My inbox has been FLOODING with questions and
comments, so let's get this party started!
Big fan here. Just been reading your articles,
and absorbing some of your ideas. I love the
notion of igniting certain emotions in women,
even though I am STILL trying to get over the
fact that physical looks plays second fiddle
to what emotions you create in women, and how
you make them FEEL.
Just years and years of brainwashing and
certain beliefs I've formed because of
society/media that I'm trying to overcome.
You know how that goes.
Anyway, I was wondering if you could take
some time to tell me a quick story from
YOUR personal experience about a woman
you attracted that really.....either made
you FINALLY realize (or it just drove home
the point) just how powerful igniting
intense feelings and emotions in women
can really do. Maybe not even from your
life, maybe a very memorable moment from
one of your students where you saw a
beautiful woman get so attracted, she
acted in a way that even surprised you.
You don't have to give an exact play by play
of the moment, but details would be nice:)
I'd love to hear from some of your very
memorable moments in attracting women.
Thanks for the kind words. Regarding your
first point on "trying to get over the
fact that physical looks plays second fiddle
to what emotions you create in women, and how
you make them FEEL" --yes, and sometimes I
think the biggest problem is that guys
cannot get themselves to BELIEVE this
It reminds me of a scene in The Empire
Strikes Back where Luke is trying to
use the Force to raise his X-Wing fighter
out of the mud, and eventually gives up,
saying that it's too big.
Yoda, this little old green creature,
then calmly uses the Force and raises
the spacecraft smoothly out of the mud.
Luke says "I can't believe it", to which
Yoda replies: "That is why you fail."
This is what puts men into a situation
known as "learned helplessness", which
is actually something ANOTHER reader wrote
in to me about, which you will see hopefully
in another newsletter, and is another
super-important topic you will find
dealt with in my new book.
The IGNITING of emotions really IS the
LESSON NUMBER ONE
One of the biggest lessons in my life came
when I had reached the end of my patience
in a long-term relationship with a woman
who was abusive to me for four years.
I had tried every book on relationships,
every tactic on the planet that was
out there, trying so hard to be good,
because I genuinely thought that women
just wanted nice guys, and also this
woman kept saying she did not want to
break up, but she never had time for me,
never a kind word to say, never showed
respect, couldn't even get a birthday
card on my birthday- she had to send her
mom out to take care of that stuff.
And in public she wouldn't even admit
she was my girlfriend to most people
except her closest friends.
And she was always busy with HERSELF.
How to get more PERSONAL FINANCIAL SUCCESS
So after trying EVERYTHING else, I finally
embraced the fact that I would rather be
single and alone than be with her and
get my self-esteem beaten down one more
It was not a "tactic" to get her back.
It was not an ultimatum.
It was real. I meant every bit of it.
And I was not angry-not one bit.
Sad, possibly scared I would never
meet anyone else, but not angry.
And the response from her at first was
"MAJORLY PISSED OFF".
Notice, it wasn't sadness on her part.
It was more like, "How DARE you attempt
to gain back some DIGNITY for yourself?
You're going to STAY with me, because
I am the one in CONTROL of EVERYTHING!"
That lasted for about two or three days.
That was followed by the most INTENSE displays of
EFFORT on her part to win me back. Suddenly,
every single thing she hadn't done in four
YEARS of taking me TOTALLY FOR GRANTED
she was now able to do.
She had tons of time to spend with me.
She got me gifts.
I couldn't even find a way to ESCAPE her.
She would pop up at the gym at any hour
I happened to be there. I could be there
at 4 in the morning, and she would show up.
This was a huge lesson to me; as it taught me
that a woman's behavior could change DRASTICALLY
as a result of your OWN behavior.
But it took even MORE YEARS for me to realize
WHY this worked so well.
It was because of the EMOTIONS I had stirred in
her by ENDING the relationship. She suddenly felt
more DRAMA with me than she had EVER felt before.
There was urgency, excitement, challenge,
pride, jealousy, fear, love, anger, arousal,
ALL AT ONCE.
Me being there at her beck and call and being
absolutely totally devoted to her and the relationship
above all else for four years did NOTHING emotionally
But THIS, this did EVERYTHING.
So, while emotions are powerful for both men and
women, they are MORE POWERFUL on women when it
comes to the area of ATTRACTION to the opposite
This is also something that some men EXPLOIT
and why some men ABUSE women, including
It's also the reason I have worked so hard to
create a system for attracting women that
draws on HARD-WIRED FEMALE PSYCHOLOGY
while NOT being abusive in the slightest.
In today's feminist society, men, ESPECIALLY
MEN THAT ARE HONEST AND WANT TO TREAT WOMEN WELL,
they NEED to have my book in order to succeed
at attracting women.
Getting back to the real-life example above,
my SITUATION hadn't changed. I didn't get
better looking, I didn't make more money,
I only changed my BEHAVIORS.
LESSON NUMBER TWO
After that relationship, the rose-colored glasses
perception that I USED to have about all women
just wanting men that would treat them great
and be loyal, etc, etc, was GONE.
So I would be far more RUTHLESS when dating.
I remember the first time I saw the impact of this
on a new woman. She was a Slavic gorgeous creature
that easily would put most models to shame.
I saw her at the gym, and started making FUN
of her for the light weights she was using.
She didn't get angry, she just immediately
started smiling, giggling, and asking me
questions on how to do things right.
So that was a shocker. She was HAPPY
and GIGGLY and FEMININE and more OPEN
to me AFTER I had shown her the OPPOSITE
of everything feminists kept telling men
on how to treat women.
I also remember saying out loud to some guy
that I could tell everything about a woman's
personality in about 30 SECONDS of hearing her
And I noticed her EYES GO WIDE when
I said this.
I suggested to her on my way out that she
go home with me. Not home as in "to bed"
but that she take a ride home from me
instead of what she was going to do,
which was to walk home.
I didn't ASK. I just SUGGESTED and didn't
do it with a smile.
And she IMMEDIATELY agreed.
By the way, she was not only gorgeous, she
was EXTREMELY INTELLIGENT, almost like the
cliche of those Bond film women from
Eastern Europe who are super-intelligent
and also super beautiful.
In the car, I suggested we meet up for a
game of pool that night. Which was funny
because I hardly even play. She agreed,
and later that night, when she pulled out
a cigarette, I immediately told her that
things would not work out between us.
I was calm, I just had no desire for a
smoking woman in my life. I had nothing
against her; she may have been a SAINT.
I just knew that I didn't want a woman who smoked.
She kept on INSISTING that I give her a chance,
and she kept on asking why I felt things wouldn't work.
I didn't even tell her, because I truly was not
needy for her approval, and truly didn't want her
to attempt to quit just for me, or to try to convince
me why I should give her a chance.
In the car ride home, she wrote down her number
and kept INSISTING that I give her a chance.
She would not take no for an answer!!!
Now, what blew my mind was how this woman who was
INSANELY GORGEOUS, was begging for me to give her
a chance, and I had done NOTHING to earn this special
treatment. Meanwhile, when I had TORTURED MYSELF
to do nothing but GIVE AND GIVE AND SHOW MASSIVE
RESPECT to a woman, I couldn't get her to find
the time or energy or desire to give ANYTHING
So that was a big lesson.
This one happened in a bootcamp.
An attractive young woman was waiting for
the train at the subway station and I
mentioned to my client that he might
want to apply what he had been learning
earlier in terms of approaches for this
He asked for me to demonstrate, so I
approached her using all the detailed
concepts I speak about, but my main point
here is not to focus on me or that but
rather to focus on what happened.
She seemed to be a bit nervous, and
it can be a bit intimidating sometimes
when two guys are so close to one woman
depending on the time of day, the amount
of other people there, etc.
Anyway, she was slowly getting more into the
conversation, laughing, but I could tell she
was still a bit uncomfortable, so I made it
clear that I was not there to take advantage
of the situation where she was by herself, and
I let her walk in the train as she was still
smiling, and I did not follow her.
As my client and I got in the train, I sat down
beside this other attractive woman, totally laid
back and began a conversation with her, again
using all the principles I speak about.
Now this girl was totally relaxed with it,
smiling and laughing and having a great time.
Well guess what happened next?
Suddenly, from HALFWAY ACROSS THE TRAIN,
the original woman from the subway platform
starts leaning in toward us from her seat
and joins in the conversation, giving her
opinion about something I had been talking
to her about five minutes earlier!
Normally that would have been a dead
conversation by now. But no, there she is,
smiling and speaking loudly as if we had
never stopped chatting, even though the
whole train could probably hear her. And
trust me, she was not some psycho. She
had just gone from being a shy slightly
nervous woman to wanting to GET WITH
Pretty soon, we had both women in conversation
with us, competing playfully for our attention,
going from complete strangers to discussing
things like who would be the better girl to
marry depending on which girl was a better
cook and had more money or ambition and was
better with kids had the better education
and who was just more fun to hang with. LOL.
ALL BECAUSE SHE SAW THAT WE
WERE NOT TAKING ADVANTAGE OF
HER, THAT WE WERE NOT DESPERATE,
AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, THAT
ANOTHER WOMAN THOUGHT WE
WERE COOL AND FUN TO BE WITH.
This is the power that comes from both
YOU knowing that you have choices, and
from WOMEN knowing that you have choices.
In the example above, by seeing another
woman feel comfortable and trusting us and
having a great time, the original woman felt
a SURGE in all those emotions of attraction
And by the way, if getting two women who are
total strangers not only to you but to each
other, can all be having a great time with you
within 5 minutes, think about what can be done
in a longer time frame in malls, bookstores,
Also, don't get the wrong idea here, as
this concept actually goes FURTHER than
the "social proof" concept, and in a nutshell,
SOCIAL PROOF means that an individual will be
INFLUENCED by the feelings and opinions of OTHERS.
The truth is that if you are TRULY CERTAIN
OF YOUR DESIRABILITY, then you give off what I call
"IMPLIED SOCIAL PROOF". A woman subconsciously
feels that there is no way you can be this
confident unless OTHERS feel this way too
about your desirability.
This one also comes from bootcamp.
My student and I were at a patio lounge
and he had his eye on two women chatting
with each other.
We were on a patio on the roof of the club,
and these two knockouts were there, and I
started chatting with one of the girls
and the other girl starts saying “It’s
my friend’s birthday and we’re supposed
to just spend time together”, etc., etc.
And I just playfully kept it going, NEVER
getting SERIOUS even ONCE, because I knew
that in this environment, playful is easy
and key, even though her friend INSISTED
that this girl would NOT talk to me.
I don't remember all the details but I
think my remarks including everything from how
one should not be deprived of joy on their
birthday, especially when that joy included
getting to be in my presence, how I just
wanted to spread the party vibe and how her
friend deserved to get the very best on her
Finally, after about FOUR MINUTES of
me not giving in, the ‘birthday girl’ who
was not supposed to talk to me, ended
up actually breaking free from her friend
and her first words were:
“Oh my god! You’re so RUDE!!!
I LOVE IT!"
And she comes OVER and embraces me!!
She left her friend in the DUST!
Needless to say, there was no competition
after that. How many guys would gladly
EMBRACE so much resistance????
The trick is to EMBRACE it all and have
MORE fun with that than if it was going
By the way, this has nothing to do with
ME- ANY GUY CAN DO THIS ONCE HE
“GETS” WHAT’S GOING ON IN THE
INDIVIDUAL SITUATION WITH THESE
This one really takes the cake.
One student of mine who got so good at this
stuff came back for a second and third bootcamp,
each time taking things to new levels.
And on the third bootcamp, the goal was
to focus on simply WILLING things into
reality. What I mean by this, is saying
and doing anything, and having it all
TOTALLY ACCEPTED AND WANTED by women.
So, we were in a bookstore. He walked
RIGHT UP to a beautiful woman, and TOLD
her to give him her palm.
He did NOT do the whole serious palm reading thing.
He turned it into a playful thing, saying how
one line on her palm was a ROAD, and that SNOOPY
was crossing the road, and all sorts of other
Now, here I am, the INSTRUCTOR, and I myself
am being blown away by what happens next.
Not only is she SUPER-RELAXED about this TOTAL
STRANGER walking up to her out of NOWHERE
and then GIVING HIM HER HAND to hold in what
is clearly NOT a SERIOUS palm-reading, and
she is TOTALLY COOL with it, but he then
makes ZERO SMOOTH OF A TRANSITION TO
TELLING HER TO GIVE HIM HER NUMBER.
She writes down her number IMMEDIATELY.
Her eyes are so glazed over with desire, she
truly appears HYPNOTIZED.
He could have kept her there FOREVER.
She was SMITTEN.
She was hanging on his every word.
But all he was talking about was SNOOPY.
This was NOT hypnosis.
This was a man totally CONGRUENT with being with a woman.
This is one of the biggest things that most
guys never comprehend, which is how the
most powerful things you can do regarding
attraction are SUBTLE. So subtle that most
people can't even SEE what you DID to
attract the woman.
And THAT, if anything, was the "hypnosis".
She was so compelled by her attraction,
NOTHING else mattered.
And just to show this was GENUINE ATTRACTION,
he had SIMILAR events occur to him throughout
the ENTIRE bootcamp.
What this showed me was how so much of this
is in the DEEPEST RECESSES of your MIND.
Even the whole idea of transitioning from
normal talk is also NOT EVEN REALLY REQUIRED,
you can do pretty much ANYTHING when you
are feeling CONGRUENT about it, meaning that
you don't feel conflicted or weird about it.
And by the way, he did so well that he ended
up meeting an amazing woman not long after, and
I just found out some incredible news from him
that he has had a baby boy with her!
And I now realize that there are TONS and TONS
and TONS more examples of massive things that
I witnessed that taught me so much, but I could
end up writing an entire BOOK here instead of
Well, it looks like those other letters that came
in will have to wait, as I ended up going way overboard
on this letter, but it was such a great question
I couldn't help it!
And if you are reading this right now and would like
to SKYROCKET your success with women, then I suggest
you take my bootcamp.
For some of you, that may mean a trip. I realize that.
Think of the PERMANENT ADVANTAGE TO YOUR ENTIRE LIFE
though that you will have a result of taking bootcamp
with me. You will LEARN how to ATTRACT women, ANYWHERE.
Having the right woman in your life MOTIVATES you.
It changes everything. From how you feel about your day,
your job, your challenges, EVERYTHING.
And I take you very seriously. Each bootcamp is completely
exclusive, and thus TRULY it is ONE ON ONE, for the entire
program. The program is customized to your needs.
You will graduate this program with the skills you
need to attract women and have the power of choice
when it comes to women.
How many more days, weeks, months, even YEARS are you
going to let PASS YOU BY until you finally make the
decision to GET THIS PART OF YOUR LIFE MASTERED?
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Till next time,
Sunday, May 1, 2016
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