I want to share one of my all-time FAVORITE articles on SKYROCKETING a woman's attraction to you.
To be blunt, if you get a woman to chase you, you KNOW she's attracted to you.
On the other hand, if you start to chase HER, in ANY WAY THAT SHOWS DESPERATION OR A LACK OF VALUE, well then you usually tend to LOSE the woman, as she loses the attraction she felt for you.
The question though, a question I spent YEARS figuring out the hard way, is:
How do you START a conversation with a woman WITHOUT making it obvious that you are “chasing her”?
After all, the fact you started talking to her makes it clear you HAVE at least some interest in her. And how can THAT not seem like chasing? Well, some people like to think the answer is to give women a series of backhanded compliments, which is really a series of subtle insults.
For example, the guy will say something nice to the woman, like “nice smile” and then say something like “but you have weird hair” or whatever other insult they could come up with.
The idea behind all this, is that this way supposedly you don’t validate her, so now she will pursue you in her quest to get validated. Unfortunately, this is NOT ENOUGH, for the simple reason that a woman has to feel some ATTRACTION to begin with, before she will care about whether you are validating her or not.
So the REAL ANSWER to, “How do I approach a woman without making it seem that I am chasing her?” is to get her MESMERIZED with you as fast as possible so that she is instead more concerned with her OWN interest in YOU and how to ensure that she gets YOU!
In her mind, the fact you approached her only means that you are CONSIDERING her, not necessarily desperately CHASING her.
Now, at that point, of course you can lean back and chill out and let her chase you.
If she's attractive, you can be sure she will enjoy chasing you, (don't go overboard, and don't get abusive, ever, of course) since she usually gets things too easily and that bores her.
So, instead of looking at value from a negative standpoint, and giving women insults and then hoping they will want to get validated by you, the best way to go is to actually CONVEY REAL VALUE – so that she WANTS to chase you.
By “real value” I mean getting her FEELING A SERIES OF INTOXICATING EMOTIONS THAT GET HER HEART PUMPING. From a chemistry/romance/attraction point of view, that’s the highest form of value you can give a woman. In fact, women will become ADDICTED to you if you can do this, because emotions are addictive, and the more you can give her, the more she will become obsessed with you. This is when a woman doesn't just want you, but wants you BAD!
So now, I’m going to give you some of the WAYS to convey value and attract her, all of which have nothing to do with harming her self-esteem or any other negative stuff. ONE: THE PARTY IS WITH YOU
This was one of the first “holy *&^%” moments when I discovered this. Basically, what this is, is that you adopt the mentality that there IS a party going on, a GREAT PARTY in fact, and that you are the CENTER of this party! And you do this no matter what the heck is “really” going on- you behave like everyone around you is VISITING this party or has just arrived.
And, you behave as if they are all super-friendly and admirers of you- wishing that you would chat them up too, in addition to all the other cool people who you were chatting to before them.
You could get away with more sexual comments, you could make fun of anything, you could make any joke, you could SAY anything, if you are really FEEEEEEELING THIS PARTY VIBE.
The key to making this work, is to not even leave your ROOM or the house or building until you have gotten yourself into this PARTY state of mind.
You need to do whatever it takes to get the PARTY inspiration, but don’t use alcohol or drugs obviously as that is not only not healthy but will screw up your performance – so I suggest you listen to PARTY MUSIC that you love instead.
The other thing to making this work is that you have to anticipate BEFOREHAND that you might meet a woman ANYWHERE and so this way you are READY for the moment when the moment comes- whether it be in the coffee shop, bookstore, elevator, bus, or school, ANYWHERE.
You have to be ready BEFORE it happens, not just when it happens, or it’s too late.
Say you’re getting off the elevator and a gorgeous creature happens to be right in front of you- you can do something like this:
Give her this look, up and down, and DON’T DO IT WITH SHAME, do it like a MAN, and then give her a bit of a nod, as if you’ve just given her your stamp that she qualifies, and you could even say “the party is this way” and gesture toward where you’re going, or you could even say "The party is HERE!" and point to yourself.
Again, this stuff requires you to be in FULL party state, the reason it works is because since YOU are in that state and showing it, it makes it EASY for her to join this state as well, because the reality is that EVERYONE wants to be having MORE FUN, no one wants to get more depressed and formal and official, and here you are having a great time ALREADY and just inviting her to playfully join.
Again, the key is that you are ALREADY in this state of mind BEFORE you meet her, so this way she gets to actually feel MORE comfortable to join your “party” since she doesn’t have to feel it’s all about HER, rather it’s about the chance to FEEL GOOD.
And guess what? If a woman is feeling good and sexual around you, and the other guys in her life are boring her, guess who she’s going to BE with?
YOU.
This feeling GOOD stuff is so powerful, and yet 99% of people prevent themselves from feeling this by getting caught up in all kinds of negative emotions.
Make yourself the one guy on earth who IS her drug, the source of feeling intoxicatingly awesome.
And the irony is that you will do this best by NOT doing it for HER, but by already being in this state BEFORE you bump into her.
Yeah, I know you might say it's the same thing because you are doing it for her, but once you do this, you will actually FEEL way more awesome anyway, and you really WON'T be doing it just for her!
This is why so many of the most beautiful women in real life are with men who have a LIFESTYLE that is compelling/fun/intriguing. By LIFESTYLE, I mean they way they live their lives from day to day, how much of that time is spent feeling awesome emotions compared to boring ones or negative ones.
You don’t have to be in this state 24/7, but you definitely want to be in this state if you are out trying to meet and attract women. TWO: CHANGE YOUR WARDROBE
Clothing is something we all have to wear most of the time – and it covers us from almost head to toe- it’s LIKE AN ADVERTISING BILLBOARD, but the “ad” that most guys are wearing is saying: “I’m boring and not social and not looking to have any fun, ever.”
So you should definitely be pushing the envelope to find clothing that has STYLE, and that reflects some of your OWN personality as well- whether it’s leather with some shiny metallic on it, whether it’s an unusual but cool denim, you want to be STANDING OUT and not wearing the thing that makes you blend in as one of a billion other guys.
This is a huge topic in itself, but the key is to remember that no matter what your environment, whether it’s work or a club or a party, you can always find the thing that you can get away with that pushes the envelope without being ridiculous in each environment.
Another thing to remember is that most guys tend to avoid upbeat colors, and it’s a good idea to incorporate some more color, even if it’s just a BIT of bright color to offset what is mostly dark colors.
This was the hardest thing for me to do at first, because I actually felt so gloomy and angry, I liked dressing more like Batman, all brooding, so it took a while for me to have some more range with some color as well.
No one is saying you have to wear pink and yellow, or look “gay”, there are a lot of other options besides that.
You may want to ask the most attractive female clerk at the clothing store for her help, and while you’re at it, go for her number as well. THREE: USE YOUR VOICE
Start things off RIGHT.
When you initially say the first WORD (and after as well, but especially when you start, to get her attention the first time) to a woman who is a total stranger, it’s important that you don’t come across as weak or without conviction in your decision to talk to her.
Say it with FULL AUTHORITY in your voice, whether it’s “Hi” or “Hey” or “I’m on my way to the King Tut exhibit at the museum”, say it with TOTAL AUTHORITY, and this way she won’t question WHY you are talking to her and it will also get her attention in a receptive way, so that now you can actually get into the more juicy fun or interesting stuff you were going to talk about to her.
FOUR: THE WAY IT BEGINS IS THE WAY IT ENDS
Now, it’s important to realize regarding the above things, that whatever you do in the beginning will set up the DYNAMIC of how things will go till the END.
If you set up the dynamic as highly sexual but without any deeper connection going on, then your relationship will likely become sexual but then explode and self-destruct quickly.
If you tease a woman too much, she will end up teasing you back hardcore as well, and this might get out of hand and become annoying after a while.
If you keep the dynamic too “anti-septic” and safe and free of sexual vibe, you will end up as friends only, and you don’t want that.
If you play games too much in the beginning, the relationship will end as a result of these games as well.
So you must strike the right BALANCE in your interactions with women, and you must do this right especially at the BEGINNING, so that things are established immediately and flow in the direction you want.
What you have read is just the tip of the iceberg of ALL the incredible things you can do to SKYROCKET a woman's attraction to you.
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Do you want to approach women in a super-easy way? Then just follow my recipe, it’s called ‘DISARM and CHARM’.
Unless you're talking in a nightclub, where
the atmosphere is already very social, when
you're in normal places like the bus or coffee
shop, women have been conditioned to be a little
cautious for good reasons, after all there are
some men out there who are "less than virtuous",
just as there are some women out there who
are "less than virtuous".
So one of the BEST ideas that WORKS is for you to draw upon POSITIVE VIBES that she herself can IMMEDIATELY recognize, feel, and relate to.
In the same way you wouldn't be able to relate to
a woman talking to you about the finer applications
of lipstick, you shouldn't expect most women to
identify with demolition derby, Star Trek, or some
obscure Bruce Lee movie. Also, there is no point
in starting a conversation with a woman about
anything BORING, even if she can relate to it.
You can STILL totally be yourself and disarm her and charm her, and you can do this by playfully bringing up topics that are both INNOCENT and FUNNY, and you can give these topics a flirtatious TWIST.
One idea I love and that works with fantastic
consistency, is to bring up TV SHOWS from
childhood that chances are you both liked,
and then offer a playful sexual perspective
on the show, or even a playful perspective
on the show from the standpoint of male and
female gender roles.
I call it "Innocent Adult Views On Childhood TV!"
It's important to remember that it must still be
INNOCENT, and yet ALSO be ADULT.
This is a fine line that most people overlook. I mean, who CAN'T like The Flintstones? Who CAN'T like Cookie Monster, Oscar the Grouch, and Ernie and Bert???????????????
Okay fine, maybe some people can't, but
I don't want anything to do with those
people, that's for sure!
If a woman does not "get this", it immediately screens her OUT, as you don't want a woman without a sense of humor, or a woman who is bitter and no fun.
So here's just one EXAMPLE of how "Innocent Adult Views On Childhood TV" works to disarm her and charm her:
"Excuse me, I have a very serious question I need the answer to. Could you help me out?"
(This SERIOUS tonality at the start is done on purpose because it makes it all the more FUNNY when she finds out in about three seconds from the topic that actually this is NOT serious at all!)
So she nods to you, or says, "Ok sure", etc.
You then go on with:
"See, I was wondering, if you were to choose one of the two, would you marry Fred Flintstone or Barney Rubble? This is very serious."
As she starts to crack a smile, you keep a straight face and give her a sec to answer.
If she laughs, you continue to let her know
this is very important and serious and that
you need the answer.
If she then says that she would choose Fred, you
tell her "Oh man, this would never work out with you and me, Fred is far too normal, goes to work every day, very reliable good guy, far too much pressure for me. I'm more of a Barney Rubble type dude, I just go for a drive in the morning but don't actually work anywhere, and I need a woman like Betty who is more cool and who can help me in my underground illegal businesses!"
Chances are, she WILL be laughing by now, and
that is not only because this stuff is funny, but
because the MEMORIES of childhood and of
that show are triggering POSITIVE EMOTIONS
in her, and it's hard to view you as a THREAT
if you are being associated in her mind with
Barney or Fred or the Flintstones.
By the way, if she says she would choose Barney, you could high-five her and tell her she is SUCH a cool girl. (Totally over exaggerate, which only HEIGHTENS the humor because even though she knows you are kidding, it still feels GOOD for her, since she feels, even if just playfully, that she EARNED this respect because of her choice, she didn't just get this high-five for nothing, but rather because of her great taste in choosing a man- BARNEY RUBBLE! People appreciate what they EARN!)
And you could then go on to tell her why she
is so cool, because she is like Betty, who
was cool with Barney not having a real job
all day and that you plan to do the same
thing and just watch TV all day!
Then you can add the final kicker and say that you two are TOTALLY GETTING MARRIED asap!
She will NOT think you are needy, she will KNOW
you are being playful.
So there, all at once, you have DISARMED her,
and you have CHARMED her.
This is just ONE example, there about a BILLION other versions that you could create, (and you could make them even MORE powerful by incorporating into your examples all the OTHER skills I teach in my programs and materials.)
The first key to remember is to use something from CHILDHOOD TV, something that is FAMOUS so that she ALREADY is very familiar with it so that you don't have to waste time explaining all the details. You want her to GET IT immediately, so it's key you use something that she will KNOW.
The second key to remember about this idea is to give the whole discussion an ADULT twist.
The third key is to remember to NOT GO OVERBOARD with the adult twist. In other words, KEEP IT ALL INNOCENT. I see so many guys going wayyyyyy too far into the land of the VULGAR and that totally RUINS the whole effect, the whole point of the idea in the first place.
And remember to be CONGRUENT with your own personality. If you never watched the Flintstones, then don't use that example. There are so many shows that you could choose from, it's ridiculous. And the truth is that it doesn't even have to be TV. It could be some kind of popular SNACK that was famous for kids back when you were a child.
Maybe the snack came with some really LAME
gift, or some offer for a free gift if you
sent in about a "thousand" proofs of purchase,
(exaggerate for effect) that at the time
seemed REALLY cool, that you could discuss
and twist in playful way. For example, you
could tell her that you only like adventurous
girls, and that you are looking for a partner
in crime, to steal the toys from the cereal
boxes in the supermarket. And you can
tease her that she is too much of a wuss
to be up for it, etc. Or you can tease
her that you know she would do it for
some prize from the Strawberry Shortcake
cereal!
From there, now that you have her disarmed and charmed, it's going to be MUCH easier to get into rapport with her and to get into a real conversation of getting to know each other, now that you both have your "guard" down.
You've displayed guts, humor, charm, and you've
taken her into a receptive state of mind.
Get the idea? It's gold, and I guarantee you IT WORKS.
As you might guess, I love using TV and MOVIES
because it’s on all over the world, and gives
you a chance to DRAW UPON the emotions and
the times associated with those experiences,
so she feels all THOSE cool emotions as well!
Let’s get into some DEEPER stuff too so that you can take things to an even higher level with that hottie!
Let me say, first, that I used to get EMOTIONALLY DECIMATED by the effects of many movies on my perception of women.
I would watch as the hero went through emotional torture and finally got the girl through PERSISTENCE and LONGING and PATIENCE and LOYALTY and DEDICATION.
So I figured THAT was what women LIKED, since
after all, not only did I feel, at the time, that this
was "right"- i.e. that women were naturally more
innocent and more virtuous than men, and that
men had to "earn" women's interest, but it
ALSO seemed to me that women LOVED
these movies.
That's how I USED to think. Now, don't get me wrong. I was not ONLY into these kinds of movies. I was all into Rambo, Rocky, and all that stuff. But I ALSO would get affected by romantic movies.
Then, after YEARS, of finally figuring out the
TRUTH about attraction, and what DOES
work, I HATED all those "chick-flicks".
But there was still one question left: Why the heck do women even LIKE these movies, if in FACT, women are NOT attracted to guys that act like that?????
And then one day it finally HIT me: Even though guys and girls might see the SAME movie, they are actually seeing two TOTALLY DIFFERENT movies.
You see, the truth is that once you GET IT TOTALLY, you actually SEE the full picture.
Let me give you a PERFECT EXAMPLE: The movie "The Notebook".
Women looooooved this movie. And in fact it was written by a guy. And it's actually a pretty well made movie, even for guys, IF you are ALREADY in the KNOW. If you are NOT informed about women and what works, you will NOT get it AT ALL.
If you are a typical good guy, the story seems
to be about some old guy telling this elderly lady
about a story about a guy without much money
who falls for a cute girl from a richer
social class and who REALLY DIG each
other but then end up in a fight.
They split, she moves away and eventually meets some other dude and gets engaged, and the original guy is depressed for years till they meet again and the passion reignites and she realizes HE was the one all along.
We then find out that the old guy and woman
ARE the characters, and that she has
memory loss and he tells her the story every
day till for a few minutes she remembers who
he is, then forgets him all over again.
It breaks him up to see her forget him,
but it's okay, since he loves her.
SO, if you are a good guy, you get all the WRONG lessons:
KISS UP, and pine for a girl for your
whole life, and be willing to give up
EVERYTHING even for a FEW SECONDS of
having a woman REMEMBER you.
And get DEPRESSED and DON'T MOVE
ON properly with any other woman.
And you are taught that this is
ROMANTIC and that womens LIKE
this stuff, and appreciate such
behavior, since after all the movie
was a MASSIVE HIT.
And the movie shows you that if you just
MOPE AROUND LONG ENOUGH,
the WOMAN will come back, she will
be crazy about you, etc.
DISASTROUS, I say.
BUT!
And there's a BIG but here: HOW COME THIS FLICK IS A ONE OF THE BIGGEST BLOCKBUSTERS of all time, especially considering it’s not a big ACTION flick?
How come women get all choked up and
even turned ON from this???
I'll TELL you why: It's because they saw a TOTALLY DIFFERENT MOVIE.
Now, let me tell you the movie they saw, from the perspective of ATTRACTION:
In practically the first couple of MINUTES of this movie, the GUY of the movie shows GUTS, COURAGE, CONVICTION, A SENSE OF HUMOR, AND EVEN SHOWS JUST THE RIGHT TOUCH OF "VULNERABILITY".
Basically, while at the town carnival,
(this story is set during the Second World
War in a small town) he sees this beautiful
girl having the time of her life on the bumper
cars, she seems so totally free and full of
spark. As she gets off the cars and joins
her date for the evening as well as her
girlfriend and the guy she is with,
(so you get the feeling that this is not
something too serious, and more of
a social thing) the guy who is the main
character comes STRAIGHT UP TO HER,
and asks her if she'll dance with him.
He says it relaxed, a confident smile, and NOT like a jerk at all. He is practically in her face, yet his demeanor is so calm, it doesn't seem crazy.
She tells him no.
He calmly says, "Why not?", NOT in an
argumentative way, but in a DISARMING
way. She tries to act like "a lady" that
she is not one to just be "taken" especially
while she is OUT with some dude and
her friends, so she tells him she doesn't
WANT to.
He is TOTALLY unaffected, and smiles as she walks off.
As she goes off with her friends, she
remarks to her girlfriend she can't
BELIEVE the guts the guy had.
She also finds out that this guy is not
NORMALLY like that, so that he
must REALLY like her.
DECODING WHAT ALL THIS MEANS:
He had GUTS.
He had CLASS.
He was not treating her like a slut, because
he ACTUALLY liked her as opposed to
just her being another woman to use and
discard.
He was SPONTANEOUS and acted on
his OWN desire the way he felt was right.
Allow me to continue:
Minutes later, he sees her on the Ferris wheel
as it's about to start. He hurries over to it
and jumps and grabs her car as it begins to
rise, and he sits himself DOWN beside her
and the dude!
He is very straightforward, introducing himself again, giving his name, handshake etc. The woman and the guy think he is nuts.
He wants to know if she'll go out with him.
She says no. He calmly gets out of car as it is WAY UP HIGH now above the ground, hanging on to the rails by his HANDS only. He asks her again, and she says no, but then he lets go of the rails with one arm and is now only hanging on by ONE HAND.
She yells to him that's she'll go out
with him. He tells her to say it again.
He calmly tells her something like, "Don't do me any favors if you don't REALLY want to" and she yells back she "REALLY wants to"!!
So he gives back a COCKY, PLAYFUL
RESPONSE and says "Okay okay, I'll go out with you!"as if SHE begged for it.
Then, as he is hanging there, she tries to
MAKE FUN of him and undoes his
pants so he is hanging on by his arms
and his pants are down with only
his underwear on.
He takes it all IN STRIDE, it all SLIDES
OFF HIS BACK, and he tells her he's
going to get for her it, but you know
he is NOT pissed.
Can you say, "PASSING THE TEST"?
Then, the next day, he sees her walking by
his work and tries to set the date, she tells
him she changed her mind. He doesn't
ARGUE with her, he DISARMS her
by being CHARMING and giving her
a GENUINE compliment that he likes
her.
But REMEMBER, he has already shown VALUE through his behavior and style.
So the COMPLIMENT is FLATTERING.
She then tries to test him again, to see
if he is REALLY serious or not. She tells
him he's a good player. He tells her that's
not it at all, which is the truth, it's not.
At one point, she tells him he's dumb, but you can tell she LIKES him, from her TONALITY. He doesn't ARGUE with her, he even says he can be dumb, it's something he does too as well as dance, etc.
You see, most guys would only focus on what he is saying that is self-deprecating, but they would IGNORE THE REAL STUFF he did that GOT HER ATTRACTED.
They get a low level "double date" where he
goes to see a flick with her, and his buddy
is there as well accompanying her girlfriend.
He CALIBRATES right, because he can tell she is enjoying the movie, and he LIKES THE FACT she is the kind of person who enjoys life. He likes her not just for her body, but for her personality as well.
Then something happens after the flick: He takes her for a walk and DISPLAYS MORE MASSIVE AWESOME PERSONALITY and CONNECTS WITH HER AS WELL.
He READS her correctly, even though she tells him how busy she is with all kinds of "serious" things, and how every second of her day is planned, mostly by her parents, he tells her that it's strange because he always sensed she was FREE.
She says she IS free, but he senses that she
WANTS to be free, she is the kind of person
that really loves doing her own things, but
that she is NOT doing that for most of her
life.
He UNDERSTANDS HER BETTER than she understands herself.
He is giving her the GIFT of greater self
awareness and leading her to the path of
inner peace and feeling better about herself.
And then he does something REALLY GOOD:
He doesn't just TALK, he DEMONSTRATES.
He lies down on the STREET, which is empty and pretty much free of traffic at night in this small town in those days. He chills out and enjoys watching the street light change from red to green etc.
She doesn't want to join him, it's too
socially unacceptable and "crazy".
He tells her that's her problem,
that she's too worried about
what everyone else thinks.
She feels CHALLENGED by this.
HE CHALLENGES HER GENUINELY.
So she joins him, on the ground, looking
up. He also teases her when she asks
what happens if a car comes, playfully
and casually answering with: "We die".
In that moment, as she chills out and just enjoys the colors of the lights changing and TOTALLY chilling out there at night on the street, she has NOW ENTERED HIS WORLD.
She is feeling the peace, the joy of it.
And it is PRICELESS even though it costs
nothing.
Then suddenly, they hear a car SPEEDING so they MAKE A MAD RUSH AWAY FROM THE STREET onto the sidewalk, and she is laughing hysterically, because she HAS NEVER HAD SO MUCH FUN IN HER LIFE.
From here he offers her to dance again, right
there on the street, and they do, and it's
the perfect time for real physical contact.
ATTRACTION has been earned. RESPECT has been earned. CONNECTION has been achieved. He has STOOD OUT.
And it was all done in a NATURAL WAY. No manipulation.
THIS is the kind of stuff that WOMEN are seeing in the movie.
And the movie is EMOTIONALLY true as well, because the dude is not perfect.
He screws up when he LOSES HIS OWN SELF-ESTEEM when he repeatedly hears how OTHERS in her social circle look DOWN on him, including her mom, the family, the family friends, etc.
Even though SHE STANDS UP FOR HIM,
it's not enough for him, because
HE HAS ALLOWED HIMSELF TO BE AFFECTED
BY THEIR STATEMENTS and this has made
him FEEL UNWORTHY of her. He can't stand
to FEEL like HE may be holding her back
from being as great in her social setting
as she could be without him. (This is
his own massive error in thinking,
the result of his damaged self-esteem).
He can't stand to see her parents yelling at her because of HIM. He feels UNWORTHY of her, as if there is no way on Earth she could want to be with him if it means all this stress for her.
So HE breaks up with her.
And yet, she gets PISSED at him for wanting to break up with her. She tries to convince him not to worry about what others think, that they can make it, but he is TOO WEAK to LEAD THE SHOW OF HIS OWN LIFE, AND THIS SERIOUSLY PISSES HER OFF even though she is sad at the same time.
It pisses her off that HE doesn't believe strongly enough in the GREAT TIMES that they had and that they can CONTINUE to have it.
The EMOTIONAL TRUTH of this is OVERWHELMINGLY ACCURATE.
The biggest enemy most guys have is THEMSELVES.
Well, I'm not going to go into the ENTIRE movie here, but let me just say that the way they DO end up back together is only AFTER he does the SAME THING that got HER into him in the FIRST PLACE: by being THE MAN.
When he first met her, he was operating from
an INTERNAL PLACE OF GOOD VIBES
and a place of EMOTIONAL ABUNDANCE.
He LIKED HER, he wasn't NEEDY FOR HER.
In fact, he ENCOURAGED HER TO ENJOY
LIFE BEING HERSELF.
By encouraging greater INDEPENDENCE in her, she FLEW FASTER TO HIM.
And it wasn't like he was doing this to be MANIPULATIVE, it was because he LIKED her personality, it was about the JOY for life he saw she had deep in her that needed to get out and be free.
And in the end, he does this again, in a
more INTENSE way, when he tells her
regarding her confusion over what to
do, since in her own words the other
guy is a "good man" too, he tells her
to do for once what SHE feels, not
what her PARENTS feel, not what
HE feels, not what the other guy
feels. He practically YELLS at
her. Once again, this is a guy who
is NOT desperate to have a woman.
A woman can only be with him if HE likes her and if SHE really WANTS to be there. And also, he really IS the kind of guy who believes in being FREE to do what you really believe.
So his words are CONGRUENT
with his personality and actions.
They thus have MAXIMUM EMOTIONAL
IMPACT.
And he DOES get her back. But really, that's not the point, the point is HIS IDENTITY, the kind of PERSON he is.
So ALL THE ABOVE ELEMENTS that I've discussed are what must happen in the REAL WORLD as well for a guy to get RESULTS with QUALITY women. I'm not saying the exact same EXAMPLES have to happen, but the exact same PRINCIPLES must be there:
The bringing her into YOUR world, the enriching HER life, the desire without the neediness, the connection, challenging her in a genuine yet heartfelt and good way, the ability to walk away, the true level of understanding her world as good or better than she does herself, and ALL the other elements above as well.
Some of that is very advanced stuff.
And ALL THOSE EMOTIONS are what women emotionally get ADDICTED to.
It's UNCONSCIOUS. It's INSTINCTIVE. It's NATURAL.
It's not cerebral; women do NOT go around articulating it.
It's totally something they feel
emotionally and immediately
and NOT consciously or
in a cerebral way.
And the emotions are true to life; it all makes perfect sense. In fact, women had no choice. It was HARDWIRED that they would love this flick.
These are the kinds of things that are created in
women when they watch the flick: The emotions
of ROMANCE, TEARS, PASSION, AND THE
TORRID SEXY LOVE SCENE when they reunite.
And you can APPLY ALL THESE THINGS TO YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN AS WELL! What you've just read is a GLIMPSE into a whole different UNIVERSE that no one else on EARTH is giving you. It's the FULL TRUTH on the EMOTIONAL DYNAMICS OF ATTRACTION:
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