGDALA in the brain being triggered by stress.  The amygdala SHUTS down all the thinking and turns on the biology to prepare you for DANGER.  As if a tiger is about to jump at you.  And your brain doesn't think then-it just causes your body to react physically and your mind emotionally-and not in a productive way.

So for a guy like that, it's ALL about STATE OF MIND.  If he can get into the right state of mind again, then he can naturally access his CALIBRATION SKILLS if he already has them.

For HIM, it is also true that calibration skills are SUPER IMPORTANT, but since he already has them, he doesn't have to worry-HE has to work on his STATE OF MIND.

But for other men, they may be totally OBLIVIOUS to fear or anxiety or giving a damn about what anyone thinks at all, to a point that this is actually a FAULT. They may be in a GREAT state of mind, but they lack the ability to truly engage in maximum PERSPECTIVE TAKING, and CALIBRATION requires MASTERING the skill of PERSPECTIVE TAKING!

Perspective taking means you can truly feel and sense what it is like to be ANOTHER person. So if you want to calibrate properly, you must be able to SENSE what it feels like for HER to be on the RECEIVING end of whatever you are saying and doing with her. This is a SKILL.

In fact, calibration is IMPOSSIBLE without highly developed PERSPECTIVE TAKING skills.

And what is so funny is that 99% of the guys who talk about being ALPHA completely UNDERESTIMATE the absolutely MASSIVE ROLE of perspective taking.

They think that being ALPHA means NOT caring what SHE is thinking and feeling, when in reality this stuff is EVERYTHING! They mistake the idea of "not seeking approval" with truly not CARING or FEELING what she is feeling or thinking. 

How can you know if you are teasing too much and it's time to go into deeper rapport, if you can't actually FEEL and UNDERSTAND the interaction from HER perspective? After all, you aren't calibrating for yourself, you are calibrating to get HER!

It's also ironic how this stuff is SO important, and yet you can see how LITTLE most of the so called "experts" really know about perspective taking, and even worse, how little they actually INTUITIVELY AND EMOTIONALLY feel perspective taking, because they FILM WOMEN WITHOUT THEIR PERMISSION and put them up on the internet!!!!  Even the greatest ignoramus in the world could see that this is something that women would feel BAD about, but there is so horrifyingly LITTLE perspective taking ability or feeling in these guys that they go right ahead and do it anyway.

There is so much out there about being ALPHA that actually is NOT true. The TRUE alpha GETS the woman, and since perspective taking and the ability to truly FEEL what she is feeling, and the ability to feel and understand her perspective is INTEGRAL to your success in getting the woman, PERSPECTIVE TAKING is therefore an absolutely FUNDAMENTAL part of being a successful ALPHA-MALE.

And it's also important to understand how perspective taking and calibration go hand-in-hand. For example, if you are in a CONFIDENT state of mind, then you will not negatively DISTORT the things a woman says and does. This means you will be better at perspective taking accurately, and allow you to CALIBRATE your response perfectly. 

In my video, I give the example of a mind-blowing woman who was at my place, and she mentioned how my TV is from the 1960s. If I was in a bad state of mind, a weak state of mind, an insecure state of mind, I would have felt threatened, insulted, or challenged, and I would have thought I had to "strike back" to get her down to size and off her pedestal. That would have RUINED the entire vibe and DESTROYED the attraction.

But the fact is, being in a great state of mind helped me understand she was being PLAYFUL. Not only could I tell from her tonality, but also because she HERSELF was calibrating her humor very INTELLIGENTLY.

The reason I say this is because one of the great ways to CALIBRATE a playful tease is to make sure that the thing you are saying cannot be interpreted seriously by anyone with common sense. So the fact is, there is NO REALISTIC WAY that she ACTUALLY thought the TV was from the 60s and that it was 57 years old! 

That is PROOF she didn't REALLY mean it.  (Notice that SHE was calibrating properly.)

And of course, even if she did mean it, it really doesn't matter much one way or another, as far as what the INTELLIGENT response should be, right?

So I did what I FELT like doing, based on my state of mind AND my understanding of the situation-I thought it was FUNNY, so I LAUGHED.  It was the perfect response, and it allowed us both to laugh and move AHEAD, as neither one of us had TV in mind.

And we never ended up watching TV that night ;)

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

Easy Ways To Get Women Addicted To You

Do you want to approach women in a super-easy way?
Then just follow my recipe, it’s called
‘DISARM and CHARM’.

Unless you're talking in a nightclub, where
the atmosphere is already very social, when
you're in normal places like the bus or coffee
shop, women have been conditioned to be a little
cautious for good reasons, after all there are
some men out there who are "less than virtuous",
just as there are some women out there who
are "less than virtuous".

So one of the BEST ideas that WORKS is for
you to draw upon POSITIVE VIBES that she
herself can IMMEDIATELY recognize, feel,
and relate to.

In the same way you wouldn't be able to relate to
a woman talking to you about the finer applications
of lipstick, you shouldn't expect most women to 
identify with demolition derby, Star Trek, or some
obscure Bruce Lee movie. Also, there is no point
in starting a conversation with a woman about
anything BORING, even if she can relate to it.

You can STILL totally be yourself and disarm her
and charm her, and you can do this by playfully
bringing up topics that are both INNOCENT and
FUNNY, and you can give these topics a
flirtatious TWIST.

One idea I love and that works with fantastic
consistency, is to bring up TV SHOWS from
childhood that chances are you both liked,
and then offer a playful sexual perspective
on the show, or even a playful perspective
on the show from the standpoint of male and
female gender roles.

I call it "Innocent Adult Views On Childhood TV!"

It's important to remember that it must still be
INNOCENT, and yet ALSO be ADULT.
This is a fine line that most people overlook.

I mean, who CAN'T like The Flintstones?
Who CAN'T like Cookie Monster, Oscar the Grouch,
and Ernie and Bert???????????????

Okay fine, maybe some people can't, but
I don't want anything to do with those
people, that's for sure!

If a woman does not "get this", it immediately
screens her OUT, as you don't want a woman
without a sense of humor, or a woman who is
bitter and no fun.

So here's just one EXAMPLE of how "Innocent Adult
Views On Childhood TV" works to disarm her and
charm her:

"Excuse me, I have a very serious question
I need the answer to. Could you help me out?"

(This SERIOUS tonality at the start is done
on purpose because it makes it all the more
FUNNY when she finds out in about three seconds
from the topic that actually this is NOT serious
at all!)

So she nods to you, or says, "Ok sure", etc.

You then go on with:

"See, I was wondering, if you were to choose
one of the two, would you marry Fred Flintstone
or Barney Rubble? This is very serious."

As she starts to crack a smile, you keep a
straight face and give her a sec to answer.

If she laughs, you continue to let her know
this is very important and serious and that
you need the answer.

If she then says that she would choose Fred, you
tell her "Oh man, this would never work out with
you and me, Fred is far too normal, goes to work
every day, very reliable good guy, far too much
pressure for me. I'm more of a Barney Rubble
type dude, I just go for a drive in the morning
but don't actually work anywhere, and I need
a woman like Betty who is more cool and
who can help me in my underground illegal
businesses!"

Chances are, she WILL be laughing by now, and
that is not only because this stuff is funny, but
because the MEMORIES of childhood and of
that show are triggering POSITIVE EMOTIONS
in her, and it's hard to view you as a THREAT
if you are being associated in her mind with
Barney or Fred or the Flintstones.

By the way, if she says she would choose Barney,
you could high-five her and tell her she is SUCH
a cool girl. (Totally over exaggerate, which only
HEIGHTENS the humor because even though she
knows you are kidding, it still feels GOOD for her,
since she feels, even if just playfully, that she
EARNED this respect because of her choice, she
didn't just get this high-five for nothing, but
rather because of her great taste in choosing a
man- BARNEY RUBBLE! People appreciate what they
EARN!)

And you could then go on to tell her why she
is so cool, because she is like Betty, who
was cool with Barney not having a real job
all day and that you plan to do the same
thing and just watch TV all day!

Then you can add the final kicker and say that
you two are TOTALLY GETTING MARRIED asap!

She will NOT think you are needy, she will KNOW
you are being playful.

So there, all at once, you have DISARMED her,
and you have CHARMED her.

This is just ONE example, there about
a BILLION other versions that you could
create, (and you could make them
even MORE powerful by incorporating
into your examples all the OTHER skills
I teach in my programs and materials.)

The first key to remember is to use something
from CHILDHOOD TV, something that is FAMOUS
so that she ALREADY is very familiar with it
so that you don't have to waste time explaining
all the details. You want her to GET IT immediately,
so it's key you use something that she will KNOW.

The second key to remember about this idea is to
give the whole discussion an ADULT twist.

The third key is to remember to NOT GO
OVERBOARD with the adult twist. In other
words, KEEP IT ALL INNOCENT. I see
so many guys going wayyyyyy too far into
the land of the VULGAR and that totally
RUINS the whole effect, the whole point
of the idea in the first place.

And remember to be CONGRUENT with your
own personality. If you never watched the
Flintstones, then don't use that example.
There are so many shows that you could
choose from, it's ridiculous. And the truth
is that it doesn't even have to be TV. It
could be some kind of popular SNACK
that was famous for kids back when you
were a child.

Maybe the snack came with some really LAME
gift, or some offer for a free gift if you
sent in about a "thousand" proofs of purchase,
(exaggerate for effect) that at the time
seemed REALLY cool, that you could discuss
and twist in playful way. For example, you
could tell her that you only like adventurous
girls, and that you are looking for a partner
in crime, to steal the toys from the cereal
boxes in the supermarket. And you can
tease her that she is too much of a wuss
to be up for it, etc. Or you can tease
her that you know she would do it for
some prize from the Strawberry Shortcake
cereal!

From there, now that you have her disarmed and
charmed, it's going to be MUCH easier to get
into rapport with her and to get into a real
conversation of getting to know each other,
now that you both have your "guard" down.

You've displayed guts, humor, charm, and you've
taken her into a receptive state of mind.

Get the idea?
It's gold, and I guarantee you IT WORKS.

As you might guess, I love using TV and MOVIES
because it’s on all over the world, and gives
you a chance to DRAW UPON the emotions and
the times associated with those experiences,
so she feels all THOSE cool emotions as well!

Let’s get into some DEEPER stuff too so
that you can take things to an even
higher level with that hottie!

Let me say, first, that I used to get
EMOTIONALLY DECIMATED by the effects of
many movies on my perception of women.

I would watch as the hero went through
emotional torture and finally got the girl
through PERSISTENCE and LONGING and
PATIENCE and LOYALTY and DEDICATION.

So I figured THAT was what women LIKED, since
after all, not only did I feel, at the time, that this
was "right"- i.e. that women were naturally more
innocent and more virtuous than men, and that
men had to "earn" women's interest, but it
ALSO seemed to me that women LOVED
these movies.

That's how I USED to think.
Now, don't get me wrong.
I was not ONLY into these kinds of movies.
I was all into Rambo, Rocky, and all that
stuff. But I ALSO would get affected by
romantic movies.

Then, after YEARS, of finally figuring out the
TRUTH about attraction, and what DOES
work, I HATED all those "chick-flicks".

But there was still one question left:
Why the heck do women even LIKE these
movies, if in FACT, women are NOT
attracted to guys that act like that?????

And then one day it finally HIT me:
Even though guys and girls might see the
SAME movie, they are actually seeing two
TOTALLY DIFFERENT movies.

You see, the truth is that once you GET IT
TOTALLY, you actually SEE the full picture.

Let me give you a PERFECT EXAMPLE:
The movie "The Notebook".

Women looooooved this movie.
And in fact it was written by a guy.
And it's actually a pretty well made movie,
even for guys, IF you are ALREADY in
the KNOW. If you are NOT informed about
women and what works, you will NOT
get it AT ALL.

If you are a typical good guy, the story seems
to be about some old guy telling this elderly lady
about a story about a guy without much money
who falls for a cute girl from a richer
social class and who REALLY DIG each
other but then end up in a fight.

They split, she moves away and eventually
meets some other dude and gets engaged,
and the original guy is depressed for years
till they meet again and the passion reignites
and she realizes HE was the one all along.

We then find out that the old guy and woman
ARE the characters, and that she has
memory loss and he tells her the story every
day till for a few minutes she remembers who
he is, then forgets him all over again.

It breaks him up to see her forget him,
but it's okay, since he loves her.

SO, if you are a good guy, you get all
the WRONG lessons:

KISS UP, and pine for a girl for your
whole life, and be willing to give up
EVERYTHING even for a FEW SECONDS of
having a woman REMEMBER you.

And get DEPRESSED and DON'T MOVE
ON properly with any other woman.

And you are taught that this is
ROMANTIC and that womens LIKE
this stuff, and appreciate such
behavior, since after all the movie
was a MASSIVE HIT.

And the movie shows you that if you just
MOPE AROUND LONG ENOUGH,
the WOMAN will come back, she will
be crazy about you, etc.

DISASTROUS, I say.

BUT!

And there's a BIG but here:
HOW COME THIS FLICK IS A ONE OF THE
BIGGEST BLOCKBUSTERS of all time,
especially considering it’s not a
big ACTION flick?

How come women get all choked up and
even turned ON from this???

I'll TELL you why: It's because they saw a
TOTALLY DIFFERENT MOVIE.

Now, let me tell you the movie they saw, from
the perspective of ATTRACTION:

In practically the first couple of MINUTES of
this movie, the GUY of the movie shows
GUTS, COURAGE, CONVICTION, A
SENSE OF HUMOR, AND EVEN
SHOWS JUST THE RIGHT TOUCH
OF "VULNERABILITY".

Basically, while at the town carnival,
(this story is set during the Second World
War in a small town) he sees this beautiful
girl having the time of her life on the bumper
cars, she seems so totally free and full of
spark. As she gets off the cars and joins
her date for the evening as well as her
girlfriend and the guy she is with,
(so you get the feeling that this is not
something too serious, and more of
a social thing) the guy who is the main
character comes STRAIGHT UP TO HER,
and asks her if she'll dance with him.

He says it relaxed, a confident smile,
and NOT like a jerk at all. He is practically
in her face, yet his demeanor is so calm,
it doesn't seem crazy.

She tells him no.
He calmly says, "Why not?", NOT in an
argumentative way, but in a DISARMING
way. She tries to act like "a lady" that
she is not one to just be "taken" especially
while she is OUT with some dude and
her friends, so she tells him she doesn't
WANT to.

He is TOTALLY unaffected, and smiles
as she walks off.

As she goes off with her friends, she
remarks to her girlfriend she can't
BELIEVE the guts the guy had.

She also finds out that this guy is not
NORMALLY like that, so that he
must REALLY like her.

DECODING WHAT ALL THIS MEANS:
He had GUTS.
He had CLASS.
He was not treating her like a slut, because
he ACTUALLY liked her as opposed to
just her being another woman to use and
discard.
He was SPONTANEOUS and acted on
his OWN desire the way he felt was right.

Allow me to continue:

Minutes later, he sees her on the Ferris wheel
as it's about to start. He hurries over to it
and jumps and grabs her car as it begins to
rise, and he sits himself DOWN beside her
and the dude!

He is very straightforward, introducing
himself again, giving his name, handshake
etc. The woman and the guy think he is nuts.

He wants to know if she'll go out with him.

She says no.
He calmly gets out of car as it is
WAY UP HIGH now above the ground,
hanging on to the rails by his HANDS
only. He asks her again, and she
says no, but then he lets go of the
rails with one arm and is now only
hanging on by ONE HAND.

She yells to him that's she'll go out
with him. He tells her to say it again.

He calmly tells her something like,
"Don't do me any favors if you don't
REALLY want to" and she yells back
she "REALLY wants to"!!

So he gives back a COCKY, PLAYFUL
RESPONSE and says "Okay okay, I'll go
out with you!" as if SHE begged for it.

Then, as he is hanging there, she tries to
MAKE FUN of him and undoes his
pants so he is hanging on by his arms
and his pants are down with only
his underwear on.

He takes it all IN STRIDE, it all SLIDES
OFF HIS BACK, and he tells her he's
going to get for her it, but you know
he is NOT pissed.

Can you say, "PASSING THE TEST"?

Then, the next day, he sees her walking by
his work and tries to set the date, she tells
him she changed her mind. He doesn't
ARGUE with her, he DISARMS her
by being CHARMING and giving her
a GENUINE compliment that he likes
her.

But REMEMBER, he has already shown
VALUE through his behavior and style.

So the COMPLIMENT is FLATTERING.
She then tries to test him again, to see
if he is REALLY serious or not. She tells
him he's a good player. He tells her that's
not it at all, which is the truth, it's not.

At one point, she tells him he's dumb, but
you can tell she LIKES him, from her
TONALITY. He doesn't ARGUE with
her, he even says he can be dumb, it's
something he does too as well as dance, etc.

You see, most guys would only focus on
what he is saying that is self-deprecating, but
they would IGNORE THE REAL STUFF
he did that GOT HER ATTRACTED.

They get a low level "double date" where he
goes to see a flick with her, and his buddy
is there as well accompanying her girlfriend.

He CALIBRATES right, because he can
tell she is enjoying the movie, and he LIKES
THE FACT she is the kind of person who
enjoys life. He likes her not just for her
body, but for her personality as well.

Then something happens after the flick:
He takes her for a walk and DISPLAYS
MORE MASSIVE AWESOME PERSONALITY
and CONNECTS WITH HER AS WELL.

He READS her correctly, even though she
tells him how busy she is with all kinds of
"serious" things, and how every second of
her day is planned, mostly by her parents,
he tells her that it's strange because he
always sensed she was FREE.

She says she IS free, but he senses that she
WANTS to be free, she is the kind of person
that really loves doing her own things, but
that she is NOT doing that for most of her
life.

He UNDERSTANDS HER BETTER than
she understands herself.

He is giving her the GIFT of greater self
awareness and leading her to the path of
inner peace and feeling better about herself.

And then he does something REALLY GOOD:

He doesn't just TALK, he DEMONSTRATES.

He lies down on the STREET, which is empty
and pretty much free of traffic at night in this
small town in those days. He chills out and
enjoys watching the street light change from
red to green etc.

She doesn't want to join him, it's too
socially unacceptable and "crazy".
He tells her that's her problem,
that she's too worried about
what everyone else thinks.

She feels CHALLENGED by this.

HE CHALLENGES HER GENUINELY.

So she joins him, on the ground, looking
up. He also teases her when she asks
what happens if a car comes, playfully
and casually answering with: "We die".

In that moment, as she chills out and
just enjoys the colors of the lights
changing and TOTALLY chilling out
there at night on the street, she has
NOW ENTERED HIS WORLD.

She is feeling the peace, the joy of it.
And it is PRICELESS even though it costs
nothing.

Then suddenly, they hear a car SPEEDING
so they MAKE A MAD RUSH AWAY FROM
THE STREET onto the sidewalk, and she is
laughing hysterically, because she HAS
NEVER HAD SO MUCH FUN IN HER LIFE.

From here he offers her to dance again, right
there on the street, and they do, and it's
the perfect time for real physical contact.

ATTRACTION has been earned.
RESPECT has been earned.
CONNECTION has been achieved.

He has STOOD OUT.

And it was all done in a NATURAL WAY.
No manipulation.

THIS is the kind of stuff that WOMEN are
seeing in the movie.

And the movie is EMOTIONALLY true as
well, because the dude is not perfect.

He screws up when he LOSES HIS OWN
SELF-ESTEEM when he repeatedly hears
how OTHERS in her social circle look
DOWN on him, including her mom, the
family, the family friends, etc.

Even though SHE STANDS UP FOR HIM,
it's not enough for him, because
HE HAS ALLOWED HIMSELF TO BE AFFECTED
BY THEIR STATEMENTS and this has made
him FEEL UNWORTHY of her. He can't stand
to FEEL like HE may be holding her back
from being as great in her social setting
as she could be without him. (This is
his own massive error in thinking,
the result of his damaged self-esteem).

He can't stand to see her parents
yelling at her because of HIM.
He feels UNWORTHY of her, as if
there is no way on Earth she
could want to be with him if it
means all this stress for her.

So HE breaks up with her.

And yet, she gets PISSED at him for
wanting to break up with her. She
tries to convince him not to worry
about what others think, that they
can make it, but he is TOO WEAK to
LEAD THE SHOW OF HIS OWN LIFE, AND
THIS SERIOUSLY PISSES HER OFF even
though she is sad at the same time.

It pisses her off that HE doesn't believe
strongly enough in the GREAT TIMES
that they had and that they can CONTINUE
to have it.

The EMOTIONAL TRUTH of this is
OVERWHELMINGLY ACCURATE.

The biggest enemy most guys have is
THEMSELVES.

Well, I'm not going to go into the ENTIRE
movie here, but let me just say that the way
they DO end up back together is only
AFTER he does the SAME THING that
got HER into him in the FIRST PLACE:
by being THE MAN.

When he first met her, he was operating from
an INTERNAL PLACE OF GOOD VIBES
and a place of EMOTIONAL ABUNDANCE.

He LIKED HER, he wasn't NEEDY FOR HER.
In fact, he ENCOURAGED HER TO ENJOY
LIFE BEING HERSELF.

By encouraging greater INDEPENDENCE
in her, she FLEW FASTER TO HIM.

And it wasn't like he was doing this to be
MANIPULATIVE, it was because he
LIKED her personality, it was about
the JOY for life he saw she had deep
in her that needed to get out and be
free.

And in the end, he does this again, in a
more INTENSE way, when he tells her
regarding her confusion over what to
do, since in her own words the other
guy is a "good man" too, he tells her
to do for once what SHE feels, not
what her PARENTS feel, not what
HE feels, not what the other guy
feels. He practically YELLS at
her. Once again, this is a guy who
is NOT desperate to have a woman.

A woman can only be with him if HE
likes her and if SHE really WANTS
to be there. And also, he really IS
the kind of guy who believes in being
FREE to do what you really believe.

So his words are CONGRUENT
with his personality and actions.
They thus have MAXIMUM EMOTIONAL
IMPACT.

And he DOES get her back.
But really, that's not the point, the point is
HIS IDENTITY, the kind of PERSON he is.

So ALL THE ABOVE ELEMENTS that I've
discussed are what must happen in the
REAL WORLD as well for a guy to get
RESULTS with QUALITY women. I'm
not saying the exact same EXAMPLES
have to happen, but the exact same
PRINCIPLES must be there:

The bringing her into YOUR world, the
enriching HER life, the desire without
the neediness, the connection, challenging
her in a genuine yet heartfelt and good
way, the ability to walk away, the true
level of understanding her world as good
or better than she does herself, and ALL
the other elements above as well.

Some of that is very advanced stuff.

And ALL THOSE EMOTIONS are what women
emotionally get ADDICTED to.

It's UNCONSCIOUS.
It's INSTINCTIVE.
It's NATURAL.

It's not cerebral; women do NOT
go around articulating it.

It's totally something they feel
emotionally and immediately
and NOT consciously or
in a cerebral way.

And the emotions are true to life; it all
makes perfect sense. In fact, women had
no choice. It was HARDWIRED that they
would love this flick.

These are the kinds of things that are created in
women when they watch the flick: The emotions
of ROMANCE, TEARS, PASSION, AND THE
TORRID SEXY LOVE SCENE when they reunite.

And you can APPLY ALL THESE THINGS TO
YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN AS WELL!

What you've just read is a GLIMPSE into a
whole different UNIVERSE that no one
else on EARTH is giving you. It's the
FULL TRUTH on the EMOTIONAL DYNAMICS
OF ATTRACTION:


Understanding this universe is the key to
genuinely improving yourself in this area
naturally, and it's also definitely the ONLY
way to attract the true QUALITY girls.

If you'd like to enter this universe, I
suggest you do TWO things IMMEDIATELY:

First, DOWNLOAD my book,
The Dating Wizard Returns,  NOW:

https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/book.html

This book is the only one of its kind-
it goes WAY BEYOND what you will
find in any other resource out there on
the topic of attracting women.

It specifically gives you SOLUTIONS for
attracting women in TODAY'S SOCIETY,
where women are very, VERY different
than they used to be in the past.  

The NEXT step is BOOTCAMP, where you
will master the skill of picking-up women
anywhere, and you will learn in the most
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HANDS-ON learning.

That means I serve as your EXCLUSIVE
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you are actually PICKING UP WOMEN
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skills to pick-up and attract women
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

Why Women Say They Like "White Knights" But SLEEP With ALPHA MALES

Ever wonder why women keep on telling
you about how many men are jerks and
how they can't stand these men, but
yet these are the ONLY men these
women date and sleep with?

In today's video, I'm going to explain
this phenomenon:



The good news is that you don't have
to be a JERK to attract women, you
just have to radiate POWER and
understand some important things
about women. 

Women say they like "White Knights" but
actually SLEEP with alpha males because
women are HARDWIRED to be sexually attracted
to confident, masculine men.

This is the way women evolved, so they
could survive and so their OFFSPRING
could survive. 

Women say they like "White Knights"
because on the very surface level,
that is what they believe since they
are bombarded with feminist messages
of how bad men are, how superior women
are, and how important it is for men
to kiss up to women.

"White Knights" parrot this feminist
drivel to women, and women nod their
heads and maybe even befriend these men-
but women have no actual sexual attraction
or interest in these men. 

Let me show you how to attract women
ANYWHERE you see them. You can learn
by taking my BOOTCAMP where you
actually get to PROVE what you are
learning by picking up women right
in front of your own eyes in
Bootcamp!

BOOTCAMP is at:

https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html

And if you haven't yet downloaded my LATEST
book, called 30 Days To An Amazing Woman,
then definitely do that IMMEDIATELY by
going here NOW:

https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/30-days-to-an-amazing-woman.html

This book is ESPECIALLY awesome if you
already HAVE some of my other programs
and materials, as illustrated by a
reader who wrote in about it:

***EMAIL FROM A READER***

Hi Michael,

...This program is an action oriented
book, more like the drive manual of
a car, and how to operate it, and I see
it more as a mini self-boot camp which
I think is fantastic, although I am 3/4
complete with the reading.

You might also agree with me on this:
I think that you have to study all your
previous materials, and review it, to
have the full affect of the 30 awesome
days "guide."

This reminds me as a person who studies
to get his driver's license, studying
the theory first before anything, and
move into the "driving test mode."

I also love how gradual the program gets
in terms of levels...I love it.

I am going to sprinkle a little bit of
feedback/question when it comes to the
core of attracting women: POWER. I began
to wonder and realize that "the feeling
of power" can smoke just about any amazing
trait a woman is attracted to in a man
whether it is warmth, security, confidence,
being a good person etc.

Just like a lion is at the top of the food
chain, so does power (form the top of
the food chain in terms of its effect on
women).

As I began to think through these things,
good qualities don't last as long as power
does to attract women. Power might seem
arrogant on the surface, and I remember
in your first book, The Dating Wizard,
you wrote how women are repulsed by
"nice guys", if the niceness does not
come from a feeling of abundance and
from feeling worthy.

One thing that I question myself is how
to gauge and not get corrupted by power, a
and keep all the best attractive qualities
to a woman-not becoming abusive and power
unbalanced? Maybe through kindness, balance
of power, calibration? I don't know.

Since I remember in one of your newsletters,
you hit on the concept of the "sweet spot"
(the "Star Wars" reference to hitting the
exact spot on the Death Star that created
a chain reaction blowing up the whole thing),
I begin to see POWER and KINDNESS must go
hand in hand, and kindness cannot come before
power.

I begin to see it as the ultimate combination,
and the most powerful attraction combination
there is on this earth. You can see it in
just about everything attractive from a man
to women throughout the history of human kind.

I have a feeling this might be a very good
question and beneficial for other readers
too if you'd like, but you're the one who
makes the calls.

Thank you again! You're awesome.

Best,

Zack L.

California"

MY COMMENTS

Thank you for the kind words! And yes, this
book is even MORE powerful for men who HAVE
already studied my materials, because now
that they have all the theory, they can
put into ACTION the 30-Day plan outlined
in the book.

I felt this would be extremely valuable
because I know how it can seem OVERWHELMING
to put EVERYTHING you know into action,
so this way there is an exact ORDER
one can follow, on the days outlined
in the book, to actually DEVELOP the
skills and actually get the woman,
and not just have it be concepts
and theories.

At the same time, even if a guy doesn't
have the previous material, he can get
a real "crash course" on pick-up this way,
and truly hit the ground running!

You also asked a really good question,
regarding power and how to not get
corrupted by it, since in fact women
do also want the warmth and sincerity
as well, even though exuding POWER
from your behaviors and actions
comes first and foremost.

The answer, I have found, is to calibrate
based on the woman's emotional investment
in you, and how hard she is trying to
please you.

If a woman is bending over backwards to
please you, then she definitely VALUES
your VALIDATION more, and probably even
NEEDS it. So she is going to value more
warmth, more validation, more connection,
more kindness, etc.

If she is not doing this as much, then
she is not going to want or need the
other stuff as much, so you should
calibrate the warmth, the giving,
in proportion to this.

Ultimately, the goal is to meet the kind
of woman who is so crazy about you that
you can give her more warmth without
her becoming spoiled by it.

There's always calibration involved,
but the more she is crazy about you,
the easier it is :)

It's also funny how that Star Wars
reference is STILL so useful, and
what's amazing is that this actual
reference came to me from a man
who was taking my bootcamp years
ago.

As I was teaching him about calibration,
he compared it to this idea of the "sweet
spot" and the Death Star, which, when
hit in the right spot, caused this
massive chain reaction that blew
up the entire massive thing which
was the size of a small planet!

So it is the same thing with women,
which is calibrating just right,
between exuding POWER and also
the right degree of warmth and
connection that is perfect for
HER, and it is MADE perfect by
YOUR SKILL in calibrating for her.

Hit the "sweet spot" in this sense, 
and she will be ECSTATIC and
CRAZY for you.  

Speaking of BOOTCAMP, if you are
reading this right now and want
to get success with women in the
FASTEST WAY POSSIBLE, sign up
for my BOOTCAMP today!

Learn more at:

https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html

And for my latest book, 30 Days To An Amazing Woman,
go here:

https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/30-days-to-an-amazing-woman.html

There's nothing out there like this book,
to help you achieve success with women
as fast as possible, ANYWHERE.

Till next time,

Michael Marks